Anxiety

Maybe there are other ways to manage this by trying (for example) to find a holiday where you won't find many English speakers?

Or perhaps if you took a villa you could still go out for a drink or meal but wouldn't keep bumping into the same people?

Or is he chatting in (say) Spanish to locals anyway?

Maybe he just loves to socialise?
In that case could you say to your new friends "I had a lovely lunch with you today but I'm afraid I just like to take to my room of an evening with a good book... but maybe Mr Shimmer might like some company?"
Then if you wanted to you could go for (say) one drink and then leave early "that's me for the night now" and off you go to get to your book?

I think having a strategy in mind may help.
I've discovered that it's hard to say no but much easier to say it straight out than to try to extricate yourself later.

Works "jollies" spring to mind here... 😬😬😬😬😬

Exactly

I hate it when people "take over" your time when on holiday. I am an introvert and don't want to become new best friends. I just want to enjoy my solitude.

It’s hard myself and my husband do lots together. We recently booked a cruise and have ore booked our dining so it’s just us. I’m not antisocial but like to choose who I link up with.

Thanks for understanding, I think my husbands approach is for me not to shy away from these situations but its not that easy and it makes me too uncomfortable.

I don’t find it hard to talk to people but I just don’t want to. The older I get the less sociable I become. If my DH and I go on holiday I honestly have no interest in chatting to anyone I don’t know. I feel awful saying it but I just want to be left in peace.

You have just been away with your DH. Would you prefer that he had left you at home?

You do sound more depressed than anxious- maybe you should get some help with this and it doesn't have to be counselling. I would start by having a word with your GP because it sounds like you don't really want to be this this.

I feel sorry for you. I suffer from it too. Takes a while for me to get to know someone and only then I relax. Often after a social occasion I spend the next few days going over what I said and wondering what people thought of me. It's awful. Such a blight on my life. So I understand OP even if my post is of little help. My husband is aware but he just doesn't get it as he's never had an anxious thought in his head!!

Yes unfortunately, its hard to live with.
I've tried counselling but nothing has worked.
I had very bad psoriasis as a child which made me very self conscious and think that may have triggered it.

No its not new,I've had it all of my adult life.
It's very hard to deal with at times.
I don't think my husband gets it at all.

Just wondering if the anxiety is new - or maybe you recently married?

Surely your husband knows of your anxiety so I’m surprised he was so gung ho.

Communication is key in any relationship.
You need to talk.

We don’t know enough here. Have you always been like this?