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Do you say prayers?

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Daddima Mon 02-Sept-24 14:00:03

I’ve just been reading social media posts to someone who has been bereaved, and many say things like, ‘ My thoughts and prayers are with you’. This made me wonder how many of these people would actually pray for the bereaved person, and being the cynic that I am, I’d guess not many, and the Facebook post will be as far as it goes.
I’m not a big prayer as such, but I do like a wee quiet time in church.
Do people still do the kneeling by the bed at night kind of praying?

gagsy Tue 03-Sept-24 20:13:24

Yes

Mojack26 Tue 03-Sept-24 20:53:38

Yes I pray. Not kneeling by my bed but in my bed at night at before I get up in the morning.

Paddington1914 Tue 03-Sept-24 20:59:44

Yes, what harm can it do?

Doodle Tue 03-Sept-24 23:05:36

I pray every day too. Morning and evening and many other times in between. Can kneel anymore as I won’t get up after but I did use to kneel and pray for many years.

Cutshampooandsetplease Wed 04-Sept-24 05:59:34

I pray daily for people , myself and my deceased sister and my deceased sister and also for dehydration and starvation times that people have to endure and I myself have to endure. People don't get involved, because they can't help you .Do you want to know why? It's because they can't help themselves. Ro say you are Baptized, confirmed and claim to be a Christian is easy. If someone says to you out of the blue excuse me I have no money and food and I am starving, what do you say and what do you do? You say sorry I can't help you. Think, afterwards you often say to yourself a Christian person would feed the person because they have a moral obligation to do so. Also, a person needs to be fed like yourself. Next time feed them . You will be rewarded with Gods love and blessings. Through the acts of the fruit of the spirit it is how you become power in your mental fortitude.

HiPpyChick57 Wed 04-Sept-24 06:37:17

Yes I pray most nights, but I can’t kneel.
Sometimes through the day if it’s called for.

I pray for family and friends that have difficult situations going on in their lives.

I pray for things going on in the world.

I thank God that I have enough to eat and drink and that I have a comfy warm bed.

I pray that somehow everyone else has managed to get something to eat and drink that day.

I was really thankful for my friends and family holding me in their prayers when I was in hospital earlier this year having half my pancreas removed due to a tumour.

I’m no angel I’m just an ordinary person with lots of flaws but I know God loves me despite me being me.

I hate religion but I do love Jesus and I have had many answers to prayers.

I’m going through chemo at the moment and it’s reassuring to know that God is just a prayer away.

Daddima Wed 04-Sept-24 12:03:57

crazyH

When we were growing up, we always got together for the family. ‘Rosary’- in front of our altar. It was a bit monotonous and repetitive. These days, although I carry the Roasary Beads in my handbag, I do not have the patience. I go to Church, I pray, but it’s more of a ‘chat’ with God. I do say a short poem-like prayer and the same in the morning. Our church is always open. If I happen to pass by, I always pop in for a few minutes.

I love to sit in church, and am lucky to have a beautiful wee chapel near my home for visits. I always remember one of my granny’s sayings -
‘ Every time I pass the church, I try to pay a visit
So that, when I’m carried in, the Lord won’t say, ‘Who is it?’ ‘.

Daddima Wed 04-Sept-24 12:17:11

I knew a woman who had managed to complete nursing training, which had long been an ambition of hers, but was giving it up to go and work in a mission in Cyprus. She was a lovely woman, and had seen two separate references to this mission needing helpers, so she said that she first prayed that they would get helpers, then after the second reference ( in a magazine at the dentist’s if I remember correctly) she prayed again, asking God to send her a sign if he meant that she was to go. She said she told him what the sign was to be, and the sign came, so she gave up her job, house, everything, and went to Cyprus. I was amazed to hear her say she didn’t want to go, but if it was the Lord’s will, she must do it. She worked in the mission for many years until she died.
I have never encountered such faith before or since.

Marydoll Wed 04-Sept-24 12:46:52

I love sitting in church after I have locked up, in semi darkness, with just the light from the votive candles.
It soothes the soul.

