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I wish that I had a Faith

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FannyCornforth Sun 04-Apr-21 13:23:01

Hello Everyone
Yes, I do wish that I had a faith.

My family on my mom's side are church goers and I went to a Methodist chapel and Sunday school as a child.

But I just don't seem to have the gene, for wont of a better expression.
I'm very 'envious' of those who have a strong belief.
I work in a Catholic school and I often really wish that I shared what many of my friends and colleagues have.

It's the sense of community, and continuity too. Not just the 'going to church' thing, (I don't think that I could ever get into going to church) but more of a deep bond and understanding.

Lots and lots of things. It seems like a human need. I definitely feel like I'm missing something.

I have been reading Annie's Good Friday thread and the other Easter threads, and I thought that I would post this and see what others think

Thank you ?️

volver3 Mon 27-Mar-23 11:54:00

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Germanshepherdsmum Mon 27-Mar-23 11:51:21

Exactly. Comparing faith in a god with believing in Father Christmas is insulting and disrespectful. It’s a shame Franbern can’t see that.

volver3 Mon 27-Mar-23 11:48:33

Catholic, Presbyterian, CofE, Evangelical, Wee Free, does it matter?

Only if you take the moral high ground and pretend those who don't agree with you about the role of the supernatural are "ridiculing" you.

Smileless2012 Mon 27-Mar-23 11:47:29

Insulting and ridiculing posters because they believe in something you don't is hardly conducive to promoting debate and discussion is it Franbern.

NanaDana Mon 27-Mar-23 11:47:21

Franbern. You appear to be struggling with differentiating between mature exchange of opinions, and expressing disrespect for those who happen to disagree with you. Honestly, it is possible to strongly disagree with someone, yet continue to respect both their opinion and them as a person. If you can't do that, which from your own words, appears to be the case, then yes, please move on.

Mollygo Mon 27-Mar-23 11:39:41

Atheist, agnostic, humanist, with a faith, without a faith, does it matter?
Only if you ridicule members of other groups or claim that only your POV has value.

FannyCornforth Mon 27-Mar-23 11:28:00

Franbern, the whole forum (ie Gransnet)? shock
Or just this thread?

Franbern Mon 27-Mar-23 10:57:36

am now totally perplexed as to the point of all this discussion.
If I write how I genuinely feel, then that is wrong - because it goes against those with 'faith'.

So should I lie? - I could say (totally incorretly), I have total !!!respect for those who wish to believe in gods, etc!!! Or should I just not take part in this discussion? = only those with faith should be permitted to do so.

Strange, I had this idea that debate, discussion was to get opinions from all sides of any arguement.

I wrote how I feel, nothing on here has helped me change my mind or feelings about this. The fact that people here do not LIKE the feelings I get when trying to talk to someone who tells me about this wondrous being up on high does not change them in any way.

Sadly, I do know far too many people who have become atheistic as their lives have progressed who then been totally cut out from, and ostracised by their loving, religious (different ones) families.

On the other hand the Humanists I have come across have been some of the kindest, most caring people ever.

Will not be taking part in this forum from now on.

Wyllow3 Sun 26-Mar-23 23:32:10

I find that positive and natural.

VioletSky Sun 26-Mar-23 22:43:27

There are thousands of gods globally

As an atheist I only believe in 1 less than than average religious person

As for more progressive I wasn't targeting one religion for that but Christianity for example, is global and different counties or even areas have different fundamental outlooks or interpretations

I find that hard to understand because it seems to me that the general views of people in that area are being pondered too rather than everyone following the same teaching

I understand that people interpret their religions teachings in a different way but I can't understand it amongst the leadership of the same organisation

Wyllow3 Sun 26-Mar-23 20:37:04

Caleo

Wyllow3 wrote:

". please do remember that only a few with faith believe that a "God" can actually intervene at a personal or social level to change destinies, or give us life in the flesh after death: yes there are some who believe this as an absolute. Its probably better, when addressing people of faith as a group, to remember this: be specific?"

The interventionist God is why a lot of people find Xianity as usually presented unconscionable. Does anyone really worthship a deity that is whimsical to the point of irrationality?

No, I dont.

Smileless2012 Sun 26-Mar-23 20:20:53

I'm a Christian and to answer your question Caleo no, I do not worship "a deity that is whimsical to the point of irrationality".

volver3 Sun 26-Mar-23 20:20:37

you said it....not me...

crazyH Sun 26-Mar-23 20:18:52

That “supernatural entity” is what I call “God” - the Omnipotent. And my faith in Him, has seen me through some difficult times. Very simplistic !

