Posting on threads to put them down

halfpint1

Yes it's a relief when some posters move away. Because I've lived in France for a long time I find all threads interesting as a window into a life I didn't lead.

I agree with you as I live in Italy and find GN "a window into a life I no longer live", as you do.

I totally agree with Beswitched and sympathize with Witzend too.

I DO sometimes start a thread, but usually on a lighthearted subject. This doesn't mean I do not make food collections for Ukraine. I haven't forgotten the poor women and children in Afghanistan either.

Ps: the recent thread I most enjoyed was the one about "embarrassing moments" (blasted pigeons - still makes me giggle!).

Re the lasagne.
The recipe included pork.
It was very controversial.

The thread peaked with one charmer (I can still remember their username!) coming on to say;

‘I’m glad that I’m not coming to your house.
I hate lasagne’

I’m tempted Elegran

JaneJudge

can anyone remember the lasagne thread?

people just came on the thread to be spiteful about lasagne

How can you be spiteful about lasagne? Ze mind, she boggle!

FannyCornforth

Grannynannywanny

Completely agree with all you’ve said Beswitched. No idea why anyone takes the time to read a thread then take the time to post on it specifically to say they’re not interested.

I think that this tends to happen when threads are mentioned in the GN email newsletter thingy.
Threads always go a bit peculiar.
I think that some people think that they are duty bound to comment; regardless of whether or not they have anything of interest to add.

It's a bit like this Amazon reviews that say something like 'I bought this for my wife, but her birthday's not till Tuesday so she hasn't opened it yet.' Not remotely helpful, but the poster must feel they've joined in .

As for 'first world problems', we live in a first world country (at least for now), so what other sort of problems do people think we are going to have? By definition we all have access to the Internet, so are not the most deprived people in the UK, either.

Also, 'get a life' is the most meaningless phrase I can think of. What does it mean?

What is happening in Ukraine is absolutely terrible and I can see some people myself included so horrified that ordinary posts seem irrelevant, so I can understand comments there maybe. Saying posts are boring is different however and I agree why bother to comment a post is boring

Strewth - it disappeared. Yet more irony. Will this go too, I wonder?

Elegran

I'm now expecting someone to post saying they really don't care about people posting to say they have no interest in a thread and they don't understand why anyone bothers to express an opinion about it . . . .

After which there could be an exchange of views about that post, culminating in a general punch-up between those who think posts that go off-subject should be instantly deleted (and the posters banned?) and those who haven't read any previous posts and believe that their own half-baked reply to what they mistakenly thought the original post was about is the only intelligent answer.

Calendargirl

Also, sometimes certain posters manage to drop in how they are obviously more intelligent and academic than the average GN’er. They have degrees in this and that, have held down marvellous jobs all over the world, just to let others know that they really don’t have the time or inclination to waste on such trivial posts.

Or announce on a thread that they would never read such and such a paper, holiday in such and such a resort, watch Eastenders, shop in Aldi etc. Yet they seem to know a lot about them.

I'm now expecting someone to post saying they really don't care about people posting to say they have no interest in a thread and they don't understand why anyone bothers to express an opinion about it . . . .

After which there could be an exchange of views about that post, culminating in a general punch-up between those who think posts that go off-subject should be instantly deleted (and the posters banned?) and those who haven't read any previous posts and believe that their own half-baked reply to what they mistakenly thought the original post was about is the only intelligent answer.

Grannynannywanny

Completely agree with all you’ve said Beswitched. No idea why anyone takes the time to read a thread then take the time to post on it specifically to say they’re not interested.

I think that this tends to happen when threads are mentioned in the GN email newsletter thingy.
Threads always go a bit peculiar.
I think that some people think that they are duty bound to comment; regardless of whether or not they have anything of interest to add.

Witzend

My pet peeve in that department is the C-word threads (apologies for mentioning such a thing in March) which are posted on by people like me who start their various types of preparation very early.

There is invariably someone popping up to say they hate the C-word, often with a reason why, nobody should be posting about it until December, it’s so over-commercialised, etc. etc.

Why on earth anyone bothers even to read a quite obviously C-word thread when they’re so anti, I don’t understand.

