´blind’ date

When you finish the coffee and are getting ready to leave, you just say "I enjoyed this morning, shall we do it again?" Smile; wait for her response. If she had fun and wants to do it again , she will suggest a day/time. If she doesn't want to do it any more, , she'll say "I'll have to look at my diary then text you byeee".

Unless she bored your pants off , in which case you just say
" It was so nice to meet you today, goodbye". Smile, Turn, walk.

Why not just see how it goes?
If you like her, you could invite her to your house for coffee some time and if you don’t think she’s your type, just say it’s been nice meeting her and leave it at that.
Don’t expect too much - it takes time to get to know people.

Thank you but isn’t it a bit rude to just leave at the end and say it’s been nice meeting you and no more ?

I wouldn't feel entirely happy and would feel a little set up too. However, as she has contacted you I would go along with some ideas of what you can do to find some common ground, apart from being French of course!

It may be fun, but if it isn't what have you lost?

notjustaprettyface
Thank you but isn’t it a bit rude to just leave at the end and say it’s been nice meeting you and no more ?
If you felt that you didn’t particularly want to meet her again, no it’s not rude. It’s being honest and straightforward. You didn’t ask for the meeting, the gentleman at the playgroup set it up and from what you say in your post, without even asking you if you’d like to meet his friend.
There’s no obligation on you at all to even meet this woman in the first place if it’s making you so anxious.

Doesn’t all this sound a bit strange to you
A complete stranger asks for your phone number to pass on to his friends wife ??? And you give him your number !
I watch too much TV I think

Surely best way would have been for him to have given you the friends number and suggest you make contact with her !!!

Can I just add how do you know the ‘nice text’ from the French lady is from a lady at all
Is it just me that finds this a remarkable strange thing to do to give your phone number to a total stranger and then expect to ‘meet up’ with a totally stranger who could be anybody including him !

I have to ask………how did you think it was a good idea to give some random grandad your mobile number in the first place?

Its not as if its a romance blooming, its an introduction to a person you might have lots in common with. If you enjoyed her company, just say and would like to meet up again, Leave it at that. No harm done, However I wouldn't give phone number out to a stranger again. This time I think it quite safe,

How can you possibly know it’s safe Allsorts ?

People on here won’t even open a link or have a laugh about some creep sending them a hello message !!!!

Yes bluebell I think you are right actually
He was a bit forceful but at the same time I don’t think any harm was meant

Astitchintime
I think I am a very trusting sort of person
The man is ok , he was as a playgroup
I don’t think there was anything sinister

You’ve got me worried now bluebell

Okay .
Take it as a compliment.
Fine to meet for coffee.
If it goes well invite her for a lunch.
Later a dinner ...

Tell a trusted friend where you are going and they can check you are home .
Avoid giving out any personal details and going to your house !
Just be very cautious .
There is no rush .
A old friend introduced me to one of her clients .
She used to run a letting agency.
I would never introduce a friend to someone who was asked vacate a house for non payment of rent but I didn't know that !
This man was charming at first .
Marriage was mooted within weeks .
Our relationship ďid not involve sex as he had serious problems .
Soon I found him indescribably nasty to waiters and other drivers .
Then he became vile and abusive to me .
I fled but was terrified because he knew my address and routine.
I honestly believe that his main interest was my inheritance.

If you are meeting for coffee there shouldn’t be a problem.
If it were me I would go and see how you get on. My mum was ‘foreign’ and was always happy she had a few friends who came from her country. They always had a special bond .
It’s only a coffee.
I once talked to a Woman on a railway platform who was the same nationality as my mum. They met up amd were friends for the rest of their lives. Serendipity .

Just relax and have a coffee with this lady. Nothing has to be planned, play it by ear. If you both enjoy each other’s company, then it will be obvious and you can arrange to do it again. Simple!

You are meeting with a married woman. The relationship, if any, will be as a friend. If you have an instant dislike to her a simple it was good to meet you and have an opportunity to speak french over a coffee. Must go, family commitments, they take precedence over having friends afraid.

Are you a man or a woman? If meeting a man be sure to meet in a busy safe environment.

Be very careful. Meet at a busy coffee shop in the middle of the day. Tell a relative where you are going! Etc!

Notjustaprettyface

Astitchintime
I think I am a very trusting sort of person
The man is ok , he was as a playgroup
I don’t think there was anything sinister

I was looking after a patient some years ago……..seemed a genuinely nice man, chatty and pleasant…….didn’t stop him sexually assaulting me

4allweknow

You are meeting with a married woman. The relationship, if any, will be as a friend. If you have an instant dislike to her a simple it was good to meet you and have an opportunity to speak french over a coffee. Must go, family commitments, they take precedence over having friends afraid.

4Allweknow how do you know she’s meeting a married women so far the only communication she’s had is a nice text after giving her phone number to a complete male stranger !!!

I think I must read too many crime books and tv series, no way would I give a random man my phone number

I do agree it's not advisable to hand out your phone number to a stranger and just because he was at a playgroup doesn't make it a safe bet. In this instance perhaps he knows that the wife concerned missed speaking to fellow French people and so took advantage of the situation. I would happily go along to meet her and hope you enjoy talking to her. If you get along tell her you enjoyed meeting and ask if she wanted a repeat performance. If you don't get along then just say it was nice to meet you with no mention of anything further. No problem.

Do let us know what happens. If you survive!