Another thread has prompted me to ask for opinions on how we should approach our Wills. Between DH and I we have 6 children. I have 2 with my previous husband, one of whom DH has legally adopted. The other chose not to go down that route. He has 3 children from his previous marriage and between us we have one child. The child who chose not to be adopted has been given a massive amount of money from my mother who does not intend to make this up to the rest of her DGC when she dies. My DH thinks this is grossly unfair and doesn't want my DD to inherit anything when we die so we balance the scales; I don't think I should be pushed into treating my DD differently because of my DM's failings although I do see his report. All the other children have parents who could but may not leave money to them with the exception of our son and the adopted son.
My plan was to divide our estate into 8 with all the children with other parents to get 1/6th and the 2 without to get 2/6ths. DH thinks his children would get short changed because their mother is a bit of a spendthrift (and has 2 more children) so they could end up with very little. This discussion has gone on for the last 20 years without resolution - DH has no idea what to do beyond cutting out my DD who he thinks is spoiled brat. Has anybody got any other ideas so we can actually write a will. As it stands, if he dies first and I die a minute later, it is my children who would get everything and that goes against anything he wants. If it was the other way around but my husband lived long enough, my DD would certainly suffer!
Husband - so lazy
Step-step kids - how to treat them
Gifts for friends - yes or no?