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Does she like me?

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crazyH Sun 06-Jul-25 13:26:20

She seems to like you CROCKET1984 - age is just a number - good luck!

Ziggy62 Sun 06-Jul-25 09:08:44

Granmarderby10

Why do some people on GN feel the need to react to duplicate threads with such irrational and curt and frankly sometimes hostile replies when someone commits a minor “transgression” either by accident or incompetence?

Does it actually matter to you personally and why not respond first to the subject of the OP first before jumping to criticism.

Totally agree

Paulcollins Sun 06-Jul-25 08:43:36

Hi OP,
It sounds like you have a really close and meaningful friendship — and her sharing that dream with you, followed by the comment “If the thought ever entered your mind, you know my response” definitely hints at something more than casual friendship.

While it’s not “irrefutable proof” in a scientific sense, it is a pretty strong indicator that she’s open to something deeper if you are. That kind of statement usually doesn’t come out of nowhere — especially from someone mature who values clarity.

If you’re comfortable, you could gently follow up with her and say something like, “I’ve been thinking about what you said the other day. Did you mean it as a joke, or were you serious?” — and see how she responds.

Best of luck, and well done for reaching out — navigating emotions is tough for anyone, autistic or not.

CROCKETT1984 Sun 06-Jul-25 08:32:28

Doodledog

When you say you are autistic, do you mean that you struggle with reading tone? If so, there is a possibility that she was being ironic, and meant that you should know that hr response would be negative, possibly because of the age gap. You are at different life stages, and she might assume that you would be relieved to know that she sees you as a friend.

Realistically, the best thing you can do might be to ask her for clarification.

She told me this in a private message. Here's some info that mght help. Our friendship is very close and affectionate. We'll freely say "I love you" and things like that. And I'm sure she knows that I find her attractive.

Doodledog Sat 05-Jul-25 21:30:48

When you say you are autistic, do you mean that you struggle with reading tone? If so, there is a possibility that she was being ironic, and meant that you should know that hr response would be negative, possibly because of the age gap. You are at different life stages, and she might assume that you would be relieved to know that she sees you as a friend.

Realistically, the best thing you can do might be to ask her for clarification.

Granmarderby10 Sat 05-Jul-25 21:23:28

Why do some people on GN feel the need to react to duplicate threads with such irrational and curt and frankly sometimes hostile replies when someone commits a minor “transgression” either by accident or incompetence?

Does it actually matter to you personally and why not respond first to the subject of the OP first before jumping to criticism.

BlueBelle Sat 05-Jul-25 20:58:01

No

CROCKETT1984 Sat 05-Jul-25 20:27:28

BlueBelle

It’s not a policy just not needed

OK, OK. Do you have an opinion regarding my question?

BlueBelle Sat 05-Jul-25 20:23:36

It’s not a policy just not needed

CROCKETT1984 Sat 05-Jul-25 19:55:56

Sorry, I didn't know that was policy. I'll get around to that.

Charleygirl5 Sat 05-Jul-25 19:52:14

Please, you started an earlier thread on this subject, we only need one. Please request that this be removed.

CROCKETT1984 Sat 05-Jul-25 18:45:41

35-year-old autistic male here.

Quite recently a very good friend of mine (57-year-old non-autistic female) told me that she had a dream in which I asked her to marry me and she accepted.

She said afterwards, "If the thought ever entered your mind, you know my response."

Would you all call this definite, irrefutable proof that she likes me in that way?

I'm just looking for opinions.