We all have our own personal integrity absent so I understand where you're coming from, although I personally don't see a need to apologise for asserting your view or feeling riled about how your comments were responded to. I empathise with anyone who tries to maintain a discussion where there is potential for conflict, when it might degenerate into claims of hurt feelings or personal attacks. That strategy is well known for keeping others at arm's length and stopping discussions when they become too difficult to deal with. It is on a par with that tactic of clutching the chest as though having a heart attack, as soon as unpalatable truths are mentioned. In other words, a way to exert control.
The real skill in conducting a robust discussion to its completion lies in the ability of those who seek clarification and remain open-minded until they know damn well that someone is trying to needle them, then they must surely feel able to air their concerns in order to resolve them. No use pretending the elephant in the room is not there, is it?
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