Took me a while to work out what you meant by C-word threads, witz! I was thinking, what? witz wouldn't use that c-word, surely? Then I realised!!

Which shows, I've also realised, how little significance the C you were talking about now holds in my head. That was a nice realisation ?

Grannynannywanny

Completely agree with all you’ve said Beswitched. No idea why anyone takes the time to read a thread then take the time to post on it specifically to say they’re not interested.

I don't think they bother to read the thread, or even the OP. Just moan and out...

Yes it's a relief when some posters move away. Because I've lived in France for a long time I find all threads interesting as a window into a life I didn't lead.

GagaJo

Overall, I think it depends. If it's the inevitable 'lets slag off M&H' threads, I think those that respond negatively to that are quite within the bounds of what is reasonable. After all, if you start a negative thread, you have to accept some people will hold a vehement opposite opinion.

As for other threads, if it's my thread with negative comments, I'm not bothered. There are enough positive people to drown out the negative. I'm aware not everyone is as thick skinned as me though.

But in that case surely come on and say some like:

I still find their food delicious. I've no idea why M & S come in for so much criticism lately.

Rather than:
'Why have you started this thread OP?'

'Meh. First world problem'

'Is this all you have to worry about? Lucky you. Try living in Ukraine'

The first response is offering an opinion on the subject under discussion.

The others are rude, sneery and irrelevant.

Also, sometimes certain posters manage to drop in how they are obviously more intelligent and academic than the average GN’er. They have degrees in this and that, have held down marvellous jobs all over the world, just to let others know that they really don’t have the time or inclination to waste on such trivial posts.

Sorry, besw, just seen you reply saying the same thing. I'd only got that far in the thread from the beginning ?

MawtheMerrier

I think they used to makyth man !

With respect , as someone who is vaguely uncomfortable with threads which pose what I find intrusive questions, such as personal hygiene, I think I am entitled to say so.
Everybody is different, but on the whole I regard chat threads as an online equivalent of chatting with friends and these are not topics I would expect in our conversation.

You're certainly entitled to say you think something is an intrusive question. But not more entitled than the person who asked it is entitled to ask intrusive questions.

The way to deal with such things if one finds them unpleasant or intrusive is not to answer the question. Presumably the people who do answer such things don't think they are intrusive.

eazybee

Caused by an inflated ego combined with a perceived lack of attention.

I’m quoting this as I think it needs repeating.
Very pithy eazybee

Completely agree with all you’ve said Beswitched. No idea why anyone takes the time to read a thread then take the time to post on it specifically to say they’re not interested.

That reminds me, Beswitched I have crumpets in the freezer that need eating up. I must get them out. Thank you, rambling conversations about minor things can be very useful.

That again reminds me that I was tempted by this "wonky bread box" from Earth and Wheat, but I didn't act on it because I already had no room in the freezer to store it all. www.earthandwheat.com/
If anyone tries it, I'd be interested in hearing what the stuff is like.

Personally I don't like threads that end up as a tit for tat between two posters with their own agenda, very boring for others reading the thread.

Overall, I think it depends. If it's the inevitable 'lets slag off M&H' threads, I think those that respond negatively to that are quite within the bounds of what is reasonable. After all, if you start a negative thread, you have to accept some people will hold a vehement opposite opinion.

As for other threads, if it's my thread with negative comments, I'm not bothered. There are enough positive people to drown out the negative. I'm aware not everyone is as thick skinned as me though.

But this is behaviour I see on all sorts of threads. I was furiously berated by someone recently for posting about some ordinary dilemma because there is a war in Ukraine and I shouldn't be chatting about something so trivial.

Oh yes - the "first-world-problems^ put down.

Looking at the Wiki definition of the 'first world' is illuminating... what it used to mean and what it means now.

I really don't understand why people do this. If you mention poverty here in the UK, they will tell you that you don't know what poverty really means because someone in South Sudan is much poorer. Is it a way of silencing dissent? Virtue signalling? Maybe they don't approve of your stance on an issue and this is a way of shutting you up? I don't get it.

Georgesgran

My ‘peeve’ is when a poster reports the death of someone - an actor/author/sports person and someone immediately replies ‘never heard of him/her’. Why bother to do that?

God yes.
I’ve started several of threads where this has happened.
So rude and ignorant