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Won't wear his hearing-aid

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eddiecat78 Thu 08-May-25 12:35:46

Is it just you he won't talk to or is he having problems chatting to everyone?
I swear my OH talks more quietly to me than anyone else!

ExDancer Thu 08-May-25 12:16:57

He's had his aid for about 18 months.
They linked it to his phone and he can adjust it as well as take phone messages and speak to people. It may sing and dance for all I know, he didn't explain it very well, but now says it doesn't work and there's no point in using it.
Its much more up to date than mine.
I know you need to persist and wear them continually, especially in the early stages. I think he's still hearing everything and hasn't got used to filtering out background noise. It took me some time to learn to mine, which I've had several years.
Perhaps he'd do better with an old type without the extras. I'll try to get him to go back to his GP, but don't have much hope. He'll listen to me, not answer and do nothing.
But I'll try.

loopyloo Thu 08-May-25 11:43:54

I have found a free app called Live transcribe that shows what you are saying.
Not perfect but find it very useful.
The newer nhs hearing aids are better.

loopyloo Thu 08-May-25 11:40:54

You have all my sympathy.
Deafness is really difficult to live with.
How long has he had that hearing aid? Or since he has his ears tested?

ExDancer Thu 08-May-25 11:18:49

My, not very talkative, husband has stopped speaking to me. He comes home, sits down, and picks up his newspaper or switches the TV on - and never utters a syllable.
I usually say something like 'anything interesting happening out there?' or 'what have you been up to this morning?' but he ignores me totally and continues to read the paper, etc.
If I say anything about his non-responsivness he still ignores me, and when I persist he gets annoyed and says I have a soft voice and no-one can hear me so what do I expect.
Suggesting he wears his hearing-aid sends him into a real huff and usually results in him walking out into the garden or retreating to the bathroom. (you can't "sit him down and discuss it" if he walks away so please don't suggest that.) I do try to speak loudly but it makes me sound cross.
Do I just ignore him?
He's 86 and retired.