´blind’ date

Notjustaprettyface

You don't say if you're male or female.

If the former, I think that maybe you shouldn't be entertaining a lady whom you know is married.
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BlueBelle

4allweknow

You are meeting with a married woman. The relationship, if any, will be as a friend. If you have an instant dislike to her a simple it was good to meet you and have an opportunity to speak french over a coffee. Must go, family commitments, they take precedence over having friends afraid.

4Allweknow how do you know she’s meeting a married women so far the only communication she’s had is a nice text after giving her phone number to a complete male stranger !!!

He's not a complete male stranger, he's a grandparent who she was chatting to at their grandchildrens' playgroup.

You're meeting in public and it doesn't sound at all strange to me - maybe friend's wife has mentioned to him how nice it is to meet another native french speaker sometimes & he was being kind.

I know we have to be vigilant in these social media days but if it was 30 years ago, would this have sounded suspicious to you?Metting at a coffee shop in the v remote possibility she's not who you've been led to expect, just go to the counter & explain - nothing unsafe about it.

Go & see how much you've got in common, don't feel rude if you don't want to meet again, don't feel pushy if you do - good advice on the social cues from other posters.

I make and sell artwork - I give random strangers my phone number all the time! I deliver artwork to people’s houses too, go to stranger’s houses to collect stuff from Freegle and give other Freeglers my address for collection!

I don’t think I consider it strange, as for decades I gave out my business cards complete with my phone number. This sounds like a rather over enthusiastic bloke trying to help a friend - perhaps she has mentioned the fact that she never gets to speak to anyone that she shares a background with?

You know exactly how to find this person in the very unlikely event that you need to. You know that at least you’ll have something to talk about - in French!

Do let us know what happens. If you survive!

I do agree it's not advisable to hand out your phone number to a stranger and just because he was at a playgroup doesn't make it a safe bet. In this instance perhaps he knows that the wife concerned missed speaking to fellow French people and so took advantage of the situation. I would happily go along to meet her and hope you enjoy talking to her. If you get along tell her you enjoyed meeting and ask if she wanted a repeat performance. If you don't get along then just say it was nice to meet you with no mention of anything further. No problem.

I think I must read too many crime books and tv series, no way would I give a random man my phone number

4allweknow

You are meeting with a married woman. The relationship, if any, will be as a friend. If you have an instant dislike to her a simple it was good to meet you and have an opportunity to speak french over a coffee. Must go, family commitments, they take precedence over having friends afraid.

4Allweknow how do you know she’s meeting a married women so far the only communication she’s had is a nice text after giving her phone number to a complete male stranger !!!

Notjustaprettyface

Astitchintime
I think I am a very trusting sort of person
The man is ok , he was as a playgroup
I don’t think there was anything sinister

I was looking after a patient some years ago……..seemed a genuinely nice man, chatty and pleasant…….didn’t stop him sexually assaulting me

Be very careful. Meet at a busy coffee shop in the middle of the day. Tell a relative where you are going! Etc!

Are you a man or a woman? If meeting a man be sure to meet in a busy safe environment.

You are meeting with a married woman. The relationship, if any, will be as a friend. If you have an instant dislike to her a simple it was good to meet you and have an opportunity to speak french over a coffee. Must go, family commitments, they take precedence over having friends afraid.

Just relax and have a coffee with this lady. Nothing has to be planned, play it by ear. If you both enjoy each other’s company, then it will be obvious and you can arrange to do it again. Simple!

If you are meeting for coffee there shouldn’t be a problem.
If it were me I would go and see how you get on. My mum was ‘foreign’ and was always happy she had a few friends who came from her country. They always had a special bond .
It’s only a coffee.
I once talked to a Woman on a railway platform who was the same nationality as my mum. They met up amd were friends for the rest of their lives. Serendipity .

Okay .
Take it as a compliment.
Fine to meet for coffee.
If it goes well invite her for a lunch.
Later a dinner ...

Tell a trusted friend where you are going and they can check you are home .
Avoid giving out any personal details and going to your house !
Just be very cautious .
There is no rush .
A old friend introduced me to one of her clients .
She used to run a letting agency.
I would never introduce a friend to someone who was asked vacate a house for non payment of rent but I didn't know that !
This man was charming at first .
Marriage was mooted within weeks .
Our relationship ďid not involve sex as he had serious problems .
Soon I found him indescribably nasty to waiters and other drivers .
Then he became vile and abusive to me .
I fled but was terrified because he knew my address and routine.
I honestly believe that his main interest was my inheritance.

You’ve got me worried now bluebell

Astitchintime
I think I am a very trusting sort of person
The man is ok , he was as a playgroup
I don’t think there was anything sinister

Yes bluebell I think you are right actually
He was a bit forceful but at the same time I don’t think any harm was meant

How can you possibly know it’s safe Allsorts ?

People on here won’t even open a link or have a laugh about some creep sending them a hello message !!!!

Its not as if its a romance blooming, its an introduction to a person you might have lots in common with. If you enjoyed her company, just say and would like to meet up again, Leave it at that. No harm done, However I wouldn't give phone number out to a stranger again. This time I think it quite safe,

I have to ask………how did you think it was a good idea to give some random grandad your mobile number in the first place?

Can I just add how do you know the ‘nice text’ from the French lady is from a lady at all
Is it just me that finds this a remarkable strange thing to do to give your phone number to a total stranger and then expect to ‘meet up’ with a totally stranger who could be anybody including him !

Doesn’t all this sound a bit strange to you
A complete stranger asks for your phone number to pass on to his friends wife ??? And you give him your number !
I watch too much TV I think

Surely best way would have been for him to have given you the friends number and suggest you make contact with her !!!

notjustaprettyface
Thank you but isn’t it a bit rude to just leave at the end and say it’s been nice meeting you and no more ?
If you felt that you didn’t particularly want to meet her again, no it’s not rude. It’s being honest and straightforward. You didn’t ask for the meeting, the gentleman at the playgroup set it up and from what you say in your post, without even asking you if you’d like to meet his friend.
There’s no obligation on you at all to even meet this woman in the first place if it’s making you so anxious.

I wouldn't feel entirely happy and would feel a little set up too. However, as she has contacted you I would go along with some ideas of what you can do to find some common ground, apart from being French of course!

It may be fun, but if it isn't what have you lost?

Thank you but isn’t it a bit rude to just leave at the end and say it’s been nice meeting you and no more ?