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Do you remember the proposal?

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Daddima Wed 03-Sept-25 16:57:00

Just watching Downton Abbey (again) and Lady Mary insisting Matthew do the whole ‘down on one knee’ thing, when I realised I have no recollection of the Bodach proposing to me!
I remember going to McGowan’s in Argyll Arcade to buy the ring, and going to the bank to open a joint account ( for the ‘saving up to get married’). but otherwise, nothing.
What about you?

paddyann54 Wed 03-Sept-25 17:00:53

That’s where my engagement and wedding rings were bought in 1974 Daddima .No proposal just a should get married ,and we did A year to the day from our first date.

paddyann54 Wed 03-Sept-25 17:02:20

Just a remark that we should get married.

Marydoll Wed 03-Sept-25 17:07:40

Under a lamp post outside my parents' house.
DH was under the weather 🍺 and said. I will dance at your wedding..
I asked why. I'm going to marry you, he said. That was it.
My engagement ring was bought in Saul Bercot's in Argyll Arcade.
Some of my husband's staff had followed him from the office, to Boots Corner, because they suspected he was up to something.

Marydoll Wed 03-Sept-25 17:08:27

Nice to see you posting, paddyann.

GrannyGravy13 Wed 03-Sept-25 17:09:27

We had facing desks in our office, in mid June going through our diaries found Friday 13th free for the both of us along with the following week for a honeymoon we agreed to get married. Not romantic, but it worked for us.

(after a meeting with our accountant who in no uncertain terms said we really should get married for tax purposes and for our (then) four children)

petra Wed 03-Sept-25 17:12:36

Marydoll

Nice to see you posting, paddyann.

And you, MaryDoll 😊

Grammaretto Wed 03-Sept-25 17:13:51

My Scottish boyfriend suggested, while we were driving in London, I think, that we went to Scotland at Easter and get married there. It came as a surprise. We hadn't known eachother very long.

It was February. We did marry that Easter but in London. We came to live in Scotland 6 years and 2 DC later.

Lollin Wed 03-Sept-25 17:19:08

Oh yes I remember it well.

Ladyleftfieldlover Wed 03-Sept-25 17:19:36

A mixture of romantic and unromantic!
OH had been on a diving course in Plymouth. He was hoping to be offered a two year stint in Seychelles as a Junior Resident Engineer. We had been living together for a year. If I went with him as a single woman the company wouldn’t pay. So, on his return from the course, OH asked me to marry him. This was 1 May. We bought an engagement ring and paid half each. On May 29 we were married - OH bought the wedding ring. In early June we flew to Seychelles.

petra Wed 03-Sept-25 17:21:45

My ex husband proposed on our first date. In fairness we had worked closely for 2 years.
We married 6 weeks later. The marriage lasted 10 years.
He went onto marry 4 more women after me.
Me and our daughter numbered them, it was easier than remembering their names 😂
I’ve been my partner 46 years.

AskAlice Wed 03-Sept-25 17:22:37

No proposal, just a casual remark "This is daft, we should get married" in the bar at work one day (yes, the building had its own bar and several restuarants/cafes!) This was two months after we met, and we married three months later...

That casual remark was followed by another one about half an hour later - "Do you want me to buy you a ring?" Stupidly, I declined!

Grandmabatty Wed 03-Sept-25 17:34:04

My ex husband and I agreed together that we would get married. Daddima my engagement ring was from McGowan's in the Argyll Arcade too! It cost £50 on a special deal (we were both still students).

Isthepopecatholic Wed 03-Sept-25 17:38:10

Sitting on a sea wall, rolling a ciggie.

grumppa Wed 03-Sept-25 17:38:17

In an old pub, now a private house, near Epping Forest, with a floor that did not lend itself to going down on one knee, I popped the question and proposed a date. DW to be spotted a ring she liked a couple of days later, and that was that. Fifty-one years' marriage, and I am now a widower.

ViceVersa Wed 03-Sept-25 17:43:07

We climbed up to the top of the Scott Monument in Edinburgh, and when we got there, he proposed!

Allira Wed 03-Sept-25 17:48:38

"If we get married before I go away, we'll get a married quarter" 😁 We went together to buy the ring and I did suggest a more romantic proposal would be good so he obliged on a grey, windy day overlooking the sea.

Greenfinch Wed 03-Sept-25 17:55:38

No recollection whatsoever.

BlueSapphire Wed 03-Sept-25 17:57:29

We were in a Chinese grocery store in Singapore getting a few things.
I said, "This feels like being an old married couple!"
He said, "Should we be?"

We had been going out for about 6 weeks.
Happily together for 49 years, married for 46.

Babs03 Wed 03-Sept-25 18:06:51

We were in Blackpool and my DH said let’s get married, I said something like ok.
We may have been eating chips at the time.

M0nica Wed 03-Sept-25 18:11:12

We had both been skirting the issue for sometime, and then we agreed it. I can rmemeber it was in my bedsit, but that is about all.

I thought we were odd in reaching the marriage decision in such an offhand way. I am delighted to find that I am one of many.

Blinko Wed 03-Sept-25 18:18:56

We'd been going out a fortnight. we were waiting for a bus to take me home. He asked me and I said yes....that was fifty nine years ago this month. We've been married for nearly 57 years now.

Babs03 Wed 03-Sept-25 18:20:04

Perhaps the big showy proposal came into fashion at about the same time as social media became popular.

Jaxjacky Wed 03-Sept-25 18:42:27

I said one evening we ought to get married for tax purposes, MrJ said ok, a few months later we did, that was nearly 18 years ago.

Greyduster Wed 03-Sept-25 18:54:38

He was due to be posted. I was due to be posted. The prospect of a long distance relationship was tearing us both to pieces, so one night, in the pouring rain, he proposed and I said yes. We got married, I gave up my posting and joined him on his and we lasted 56 years until death did us part.