I recently retired a few months ago and was genuinely excited about being able to finally have time to go out with my OH on day trips or grab a cup of coffee in a nice cafe, nothing extravagant but just something nice to look forward to. My OH however has rejected every suggestion I’ve made, he doesn’t see the point in going out for a coffee when he can make one at home for free. I’ve said let’s just go for a nice drive out then… ‘No, I don’t fancy that’ is his reply. In the last two weeks, the only place I’ve been to is one trip to our local Asda to get the food shop. Husband sat in the car in the car park while I dashed around getting the shopping, it took me 20 minutes to get in and out.
He barely communicates, rarely makes eye contact. Expects me to cook his evening meal and call out when it’s on the table. He eats it, with no conversation in between, then gets up when he’s finished, leaving me to wash and dry the dishes . He goes to his room (we have separate bedrooms) at 7.30pm and I don’t see him until 8.30am, where he’s sitting at the kitchen table, with the news channel blaring on the tv. Again, no conversation unless I instigate it.
I’m presently sitting on my bed reading, while he’s downstairs messing about with our old vacuum cleaner trying to get it to work. It died last month after ten years service. Which has now got me thinking… is this it? Is this what the next chapter of my life looks like? Will I have to live like a single woman, even though I’m married? Are any of you experiencing this from your OH’s?
