Strained relationship with daughter

Reported.

What is it she doesn’t like about your partner?

I'm in that boat where my eldest daughter is concerned. When her 1st marriage broke down she moved herself and her 2 daughters in with me until the divorce was finalised. She met and married with 2 years and to a man who everyone struggled with. Morose, opinionated, lazy, downright objectionable at times and was very vocal on how much he hated families. He had ostracised his own except for his father. I said nothing, it was her choice and I helped out as much as I could to support and keep an eye on her and the girls. I remember one time he lolled on the sofa watching me hang wallpaper that he had refused to do. That was him. Sadly, little by little, he drove a wedge between my daughter and granddaughters and her entire family. I have tried everything to build bridges but all the time he was in the background putting a spanner in the works. She eventually left him once the girls had left home and has married again I had hoped that this would result in a rekindling of our relationship but nothing. Is she ashamed by the way she treated us all, not sure how to approach any of us> Who knows. My advice to you would be to do your very best to keep the lines of communication open. Think before you say or text that nothing sounds judgemental or confrontational. Don't go on about your relationship with her siblings. Keep things light-hearted. Perhaps meet up with her on your own if she isn't keen on your partner. Ask that when she can, could you have some Mum and Daughter time. Good luck.

Why doesn’t she like your partner??

Perhaps she feels she is having to share you with your new partner, not saying that’s right or wrong……merely a suggestion.

Could you suggest going to stay with her on your own to help with your GD, give your DD a bit of breathing space and perhaps build some bridges?

We are a blended family but I made it clear from the outset that my AC and GC come first…..my OH agrees with this and if our respective AC need us, we are there for them.

I'm sorry this is happening

Do you see her without your partner?

In an ideal world we'd all get along in blended families but I understand in lots of families, that just isn't possible so I think you have to make what you can of it all - even if that means visiting alone or meeting her/them alone. It might not even be a long term thing once bonds are made.