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If not Sunday, when?

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Cabbie21 Sun 24-Mar-24 19:51:27

Picking up from the thread about Sundays and shop hours, and the recent thread about why people no longer go to church, it seems that shopping has replaced church for some people. There is also sport, or park run, on Sundays or spending time with grandparents, the non- resident parent etc.
So is there another time churches could put on a service which would be better attended?
Messy Church after school?
Saturday tea time?

4allweknow Wed 27-Mar-24 16:41:28

Weekends seem to be filled with sports wwlhether taking part or watching and shopping. I live near large shopping retail parks and during the week it's easy to find a parking space. At the weekend, it's a nightmare having to drive about hoping to spot someone walking back to their car. Playing fields are full of sports eg football, rugby, cricket , hockey both days of weekend. The day of rest has long gone as are quite a number of churches in my area having been sold for converting into flats. It's the lack of interest that to me, seems to have created the lack of attendance.

Callistemon21 Wed 27-Mar-24 16:14:13

Spuddy

I never go to church for any reason as I'm a life-long Atheist. Three-quarters of England are!

The statistics do not back that up.

Are you just thinking of Anglicans?
Even that claim is wrong.

Callistemon21 Wed 27-Mar-24 16:08:22

Barbadosbelle

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Lots of 'religions' have sprung up over the past century or two. And some of them are seriously weird.

And don't let us forget that the CofE only exists because Henry XIII broke away from the Church of Rome because he wanted to remarry and couldn't.

Then he remarried, and remarried, and remarried, and remarried, and remarried. He beheaded two wives and divorced two. But hey, his newly created CofE worked for him!

But was he happy???

My 50-year old hairdresser - a very knowledgeable and interesting conversationalist - was amazed to learn this during a talk we had about religions. She hadn't been taught it at school!! My sons went to a private school and they did have lessons covering the period.

I wonder if the National Curriculum teaches the history of Kings and Queen of England now? The ice age? The iron age? etc etc.

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And don't let us forget that the CofE only exists because Henry XIII broke away from the Church of Rome because he wanted to remarry and couldn't.

Yes, he did, but the Protestant Reformation was gaining momentum in Europe at the time too.

It is only because of Henry that the Reformation Parliament declared him Head of the Church of England, which curiosity remains today with the Monarch as Head of the Anglican church in England only.

LovelyLady Wed 27-Mar-24 15:38:05

Our RC church is busy every Sunday.
Saturday evening Mass the Vigil (ie it’s in place of Sunday Mass) is busy too.
A few years ago attendance was down by now its usual to stand as the seats are full. Who said attendance is down? Not in the SE if England. I must admit if there is a well organised likeable Priest, then it’s a big pull for attendance. Happy Easter everyone xx

grandtanteJE65 Wed 27-Mar-24 14:52:44

missdeke

Where I live the vicar runs the churches in at least 4 villages and services are spread between them. The church in our village is always open should anyone want to visit it. Personally I am not a churchgoer as I don't believe in organised religion of any sort, although I appreciate the beauty and history of many churches. Surely if you are a true believer actually going to church shouldn't really matter, private prayer should be sufficient.

No, private prayer is not enough. Christ enjoined on his followers that they should pray together and form a fellowship.

grandtanteJE65 Wed 27-Mar-24 14:50:57

In Denmark for years churches have had week-day evening services, night church, where you can drop in at any hour of the night, say a prayer, join in if a service is being held etc. Coffee after Sunday services and "Spagetti services" - a weekday evening service followed or preceded by a meal. These are particularly advertised as being both for families with smal. children and for those living alone.

None of these have significantly increased church attendence.

Both as a Christian and as a historian of religion, I am convinced that until the various denominations get themselves out of church /synagogue/mosque/etc and start a mission strategy, we will not see religion becoming important again.

No-one is terribly likely to attend any form of Divine service if they either do not know that we who do attend believe in God and what that actually entails, or feel particularly welcome if they do by chance drop into a church,

By and large, the congregation and clergy just ignore newcomers. A peculiar attitude, which ought to be condemmed by any right-thinking religious person of any faith.

3nanny6 Wed 27-Mar-24 14:16:19

I always went to my Catholic church service on Saturday evening 6.30 pm as that time worked well for me. It is about 4 years now since that service was dispensed with the same as in our other Catholic church about 15 minutes drive away. The reason the church/priest gave us was because the church was finding it difficult to attract new clergy/priests to the church vocation and so the diocese was cutting back on services and only doing the Sunday church service. I looked after grand-children on Sundays and also had cooking to do and was fairly busy, so these days I do not attend church regularly every Sunday although I do watch the streaming online but it is just not the same.

silverlining48 Wed 27-Mar-24 13:43:54

I know many more people are church goers in the. uS. If they are in the majority How are the non church goers regarded 11unicorn?

I had an American pen friend some time ago, but when she found out I wasn’t a church goer she lost interest.

As for shops opening on Sundays I don’t agree with it. European shops still close on Sundays, (why do we in the uk always have to follow America).

Lemontart Wed 27-Mar-24 13:34:15

The Cof E attendances might be
in decline, but other denominations differ. I attend a Baptist church and our congregation is growing, with new people coming week by week.

grannyactivist Wed 27-Mar-24 13:32:21

For many years we did ‘Monday Meal’ in our home, which was an opportunity for people of other faiths or none to have a meal together and afterwards to have a discussion about the Christian faith. It was always well attended and we have made good friends in this way. We plan to resurrect it when I’m well, but maybe fortnightly instead of weekly.

missdeke Wed 27-Mar-24 13:20:48

Where I live the vicar runs the churches in at least 4 villages and services are spread between them. The church in our village is always open should anyone want to visit it. Personally I am not a churchgoer as I don't believe in organised religion of any sort, although I appreciate the beauty and history of many churches. Surely if you are a true believer actually going to church shouldn't really matter, private prayer should be sufficient.

