Has anyone on GN got the right to give private information about you?

MaizieD

It's not our business to be curious, or to speculate,*Ug*.

Fleurpepper is clearly upset about something, we should be supporting her, not spoon stirring. That's why these threads get banned.

Whilst I agree with your second paragraph Maizie, I don't see why we shouldn't be curious or speculate when the OP themselves already gave us an example scenario of "are you the wife of the famous actor xyz." Of course that encourages curious minds to tick. Well it does mine anyway.

And Fleurpepper did start the thread.

This thread has given me a headache! I’m more confused at the end of it than I was at the start

Well I think I know what this is about and who.
I may be wrong but please don’t ask me to explain or, as is said, I would have to kill your

annsixty

Well I think I know what this is about and who.
I may be wrong but please don’t ask me to explain or, as is said, I would have to kill your

You’re wiser than me then .

I have no idea.

Nor me, and I usually pride myself in knowing all the goss!

I've seen it now

Not OK and irrelevant to discussion

I keep looking at this threads title, but haven’t read the thread tbh.

But what I will say for what it is worth.

Never, ever mistake social media with RL.

It isn’t, and however friendly you become with anyone, it isn’t remotely like “knowing” someone that you meet face to face on a regular basis.

So only divulge anything about yourself, that you would not really mind everyone knowing - otherwise keep your counsel.

Joseanne

MaizieD

It's not our business to be curious, or to speculate,*Ug*.

Fleurpepper is clearly upset about something, we should be supporting her, not spoon stirring. That's why these threads get banned.

Whilst I agree with your second paragraph Maizie, I don't see why we shouldn't be curious or speculate when the OP themselves already gave us an example scenario of "are you the wife of the famous actor xyz." Of course that encourages curious minds to tick. Well it does mine anyway.

What I was saying was, that however curious we were we should keep it to ourselves and not express it in public. Haven't enough of these threads ended up being removed because 'curiosity' leads to speculation, leads to recrimination and inevitable upset?

I have no idea what the op is talking about which is most likely a good thing.

I’ve seen it now too.
I don’t see why it’s a problem tbh.
I wouldn’t have thought anything of it if you hadn’t started this thread.
FP, If it really bothered you why on earth didn’t you report it and explain why?
The mods would have taken it down. Problem solved.

I think I know what's going on, but probably have got the wrong end of the stick as usual.
Not my beeswax anyway.

Exactly FannyCornforth if the troublesome post has been reported immediately with reasons, GNHQ would have removed it simples.

Nana3

I think I know what's going on, but probably have got the wrong end of the stick as usual.
Not my beeswax anyway.

Everyone is going to know at this rate, whether they care or not!
FP I don’t think that it was actually top secret information in the first place

^ FP I do t think it was actually top secret information in the first place^

Fanny that gets the award for the most understated post of 2022

The penny has dropped here, on reading that.

GGravy ooh, an award! Thank you 😊

"Oh yes you told!"
"Oh no I didn't!"
"Waaah! Not fair!"

Good job it's pantomime season.

Fleurpepper
If you think posters don’t recognise a posters style of writing and comments you are sadly wrong.
In previous incarnations you have told us more about your life over the years than, imo, any other poster.
All you’ve done here is made people look over their shoulder, not nice.

There is no way of knowing who the person is to whom you are sending a PM. Therefore the rule is not to give out personal information. If you do, then Gransnet cannot take responsibility if the person shares that info. It is down to us as individuals to act with caution.

If this is what I think it is, it crossed my mind at the start but I discounted it as impossible because it is so widely known that even I was aware of it.

Unless there is a lot more to it than meets the eye, this thread seems a bit attention-seeking really.

probably have got the wrong end of the stick as usual
That's exactly it, because until we really know or meet someone on here we could have formed completely the wrong opinion about them. But I'm not sure it matters to anyone if we speculate. I speculate about Meghan Markle's motives but haven't got a clue. On GN I speculate who wears M & S, who eats bananas for breakfast, who has a naughty dog, who has all their presents organised and wrapped etc. Just a bit of fun really.
However, I don't speculate and would never comment on any private info anyone has imparted to me, especially if they have asked me to keep "stumm". (I'll leave you to speculate why i dislike that expression.) That would be a breech of trust and the grans I have met from here could 100% vouch for the fact I am trustworthy.
It's interesting though as an individual the type of speculation I have received about my own posts. Most incorrect. One person on GN even told me that a personal photo wasn't actually my own and that I had lifted it from the Internet!

MerylStreep

Fleurpepper
If you think posters don’t recognise a posters style of writing and comments you are sadly wrong.
In previous incarnations you have told us more about your life over the years than, imo, any other poster.
All you’ve done here is made people look over their shoulder, not nice.

I’ve just cottoned on to what this is very likely all about now.
I too did think it ages back. Styles of expression are pretty inherent and eventually the mask slips. But surely it’s of little or no consequence? Welcome back I say. It was your decision to do so FP.
😊

Is this the most convoluted, yet thorough way, of ‘outing’ oneself?

The OP said in a later post "Imagine someone sent you a very friendly pm saying something like 'are you the wife of the famous actor 'xyz'- but don't worry I'll keep stumm. and you replied 'yes I am, but please keep it to yourself'. And then several posters make allusion to this piece of information, which is totally irrelevant to whatever is being discussed, again and again." which gives hints to what kind of information WAS given to one particular poster.

If *Fleurpepper genuinely didn't want the secret passed on, the simplist and most effective way to stop any rumour would have been to answer, "Good grief! Not me! You've got it wrong there." That would have stopped it in its tracks - whether the rumour was true or not. However she told one person, and we all know that when you tell one person a secret (particularly a stranger) they only tell two very good friends, who each only tell two very discreet acquaintances etc etc.

Then she makes a great fuss about broadcasting to the whole world, via GN and the internet, that someone has revealed her secret life. She doesn't begin by asking GN to get the references deleted - which would have minimised the spread - or contacting the perpetrators.

Somehow, I think the lady doth protest too much. The louder she shouts, the more ears will hear that she has a secret, which she is not going to reveal to them, so there!

Elegran well said and very wittily (and friendly) too!