are children psychic

ethel it sounds to me that your GD was told she wasn't going away (on holiday) forever. She probably wanted to take all her toys with her, so then she started saying she was going away forever.

You sound like Great-aunt Ada Doom in Cold Comfort Farm by Stella Gibbons - and if you have not read that it is a great book, guaranteed to make you laugh and lift your spirits. It has been filmed too, it is on Amazon for £4.99

It also seems to me that you are cut off from all your usual occupations and interests and are getting bored stiff stuck at home, so you are filling the gap with worries and morbid imaginings of disasters.

For goodness sake find some more positive thoughts to take their place - why not imagine that your next appointment brings news that you are going to be OK, and start planning a holiday to celebrate? As it is only in your mind, it doesn't even need to be one that is within your budget - the sky is the limit! (Perhaps it would be useful to imagine that you have a lottery win to fund it.) If you can convince yourself of all the miserable stuff, you can convince yourself of the good possibilities too.

And get outside walking around while the weather is good. You are not bed-bound, I assume? They would not have let you home unless you were mobile. See something other than four walls. Or are you afraid your neighbours might come up to you to say they have heard you have been ill and hope you are OK?

Ethel.....what are you achieving with all this worrying? It's going nowhere and only serves to make your life miserable. We cannot change what may or may not happen by worrying about it. It's a pointless waste of time and energy-energy that would be better focussed on getting yourself well again.

My late Sil loved speed-fast cars. speedboats and motorbikes, he rode a powerful bike with an engine bigger than many cars and yes, we did worry at times about him having an accident but not to the extent you seem to. He didn't die in a road accident but in hospital following a PE after surgery, surrounded by trained professionals and all the necessary equipment. You see there's no point in worrying about things we can't control-its the unexpected that bites us on the bum.

Take up some of Elegran's very useful suggestions. Why not book a short holiday for yourself to help with your convalescence?

you are all right of course (rational mood today), I do go out but not in my beloved car yet, I can go to the shops now if I don't carry too much.
I can go to the letter box to post stuff ( thank you cards to well wishers etc), I go into my garden but remember this is Northumberland and very cold, even on what was supposed to be the hottest day of the year. I can only sit for a while unless I wear a coat.

I would love a holiday, see post about holidays, I cant afford one, I get resentful of the charges made to singles and I don't like the sound of group holidays.

I hate to go out as I have to wear those awful white stockings , I look mad with them on. I wish they would make them black or something.

I don't know what I will do if they say I have to have more operations.

my family arrived safe on holiday. so big sigh of relief.

Glad the family arrived safely ethel!

Surely you don't still need to wear the compression stockings? I thought they were only for when you're either in bed after surgery or if you aren't mobile when you come home.

If you're walking about a bit and not lying in bed all day I would have thought them necessary. But if you've been told you must...

UNnecessary!

If you really have to wear them, wear trousers over them, then they won't show.

Exactly!

One thing to tick off your 'Ethel's Worry List'

If they say you need more surgery or chemo or whatever then you'll do as advised I hope!

Wear trousers over the compression stockings as others have said and start building up your strength, at least if it's cooler up there they won't be uncomfortably warm!

Ethelbags1 If you need to wear compression stockings they do do them in black. I have to wear them because I have a DVT. If you don't have one I don't think you would need to wear them.

Oh sherish don't mention DVT!!!!!

Too late, she has mentioned them!

Ethel, you will soon be doing normal things again, just takes time.Children say all kinds of stuff, when my oldest DGS was only 2 or 3 he used to repeat lines from Disney films,we thought he was saying things out of his own head as it were, but no, it was all Disney dialogue!

I am still wearing the dratted compression stockings and have to wear them for 6 weeks so another 2 to go. I have a lady who comes in the put them on several times a week, I can manage to get them off but not back on as it pulls on my incision. I am scared of having a DVT I check each day for swelling and redness, I had the gp check me for pains in my arm as I thought I had one the other week.

I've not heard of anyone getting a DVT in their arm ethel but best you checked it out for your peace of mind.
Stop worriting!
I bet you worry even when you haven't /can't find anything to worry about, bless you!

I was very worried about getting a DVT after my hip surgery, and realise in retrospect that I was worrying unnecessarily - all the preventive measures were there to make sure that I did NOT get one. So I am sure you will be fine if you stick to what you have been asked to do, as I know you are.

It is hard when you go through these things, but I reminded myself that for the hospital and other staff it is totally routine and they do it all every day - so the systems for keeping you safe are slick and well-practiced.

It really does sound as though you are doing very well indeed.

loopylou I had a clot in my armpit. My arm was twice the normal size and an interesting blend of bright red and white before my GP decided that might be the trouble. He didn't tell me, however so it was quite a shock when I went to an outpatient appointment and they wouldn't let me leave. Car on meter, DS & double bass waiting to be picked up, DH out of town. Week in hospital. Months of rat poison. I think you'd know, ethelbags1. Please don't worry!

I'm new to the forum, I'm a tarot reader psychic reader and training to be a medium. I do believe that we all have those hidden instincts and insights, but that modern life has shoved them aside. Life is too hectic and too busy and the garbage that some of the tv mediums come out with doesn't help! But in some areas, like the northern isles in Scotland, it is still very much respected and taken into account. I do know I'll be howled down here lol but I'm ok with that, we al have out own beliefs
But to the OP - you can't take any heed of something a child that age says pet... it's just us loving them so much and being so afraid of them being taken away from us, that makes us scared.

Just wanted to chip in here- my nephew then aged 10 became convinced his mum was going to die. Was given 'therapy' ++ for his daft notions. Mum didn't die -but Dad did shortly after. The day before the funeral I had my niece (aged just 2) in the back of my car parked outside as we waited for someone. She suddenly starts to smile and chat excitedly to someone outside the car. There was no one there. I asked her who she was talking to and she replied 'my Daddy'. I'm a tough cookie and the rest but I can't dismiss this as nonsense.

thank you fumanchu, I agree that we love them so much we are afraid they will be taken from us. My family are back safe from holidays but I still worry that something will happen to them. Just my nature I suppose.

Good to hear they're safely back ethel
If you're a natural born worrier there's very little anyone can say or do to change it.
I have one sister who worries about absolutely anything and everything the other never worries at all. The first one worries about her sister not worrying!

That is really strange, Jane10 and does make you wonder.
I like to keep an open mind on things, but think if you go too far down the Angels watching over me/ fairies at the bottom of the garden /magic crystals route, then no good will come of it.

Worrying does no good at all either, about anything, in fact it makes your life worse Ethel.

loopy, as it happens one of my friends did have a DVT in her upper arm but is fine nowadays after having a course of warfarin. And yes - it is extremely rare. My friend was a medical curiosity!