11unicorn Wed 27-Mar-24 13:18:55

what an interesting thread.

While living in Scotland, we only had about 30 people in our church for a sizeable community. Older people and some families.

We currently live in the USA and here we just had to build a new church as we have too many people attending! There is about 500 people coming on a Sunday and they have an English and a Spanish service. The Hispanic community makes up at least 60% of parishioners if not more.

I go Saturday evening as mornings are busy here as I have lots of animals to feed. I also prefer Saturday as it's less busy.
But for me, a lot has to do with the priest we are having and Father Chris here is very approachable, always puts jokes in his homily and with his outgoing nature he is very easy to listen to and very likable. While one of his topics has been "It's the message, not the messenger" for me, the messenger plays a big role and I might go a lot less to church if he wasn't our priest. Here in the USA you see also a lot of teenagers being at church and involved in church life, going on retreats , having meet ups during the week etc. It's rather refreshing to see after seeing such a decline in Scotland and in Germany which is my home country. Church here is far more interactive and reactive to the needs of the people. I wished church would move with the times as they seem to do here.

So despite shops being open on a Sunday, you see the churches full in the USA.

Cheerygirl Wed 27-Mar-24 12:44:51

Many Catholic churches have a mass on Saturday evening - and, in fact, have mass every day.

Barbadosbelle Wed 27-Mar-24 12:01:24

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Lots of 'religions' have sprung up over the past century or two. And some of them are seriously weird.

And don't let us forget that the CofE only exists because Henry XIII broke away from the Church of Rome because he wanted to remarry and couldn't.

Then he remarried, and remarried, and remarried, and remarried, and remarried. He beheaded two wives and divorced two. But hey, his newly created CofE worked for him!

But was he happy???

My 50-year old hairdresser - a very knowledgeable and interesting conversationalist - was amazed to learn this during a talk we had about religions. She hadn't been taught it at school!! My sons went to a private school and they did have lessons covering the period.

I wonder if the National Curriculum teaches the history of Kings and Queen of England now? The ice age? The iron age? etc etc.

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Joseann Wed 27-Mar-24 12:00:41

I was thinking that, greenlady. You don't have to be deeply religious, and go to church, to want something spiritual in your life. We can all travel along different paths to reach self fulfilment

greenlady102 Wed 27-Mar-24 11:48:57

I think this thread mixes up spiritual beliefs with membership of a particular religion or sect with attendance at services. They are not the same.

Spuddy Wed 27-Mar-24 11:32:21

I never go to church for any reason as I'm a life-long Atheist. Three-quarters of England are!

sluttygran Wed 27-Mar-24 11:27:09

I'm not surprised that there has been a huge decrease in church attendance.
I have never been a worshipper, but the awful crimes committed by many dignitaries, both Catholic and Protestant, over the years, is enough to turn anyone away.
Then again, we have the example of so many 'Christian' Members of Parliament, whose callousness and want of basic human values is quite sickening.
The Royal Family, too, who are nominally the leaders of faith in this country seem to have slipped up a bit in many cases, but they're only human like the rest of us!
The only religion apparent now is the cult of celebrity and the sanctity of huge profit.
Cynical? Moi? Perhaps!

Mamasperspective Wed 27-Mar-24 11:20:28

Religion is definitely not as important to you see generations as it has been to older generations. There are many, many more agnostic people than there was years ago. I went to a Christian school and we attended church throughout our childhood but I have not attended church in adulthood (unless it's been for a wedding or funeral) and haven't had either of my daughters christened, it will be entirely their decision when they are older.

loopyloo Wed 27-Mar-24 11:15:26

Surely it's a question of belief?

Knittypamela Wed 27-Mar-24 11:12:41

I was raised in a family that went to Sunday morning service, then in the afternoon I went to Sunday school. Sometimes we'd also go to evening service. It was suffocating. I grew to hate church and could not face going into one again.

Urmstongran Mon 25-Mar-24 09:40:42

Just weeks ago, the Church said it would be hiring a “deconstructing whiteness” officer as part of a new 11-person “racial justice unit” being set up by the Diocese of Birmingham.

Senior clergy have also faced criticism for calling for the church’s £100 million slavery reparations fund to be increased to £1 billion.

I think this illustrates the degree of disillusionment with religion these days. People read of these things as likely think ‘why bother’.

Jaxjacky Mon 25-Mar-24 09:13:20

Our local C of E has a Wednesday communion at 10am, Home Churches, regular meetings in peoples homes for fellowship, bible reading and prayer, an afternoon tea for seniors fortnightly, a youth club and a playgroup.
The door of the church office is always open for a cuppa, warm up and a chat.
I’m not a church goer, but know these events are well attended and appreciated in our village.

Joseann Mon 25-Mar-24 08:16:29

Cabbie21 It was back in the day (!) when we ran a school. The Chaplain did a religious service for all, (children, parents, grandparents, teachers).
Then also biblical stories, quizzes and games. Sometimes just a time for reflection and sharing. Of course, music too. It was simple, chunks of baguette and cheese or maybe a chilli or pasties. It was easy then to get people to walk round and chat, which was the intention. It was fun, if a bit quirky, and everyone enjoyed it. We even had one service to bless the pets, and to consider the important role of animals in the home and in the workplace. Everyone, including all creatures, came to that!!
It has to be relevant. At that time ours was a seaside/countryside community.

Cabbie21 Mon 25-Mar-24 07:53:45

Thanks Joseann. What form does your Friday event take?