Wife does not want sex.

keepingquiet

petra

So you’re saying that your sex life was the lynchpin of your love for your wife.
I hope your dear wife never finds out that you’re so shallow.
Poor woman 😥

This is why I left my last relationship and have never had another.

In all my relationships I have concluded that sex is the bottom line for men, and for them there is really nothing else.

Thank goodness I don't have to do that anymore.

Totally agree with you. How would this gentleman, the OP, feel if the boot were on the other foot?

If your wife has been on hormone treatment for her breast cancer it may well have affected her libido. She can't help this, it'll be the medication.

petra

So you’re saying that your sex life was the lynchpin of your love for your wife.
I hope your dear wife never finds out that you’re so shallow.
Poor woman 😥

This is why I left my last relationship and have never had another.

In all my relationships I have concluded that sex is the bottom line for men, and for them there is really nothing else.

Thank goodness I don't have to do that anymore.

So you’re saying that your sex life was the lynchpin of your love for your wife.
I hope your dear wife never finds out that you’re so shallow.
Poor woman 😥

wife's daughter and only child died suddenly 3 years ago, withing 3 months my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer

I think you should give this poor woman a break.

Your wife has been through so much, She is trying to get by each day with all that she has experienced. She has had the very rug of life pulled away from under her feet and you are worrying about yourself?! She needs support, love, understanding, security, safety. Sex is probably way down her list of priorities at the moment. Have you thought of getting her to go to an accredited therapist who may be able to help her get through the dark tunnel she has found herself in. Poor lady. My heart goes out to her in a million ways.

That sounds really tough. You’ve both been through a lot, and it’s understandable that you’re feeling frustrated and a bit shut out.
It’s hard when your feelings and needs aren’t really acknowledged, even by someone you love.

Maybe try finding small ways to reconnect, not necessarily sexual, just moments that remind you why you’re together.

And it’s okay to be honest about how this is affecting you, even if it’s scary. Feeling closeness again isn’t impossible, it just might take patience and a fresh approach.