Women leaving partners after retirement

Retired man comes home from golf/mistress/pub/ finds a note saying Ive left, is amazed, bleats, I had no idea she felt this way, why didn’t she ever say?
Wife sighs, I’ve been telling him for years …

Good for her

Belardo

I can fully understand how this might happen. For instance, a woman may have been contemplating this for some time, but if one or both of them had been working there was a means of temporary relief from their unhappiness. However, once they're confronted by the prospect of being with their husband for 24 hours a day, the reality becomes too much to bear. She may have developed a social life outside of the marriage and now it is coming under threat from a husband who has his own ideas about how they should spend their time. Again, it may be that she simply cannot stand to suddenly have him under her feet. Lot of men seem incapable of coping for themselves and this will also cause frustration when he is around all of the time with extra demands on her time and energy. Perhaps she may have even tried to discuss these things with him, but they hadn't sunk in? No doubt, these women wouldn't have done this without a lot of thought.

or maybe a drop in income from a wage to a pension explains it?

I know someone who did this for their own sanity. The control, coercion, bullying and cruelty they faced daily almost caused a total breakdown. They summoned the courage to go shopping one morning and never went back home! She is settled, happy, contented and no longer persecuted for wanting to have an opinion on how she lives.

I don’t doubt it was done without a lot of thought and sleepless nights.
I truly think that if they need to leave they should .
It must be terrifying starting again in retirement and you only get one life so I am fully behind them.I just wish the partners could see what lies ahead and think about how they treat people before this happens.

I can fully understand how this might happen. For instance, a woman may have been contemplating this for some time, but if one or both of them had been working there was a means of temporary relief from their unhappiness. However, once they're confronted by the prospect of being with their husband for 24 hours a day, the reality becomes too much to bear. She may have developed a social life outside of the marriage and now it is coming under threat from a husband who has his own ideas about how they should spend their time. Again, it may be that she simply cannot stand to suddenly have him under her feet. Lot of men seem incapable of coping for themselves and this will also cause frustration when he is around all of the time with extra demands on her time and energy. Perhaps she may have even tried to discuss these things with him, but they hadn't sunk in? No doubt, these women wouldn't have done this without a lot of thought.