NB There are men on Gransnet

grumppa

The name Gransnet is a straight derivation from Mumsnet, and an obvious contraction of grannies. I don’t think grandfathers are ever referred to as grans or grannies, so if men are as welcome as we are told perhaps it should be renamed Grandsnet.

I think it comes from grandparents and is easier to say than Grandsnet.

But hey, I'm not looking for trouble!

Grumppa yes I have seen some of your posts and was not sure about your username but will now know you are male.
I forgot I have seen Rufus on a few posts I beleive he is the one from Australia (I could be wrong though)
That is three I know of then perhaps because Grandad1943 is quite often posting I have noticed more.

If I tried, I could probably name half a dozen or more other male posters who post often. It is not always obvious that they are male, their usernames are neutral and they don't make a song and dance about needing the site re-made to fit them. They just join in the general conversation, sometimes adding "from a male perspective . . " when that is relevant to them giving their different viewpoint.

Sorry Rufus and I have made no impression on you, 3nanny6. Must try harder.

Grandad People, be they men or women, are drawn to Gransnet by seeing a conversation that they would like to join. These conversations are not started by the admin staff, they are begun by ordinary members who have a question or an observation, and they continue when someone replies, someone else answers that reply, ageeing or disagreeing, and it proceeds from there.

The Gransnet forums are a grass-roots phenomenon, not one created and designed by psychologists for a specific social engineering project. It is up to individual posters to initiate threads that attract readers and/or posters. If you want more men on Gransnet, then you will have to start up threads that they will want to join in with, on subjects that attract them, and then keep adding to the conversations, in a way that encourages men to reply to you and develop the debate or the chat so that more men then join in. If there is a need and a demand for men to chat online in a friendly way, then they will be drawn in, but you can't just demand that someone else does it.

The only man I know of on Gransnet is Grandad1943, he must like to be amongst all these women on here. HAHAHA.

Saying thank-you ladies is not so bad a lot of worse terms could be used.

Apricity you ask what other names can we think of for people of mature years. One thing that always gets me is when I have the grand-children our with me and I meet
someone who knows me, they will always ask the children

"Are you out with GrandMa for the day?
My grand-children look at them blankly as they never call me GrandMa they call me Nannie. The children always say it's one of those people again that call you "GrandMa."
Truthfully it makes me feel old, I dress fashionably, keep my hair nice and wear some make-up and even have my own teeth all you people that call me GrandMa please stop
it drives me nuts.

Would it be reasonable to suggest that most people on GN, irregardless of gender, sexual preferences and/or identification etc are mostly of a 'certain age'- whatever that may be? We could be oldies, grizzlies, wrinklies, old farts, old ducks, old bags, golden oldies, sunsetters........??? Or we could be Grandies or perhaps Grandiloquents?

What other names can you think of for people of mature years? Well, at least the reasonably nice ones.

Grandad - you say a ‘greatly increased senior male membership . . . . would bring forward a much broader range of discussions with a far greater balance in the views being put forward.’

What sort of ‘balance’ do you mean, brought by the senior male membership? it won’t be any better or worse then the vast range and shades of views we have here already, but I’m all for welcoming grandads too, if they want to join.

Grandad In your post at 08:55:29 you imply that having a balanced number of men and women on the site would eliminate the "slagging off" of grans-on-grans. Have you seen the amount of attacks exchanged on Facebook, where men are at least as abusive as women?

PECS. I don't at all, I am all for healthy discussion.
I felt a bit "shut down" by someone else's post, so bit back. Not really like me, and probably the other poster didn't mean it in a nasty way, but you know how comments can read differently to face to face discussions.
Grandad does make some very valid points. It was ironic that a thread about being more tolerant went the way it did.

I don't feel offended by the use of pet names, ladies, girls, peeps etc. You can't please everyone. ?

"You lot"?
Covers all genders.

Grandad1943

Me and I believe Rufus2 both use the term Ladies or even Good Ladies on my part. However, I will now cease to use that term as I now understand some of you Good Ladies do not like it. ?

Seriously though, I will stop using the termination in the interests of preserving a peaceful forum. ?

I don't mind at all, Grandad

It's better than being called an old biddy or as some women on here called some of the laydies!!

I regularly used to visit an apparently largely male forum, where some of them evidently delighted in lurking on mumsnet, picking the daftest posts to share, and gleefully presenting them as evidence that all women are mad/deluded/clueless/vile gold diggers, etc.

Wow grandad. You’ve basically said women slag each other off and men have more balanced views. Welcome to 2020.

I will admit to preferring ‘ladies’ to ‘guys’ or you guys’. I’m dare say it’s a sure sign of grumpy-old-bag-ness, but those really grate on me.
Mind you, so does the gender-neutral ‘peeps’, as in, ‘What do peeps think?’ ?

hmm! Discogran equally your riposte could sound like someone who believes they are above a challenge!

I believe that the GN owners and management will be forced into making fundamental changes to Gransnet in the not too distant future.

Despite the protestations that Gransnet is in existence for the use of both genders, anyone viewing the overall layout and structure of the site will very soon come to realise that it is intended (in reality) for women only.

I feel that the above forum criteria was very much demonstrated to be flawed again only last week when GNHQ opened a thread intended to bring about a scenario of members being more respectful to each other.

However, the above thread very quickly degenerated into nothing short than a series of "gran against gran slag off fights" with more posts being deleted than I believe I have ever witnessed in any thread in more than two and a half years of forum membership.

The way forward is, without doubt, to widen the base of forum membership so as to truly encourage a greatly increased senior male membership. That I believe would bring forward a much broader range of discussions with a far greater balance in the views being put forward.

Iam64

You'll find the 'odd' male poster on mumsnet as well. Poor chaps, always discriminated against. Remember all those signs at golf clubs "no men, jews or blacks"

Well put!

Men are of course welcome - some of my best friends are men ???
...but I really don’t want to end up being lectured to by pompous old dinosaurs - of either sex.

Sorry just read Iam64 post properly....

Is there a Dadsnet ? Or do men contribute to mumsnet?
Agree grandsnet would be better.

You'll find the 'odd' male poster on mumsnet as well. Poor chaps, always discriminated against. Remember all those signs at golf clubs "no men, jews or blacks"

The name Gransnet is a straight derivation from Mumsnet, and an obvious contraction of grannies. I don’t think grandfathers are ever referred to as grans or grannies, so if men are as welcome as we are told perhaps it should be renamed Grandsnet.

SueDonim

How do you know whether you like a post until you’ve read it?

Just what I was going to post!

Don’t understand suedonim

How do you know whether you like a post until you’ve read it?