Criticising other posters contributions

Fancy word for 7.50 on a Tuesday evening Beryl!!

I honestly think this website is driving me absolutely potty.

No idea Berylbee. Forgive me if I don't Google.

Oops
sorry
it's
jinglbellsfrocks
apologies

Well you have not upset me AKA , and I agree that things are thrashed out nowadays in a less personal manner !
although there is none about at the moment !

jinglebellsfrocks
does the word mimophant mean anything to you?
kisses and hugs to you sweetheart

as someone who has been trained in basic psychiatry. May I put my very humble oar in?

I seem to be rubbing everyone up today. I've upset Soutra, Jingl and doubtless others. Blame me starting the 5:2 today I'm off to chew on a stick of rhubarb.

I don't know about "giving it out" but I think a couple of things you have posted today were a bit OTT and borderline unpleasant.

To balance this, you have on many occasions shown great empathy.

That's what I meant Jingl you gave your opinion, rather frankly. But by the same token I'm giving my opinion too. I'm not condemning or condoning, I'm simply saying...

Aka?

You were frank, that's all, jingl and gave your honest opinion.
Some prefer the Vicar's tea party approach to any situation.

Ok. This will get this thread deleted, but there.

This was started because I was pushed to my limits by a poster's (usual) remark on the thread "Reducing contact with Grandmother".

Will someone point out to me how I have "given it out" on that thread?

Deletions this morning?
Some of us obviously spend more time on here than others...

Berylbee of course we are decorous - we are laydees
Let's not fret about what might or might nit have been said and in what particular tone of voice - that's threads about threads and that way lies dissent

Aka I don't understand that. What have I "given out"? totally

BerylBee the tone of the site has improved a lot since I first joined. I think we now, in general, tend to thrash things out in a less personal manner.

Its not what you say it is the way that you say it.

I thought that even if it wasn't A specific post , it was referring to something recent (pst deletions this morning) - hence my reference to "today", although I could have just left it without "today" in the sentence.

To be frank, I think the tone of this site (i.e. gransnet) is incredibly polite and courteous.
I'm not forever surfing around looking for social forums (fora ?),
but I've probably visited about an average number for an average person.
Believe it, you Guys are not the norm.
Mostly posters on even normal bulletin board sites express themselves in a much more robust fashion than happens here.
Clearly there is a back story to some of the posts above, but as a relative newcomer (and somewhat infrequent visitor) it's all over my innocent little head. . .

I was one who missed your unique take on life when you temporarily left us jingl but I'm sure you'd be the first to agree that if you're prepared to give it out you also must be prepared to take it too. Ironic or what?

Soutra we weren't talking about a specific post today but more the general. I agree we have to give almost everyone the benefit of the doubt.

I think there is also a difference between asking for actual advice and perhaps just hoping for some understanding and support.

Thanks Bags and Gagagran. Appreciated.

I agree bags and wonder if jingle is always going to be jumped on for her style? I think she comes across as full of robust common sense personally! I suspect she'd be a good friend in need.

Not that she said anything that suggested she didn't have a heart.

I think that the phrase "have a heart" is patronising. Those posters who know jingle of old know that she has a kind heart, as well as a certain no nonsense style when she wishes. I can understand her annoyance.