Marmight Wed 04-Sept-24 17:05:36

No - only when in a desperate situation but from whom or what I invoke help I haven’t a clue. 5 hard years at a convent boarding school finished organised religion for me but I do find peace and consolation in choral music especially in a cathedral or church setting.

hollysteers Wed 04-Sept-24 17:43:19

I don’t pray regularly and grew up without a religious background, but agree with those who feel there is, or may be, a higher power. I sometimes think this higher power has gone on holiday and ,left us to it.
My DH was a true believer, unlike me with my doubts, and I envied that simplicity.
The sermon on the mount distills what I feel and man made organised religion has its faults which are all too evident. I try to think that God is love, not a paternal father figure in the heavens and there is a little bit of God in everyone. If we try to look at others in this way, we will see them differently.
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When awestruck in nature, the thought of a higher power is at its strongest.
I love reading spiritual/mystical writings and find them very inspiring, even if I question them.
My absolute heroine is Sister Wendy and I’m reading her letters at the moment. She sums up for me a truly godly person. The goodness just shone out of her.

I’m another who can sit for ages alone in a quiet church, just light a candle and reflect.

HiPpyChick57 Thu 05-Sept-24 14:42:10

Marmight

No - only when in a desperate situation but from whom or what I invoke help I haven’t a clue. 5 hard years at a convent boarding school finished organised religion for me but I do find peace and consolation in choral music especially in a cathedral or church setting.

@Marmight. You don’t need organised religion.
All you need is Our Father God, Jesus, and your Bible.

Don’t let those nuns rob you of a beautiful experience with Christ.

polomint Thu 05-Sept-24 17:10:31

Well said * hippychick*

Maidmarion Sat 07-Sept-24 09:30:18

I was once with a friend going to a concert. We were cutting it fine time-wise as we waited in the queue to get into the car park. We made it by the skin of our teeth and my friend said “I knew we’d make it as I was sitting in the car praying for God to find us a car park space” ……. Whaaaaaatttttt????????

Fidelity2 Wed 18-Sept-24 23:07:08

I pray every night. My mother used to hear my prayers every bedtime.
Gentle Jesus meek and mild,
look upon a little child,
pity my simplicity,
suffer me to come to thee.
Please Jesus make me a good girl.
Amen

Macadia Thu 19-Sept-24 04:23:44

I pray but I don't think we should pray asking for things. although the bible says keep asking. When I pray, I only give thanks. nothing more than that.

Caleo Thu 19-Sept-24 10:38:29

When someone prays, must she be praying TO some supernatural listener such as God, Christ, or the BVM?

Or does she pray "to whom it may concern-----" ?

If so, what makes her think there is a listener?

Caleo Thu 19-Sept-24 10:40:16

Macadia, why not curse God for not intervening in one of the hideous sufferings we hear of?

eggplant Thu 19-Sept-24 12:05:24

Moggycuddler

Gave up with religion a very long time ago when praying to an invisible something started to seem absurd. I also wondered why a loving "god" would answer the prayers of some and not others. Why does one person's beloved child die but not another's? Living without religion is freeing.

Yes, logically, I agree. But I miss the Church. It was a time when everything just stopped somehow. That and the wonderful music and hymns, melodies and words.

Doodle Thu 19-Sept-24 22:10:43

“Living without religion if freeing” Why?
Children and loved ones still die. Tragedy still occurs. Not believing in religion doesn’t save you from hurt or pain anymore than believing does. What religion does is maybe offer some comfort to those who believe.

HowVeryDareYou2 Thu 19-Sept-24 22:33:07

As a non-believer, no. I do think about anyone who is having a tough time, though.

Sweetpeasue Thu 19-Sept-24 22:50:13

If I say I'll pray for someone I will
Although I don't think I've full belief, I somehow, and I can't explain how, have more belief in a God than just nothingness.I don't think the human race is just material. I just think /believe even that there is something more.

Skye17 Fri 20-Sept-24 01:24:43

I do pray, and if I say I will pray for someone I do pray for them.

I like praying with others as well as alone. It's wonderful to pray with friends.

Caleo Fri 20-Sept-24 09:30:04

Eggplant wrote:

"Yes, logically, I agree. But I miss the Church. It was a time when everything just stopped somehow. That and the wonderful music and hymns, melodies and words."

Real and insightful. You must go to a church that is led by a good preacher and a skilled music director, no matter which religious sect. It is so difficult for a minister to teach a congregation composed of diverse people and include something for everybody.

Caleo Fri 20-Sept-24 09:35:32

Moggycuddler, the Book of Job is supposed to answer that question. I suppose you may understand the Book of Job, although I should say I don't. Fortunately it's a short book.

If you do read it, and understand its message, I'd be glad to hear from you either on this forum or by PM. Thanks.