Posting on threads to put them down

Thanks Elless

Exactly Elegran

If someone wants to post about the quality of M&S crumpets or the price of take away coffee or whatever they're perfectly entitled to. They don't need people posting yawny bored replies such as 'why would you start a thread about this' or 'First world problem.'

And the question 'is this all you have to worry about' is so insensitive.

People often post on Gransnet as a distraction from their worries.
Can you imagine how someone who is grieving, going through a marriage break up or worried about losing their home, feels when some idiotic stranger supercilliosly asks them this stupid question because they dared to start a thread on something light hearted and unimportant to take their mind off their problem for a few minutes?

Good thread Beswitched I've often thought this. It's even happening on here.

My ‘peeve’ is when a poster reports the death of someone - an actor/author/sports person and someone immediately replies ‘never heard of him/her’. Why bother to do that?

I totally agree OP .
There was a time when I would have quite happily started a new GN thread, but I don't bother now for the reasons mentioned above.
So I stick mainly to lurking or if going somewhere new, I will ask for advice on the Travel threads.

For the more serious issues such as Covid and Ukraine war, I find Mumsnet more informed.

Urmstongran

I thought AIBU threads are for that reason? Opinions.
Perhaps better to put some topics under ‘Chat’ instead?
?

There are similar posts on here to UG's but this is the shortest to quote.

If they had an opinion to state, that would be OK., but the people Beswitched is talking about don't post opinions. They don't have any, because they have no interest whatsoever in the subject. So why are they taking the trouble to reply, just to tell us the fascinating and unmissable fact that they know nuffin and care less? The only reason I can think of is that they like to see their username, just as some people like to hear the sound of their own voice and would recite the phone directory if that was the only way to hear themselves.

Oh I love Lasagne and Christmas. Not together though.

can anyone remember the lasagne thread?

people just came on the thread to be spiteful about lasagne

My pet peeve in that department is the C-word threads (apologies for mentioning such a thing in March) which are posted on by people like me who start their various types of preparation very early.

There is invariably someone popping up to say they hate the C-word, often with a reason why, nobody should be posting about it until December, it’s so over-commercialised, etc. etc.

Why on earth anyone bothers even to read a quite obviously C-word thread when they’re so anti, I don’t understand.

Yes I agree Beswitched, I very nearly commented on the other thread about pj's - usual person commenting with rude remarks. That very person closed down a thread (about 2 years ago) and people left never to return!
If you don't like it, move on.

easzybee is absolutely correct.

The best way to deal with the Troll threads is to just ignore them.

But this is behaviour I see on all sorts of threads. I was furiously berated by someone recently for posting about some ordinary dilemma because there is a war in Ukraine and I shouldn't be chatting about something so trivial.

That kind of posting, along with the arrogant 'I have better things to worry about' is rude and unpleasant.

Yes thats a fair point Maw, there are some threads that are started to get people to talk about bodily functions and they do need highlighting, they are usually trolls though so thats probably not what beswitched is talking about.

I am with Beswitched. It is not a question of not liking comment that disagrees with OP, but someone who posts, just to put people down.

As I quoted going on a thread to just say 'First world problem'

But you don't have to join in every thread Maw. Just as you don't have to join in every real life convsation.

There's lots of threads on here that deal with subjects that either don't interest me or I find uncomfortable.

But other people are entitled to discuss them without me popping in to make the OP feel bad.

Why should I do that?

Beswitched

MerylStreep

Beswitched
If you ask for opinions on AIBU, that’s what your going to get.
Some you’ll agree with, some you don’t.
It would be very boring if everyone agreed.

I'm not talking about people giving their opinion though. I'm talking about those who come onto a thread for no other reason than to let everyone know they are not interested in the thread - usually in as rude a tone as possible. I mean, apart from it being ill mannered, why do they bother?

I know what you mean.

On Facebook recently, a topic - clearly of interest to some - and a number of posters making comments along the lines of "who cares?" or "get a life".

I pointed out to one of them that they obviously 'cared' sufficiently to make a comment... and received a torrent of insults. I didn't respond. Such individuals are simply arrogant and ill-mannered and, as such, are probably best ignored. And the fact is, they do care - they care that a subject has been raised that is unimportant in their world and want you to know that they "don't care", because that's their way of telling you that you shouldn't either. If you see what I mean...

I think they used to makyth man !

With respect , as someone who is vaguely uncomfortable with threads which pose what I find intrusive questions, such as personal hygiene, I think I am entitled to say so.
Everybody is different, but on the whole I regard chat threads as an online equivalent of chatting with friends and these are not topics I would expect in our conversation.

'Manners used to taketh man", but I'm afraid these days people are more likely to tell you what they really think.
Maybe we should respond by asking them what they would like to discuss.
I have worked with people like this who sighed and groaned at any conversation and called us dinosaurs. When confronted and give the chance to talk about they would like to discuss they were usually speechless.They enjoy being negative, how sad.

No I'm not talking about any thread in particular. It's something I notice a lot on here and I have raised it on several threads.

Disagree with the OP by all means, but why just come on to announce you're bored by the topic /have more important things to worry about etc.

If you're not interested in the thread then just ignore it.

Urmstongran

I thought AIBU threads are for that reason? Opinions.
Perhaps better to put some topics under ‘Chat’ instead?
?

Opinions yes, put downs no. Everyone on Gransnet is equal, and it is about respect. If you are not interested in the post, dont carry on reading and dont post put downs.

Are you talking about the pyjamas thread becaise thats not how I interpreted it.

MerylStreep

Beswitched
If you ask for opinions on AIBU, that’s what your going to get.
Some you’ll agree with, some you don’t.
It would be very boring if everyone agreed.

I'm not talking about people giving their opinion though. I'm talking about those who come onto a thread for no other reason than to let everyone know they are not interested in the thread - usually in as rude a tone as possible. I mean, apart from it being ill mannered, why do they bother?

Caused by an inflated ego combined with a perceived lack of attention.

What a good point Beswitched I started a post about a travel blog which I thought was very interesting. I was criticised the rest of the post purely based on the person presenting the programme. Who people find unpleasant I watched it because it was an interesting travel programme.

If people disliked the presenter so much why did they bother watching it. I actually pick and choose what to post now based on that experience which wasn’t very nice. I also don’t get back to a post when I see nasty remarks people make for whatever reason.

I thought AIBU threads are for that reason? Opinions.
Perhaps better to put some topics under ‘Chat’ instead?
?

I think they do it as a way of Putting People In Their Place.
It's nearly always old timers who do this thing of disrupting threads.
Its like a dog p*****g on their territory.
A case of,
"you might think this thread is going well but don't forget that I call the shots around here and I can mess this whole thread up if I want"