Just like to say.....

Come on who snitched to Matron and what have I missed.

Is it funny if J08 gets banned?

bluebell How can I supply evidence?

GlassI might have to say goodbye.

jingle is grinning in the OP so that's probably why there have been some light hearted posts but I don't like tale telling or the way her posts are often pounced upon and dissected.

I think I have been on another planet! ??? what on earth is anyone talking about?

Qiute. And I certainly believe her. Why on earth would she be 'winding us up' about something as serious as this?

nellie we must have been in the same place.

jingle what have you been up to?

Maybe there is a mole amongst us, someone from GNHQ posting as though they are one of us. Jingle rubs the mole up the wrong way, just once too often and wham she's out on her ear.

J08 - you could copy us the email! I just don't like the snide comments that are being made about snitching etc - I last reporters J08 about the whole FGM comments and the sick bucket and I think both were worth complaining about. And anyway, we're free to report aren't we - or are some people except from criticism?

"Hi Jingle,

Hope you're well.

We wanted to drop you a line about your recent posts, as we have had a lot of complaints from other posters about the tone of your posts.

As you know, we have absolutely no problem with you (or any other gransnetter) expressing strong opinions, we are a little concerned with the way you have been expressing them lately.

We would like to remind you that our raison d'être is to make grandparents' lives easier by pooling and sharing advice and support. We ask members to respect each other's opinions even if they don't agree with them.

We'd be grateful if you'd bear this in mind in your future posts, otherwise we may have to take further action.

Trust you understand,

GNHQ"

It started off nice.

It's just the "further action" that is worrying. [chews nails]

Anyone who is offended by something written on a thread can openly object - just like a real conversation. That way everyone is aware of what's being said and how feelings are running. Reporting someone because you are upset by their remarks is childish at our age and smacks of just wanting to put yourself in a good light.

I can't think of many, or any, circumstances in which I would report a fellow GNetter.

I would deal with matters myself in the open or by PM.

I think you are in the clear * j08*. The further action bit refers to the future if there other complaints.

Merlot - do you mean we should never report posts?

J08 - you're overreacting - I've had a very similar email from HQ

There would be more complaints though.

No bluebell. Of course you can report whatever you like. Anyone can.

A lot of complaints? I can't believe it! Who are all these people who complain (to GNHQ) about a bit of plain speaking?

I agree with you absolutely, petallus.

Well, perhaps you are made of stronger stuff than me.

Merlot - I really am confused. When I thought some of Messengers posts were unacceptable, I said so openly and then was roundly told by several people that if I felt like that I should report the posts and not criticise him on the thread.

That was to bluebell.

Ana - have you never reported a post?

I would pass it over to GNHQ to moderate, as there have been so many incidents of threads turning nasty when attempts to tone things down have been unsuccessful. At least Jingle will reply without pretending she meant something else. You always know exactly where you stand if she sets you in her sights

Yes, I've reported two posts since I joined Gransnet, bluebell - neither of them yours, unless you've changed your username.

I wouldn't report you, jingl. An oyster needs grit to make a pearl.

What a wonderful sentiment Anno - it could be the Gransnet motto!!!