Adult kids trying to run our lives

I'm sorry to hear of your husband's fall and the extra care that will require. You don't say whether the house is his or you are both joint owners. My husband and I are both joint tenants which means DH, or my share, is safeguarded as per terms of my Will. This gives some security. If his kids are making noises about selling you need to know where you stand financially. Sorry to raise money at this time but both of you need security and control over your own affairs without interference.

Totally agree NotSpaghetti that’s really important if not already done

And make sure you have both health and financial Lasting Powers of Attorney for each other!

Could just be a knee-jerk reaction, in any case unless neither of you are of sound mind and diagnosed as such they can just back off. Tell them nicely but firmly that nothing is being decided about your home and right now your priority is your husband whom you are sure will recover much better in familiar surroundings.
And leave it at that.
Your home, your lives, your decision.

I'm an active, healthy 71 and to be honest I feel more annoyed they dont consider this mostly because they seemed to think my H makes all the decisions. Far from it. And yes, without a doubt the decisions we make together but he mostly gives me the final decision to make because I truly think he trusts me in that regard. I'm not concerned about. I am just hurt by not being part of their consideration. I've taken personal inventory of my capabilities and if I have issues I am unaware of, no one has pointed them out.

Hello, are you new to gn? If so welcome.

Tell them you’re fine and don’ tell them about any bumps knocks or anything that isn’t a complete emergency in the future and stay where you want to be living It’s your life not theirs

Depends on your age and how well you are managing.
Good that they took notice of your husband's fall and came up to see you with suggestions; you do not have to follow them.

Well said SueDonim.
Sorry you have to put up with this staggering ageism 2Understand.

I'm sure all the kids think they are
helping but it isn't for them to dictate your future.

I hope it isn't the vultures circling but you could be forgiven for suspecting it is.

Thank them for their interest and that they’ve raised some points to consider. Then tell them you’ll certainly give the ideas some thought before dismissing them out of hand.