I think once you have been admin on a forum (referring back to someone's question on another thread as to why Admin don't step in more quickly) you don't get as shocked, once you have done it for a while. It's made me far more tolerant of people's little ways. I am far more likely to be surprised by how fast people are to take umbrage and to see slights where often none were intended. The problem is, we don't get to see PMs. I once half-disbelieved a member when she said that a male was stalking her and sending her suggestive photos, so told her that I would give him a week - and he sent me one!
Who knew that you could buy half-dressed sexy witch garden ornaments with their legs wide open...
Some people need to know that there is a safety net. I would never stop people from having that choice.