Smileless2012 Sun 26-Mar-23 20:17:49

It depends on the society. Here in the UK neither applies. We are multi cultural so there are a multitude of faiths that can be freely pursued.

In answer to question I would say that the aforementioned applies. It depends on the society and prevailing religion being practised.

Yes, the Christian bible has an old and new testament. What makes you think the new testament has ever been changed? It is, apart from the book of Revelations, a record of the life and teachings of Jesus.

Christians believe that the life and teachings of Jesus have influenced societies, but that view will not be shared I'm sure by those who don't believe in him.

I'm C of E, homosexuality is a contentious issue when it comes to gay marriage and there is a disconnect because there are gay ministers, but I've never witnessed an active campaign against homosexuality.

I think Christianity is more accepting than perhaps people realise, gay ministers for example and marrying divorcees. As for becoming more progressive what does that mean exactly?

Caleo Sun 26-Mar-23 20:10:24

Wyllow3 wrote:

". please do remember that only a few with faith believe that a "God" can actually intervene at a personal or social level to change destinies, or give us life in the flesh after death: yes there are some who believe this as an absolute. Its probably better, when addressing people of faith as a group, to remember this: be specific?"

The interventionist God is why a lot of people find Xianity as usually presented unconscionable. Does anyone really worthship a deity that is whimsical to the point of irrationality?

VioletSky Sun 26-Mar-23 19:00:36

I've caught up with this thread since I commented quite a while ago and I have no idea what to do with any of it...

But I have questions

Does society dictate religion or does religion dictate society?

Because:

1. In some societies cultural practices are followed by those with specific religions even though they aren't written into the religion itself. (I think)

2. Is it Christianity where there is an old and new testament? I don't rely on my memory, if so was the new testament changed to reflect new societal norms or did the new testament change societal norms? Is it still subject to change? Can it be rewritten?

3 Some religions, there seems to be a disconnect. Some churches actively campaign against what they consider a sin, like homosexuality whereas others except anyone and would not preach homosexuality as a sin. How can this be? Would it benefit religion as a whole to become more progressive and accepting? Not just for itself but for its followers.

Does anyone have any thoughts?

Kate1949 Sun 26-Mar-23 18:13:37

Everyone is entitled to believe what they want to believe. I had Catholicism knocked into me (literally at times). Life events have knocked it right back out again.

Smileless2012 Sun 26-Mar-23 17:54:59

No worries volver. It wasn't intended to be a comparison, it was to illustrate that faith isn't only about religion.

volver3 Sun 26-Mar-23 17:01:29

Smileless2012

No volver, I didn't.

OK, then I misunderstood, sorry.

But it does seem to me that you are comparing the faith we have in everyday things, with faith in a religion.

We can trust in the everyday things because there is an explanation of how they work, that can be proved and relied upon. We can have "faith" in the doctor's diagnosis because they have seen many people with our symptoms and they can identify what is wrong with us and how you cure that, based on proven treatments.

That kind of faith, which is probably better described as "trust" (?) is not the same as a belief in a supernatural being or force that is predicated on no evidence at all.

I can appreciate that this is the kind of faith that religion requires, but it is not the same as faith in your chair to hold up when you sit in it.

Smileless2012 Sun 26-Mar-23 16:51:14

No volver, I didn't.

Mollygo Sun 26-Mar-23 16:10:15

JaneJudge

Luckygirl
My conclusion on all this is that, at base, all religions are about caring for each other - they get horrifically corrupted and perpetrate evils that are nothing to do with the original premise.

So -- avoid the potential for corruption and live your life centred around kindness - absolutely nothing else matters.

I quite agree smile
I agree too. And if you can do that without blaming religious faith or no religious faith for the evils of the world, that’s even better.

volver3 Sun 26-Mar-23 16:09:28

Smileless2012

I didn't say it was the same volver did I.

Did you not?

Faith isn't constrained to religion, we exercise faith in all areas of our lives.

Smileless2012 Sun 26-Mar-23 16:08:33

I didn't say it was the same volver did I.

JaneJudge Sun 26-Mar-23 15:40:55

Luckygirl

My conclusion on all this is that, at base, all religions are about caring for each other - they get horrifically corrupted and perpetrate evils that are nothing to do with the original premise.

So -- avoid the potential for corruption and live your life centred around kindness - absolutely nothing else matters.

I quite agree smile