I have a good relationship with my DD- who lives a fair distance away so we see each other about every two months or so.
In between we have developed a routine of talking on the phone twice a week usually once in the week she rings me and then at the weekend I ring her. We've been doing this for a couple of years.
Recently she told me that I am the only person she speaks to on the phone- she is far more used to texting and sometimes we text each other for practical purposes too, but the messages are short and to the point.
I have always enjoyed chatting to people on the phone, and will choose it over texting as you get the information you need much more quickly but I also enjoy having conversations.
However, I have noticed a tendency in my DD to seem as if talking on the phone to me is becoming more of a chore. I know she is busy but after some recent exchanges I do feel as if she doesn't really want to talk that much and sometimes the conversations are strained. I usually end the call and feel uneasy, as I have done today.
It feels as if she doesn't want to be bothered and it is making me wonder if I should just wait until she rings me once a week. Today I mentioned something she admitted to knowing nothing about, as if I should have told her before, but the calls are often not long enough for me to tell her all the family news etc and I don't want her to feel left out.
I'm just wondering if she would rather send text messages even though I never use them for conversations?
Do others use texting for long exchanges or should I just stick to my phone calls and ignore what is becoming an attitude?
I'm aware this is long and possibly trivial but I don't want to stress her out if she's finding these phone calls difficult.
Any advice here appreciated thanks.
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