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Mojack26 Tue 20-Aug-24 14:11:53

Hi,1st time posting....Just struggling to come to terms that my daughter and her fiance are most likely separating after 8 years together. This is on the back of my other daughter and husband splitting after 3 years married and 10 together prior to that,no family. However my youngest daughter has a 2 year old with Autism and and 11 year old stepson. I love the kids dearly and my 'step' grandson I might not see anymore which devastates me...as I love him dearly. My eldest daughter has since moved back here with me. My youngest daughter and grandaughter would have moved back in here but I have no more room and I am racked with guilt as I do not see how she can afford anything by herself and still pay a mortgage. I hasten to add I also love her fiance and was not aware things were so bad that it couldn't be sorted. I am also not with my girls dad as we divorced 30 years ago. It's like history repeating itself.......Just need to get it out my system as I feel very on my own,upset and just plain tired and worn out. In 6 years Ivehad a wedding,engagement,divorce,heart attack,stroke and deaths of my father and my wee soul mate,my dog. Now this....Really just venting and feeling sorry for myself....I have great circle of close friends but I do not want to burden them yet again...they would say different but they are my rocks as I have no other close family. I was an only child. I am normally the strong capable one but I am struggling this time....Thank you for reading.

Truffle43 Tue 20-Aug-24 14:28:46

No advice just a big hug, we all have times like this.

DancingDuck Tue 20-Aug-24 14:34:45

Aww so sorry to hear this, sounds super stressful so make sure to take care of yourself as well as your family.
On a practical note, might it be an option for your daughters to rent a place together ?
Hope things improve for you soon x

Mojack26 Tue 20-Aug-24 14:42:32

❤ thank you x

Mojack26 Tue 20-Aug-24 14:45:47

❤thank you

Mojack26 Tue 20-Aug-24 14:50:47

Dancing Duck...thought of that too,but eldest in a lot of debt somain reason for coming home. X

Cossy Tue 20-Aug-24 16:14:15

I too have no real advice other than to wish you all luck and another hug! thanks

Just a thought, if your DD is staying in her family home could she take a professional person in as a lodger to help with living costs? Single professional woman??