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What no longer bothers you (now you are older!)? You could win a fabulous L'Oreal goodie bag worth £200! NOW CLOSED

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CariGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 26-Jan-15 11:31:12

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catmiaow Tue 27-Jan-15 11:24:50

I am not so bothered about talking about sex. I am not that bothered about getting changed in front of people and I am not worried about smear tests.

Thesplan2 Tue 27-Jan-15 01:12:37

I used to worry all the time how my hair looked - it was too thin,too flyaway & would never do what I wanted it to. In 2008, I had to have brain surgery and suddenly I wanted to keep my hair! So..I asked them if they could do the surgery without shaving my head - they cut the top of my head like a boiled egg and then popped it back on again! This would have been great - but they stapled it back on with my fringe in the wrong place !! It took an age to get it to grow back how I wanted it - so now..I never worry about my hair, because I know it has been so much worse !!

Tresco Mon 26-Jan-15 23:31:48

I'm no longer bothered about not being a size 10, so happily wear jeans, which I didn't do for years. It's very liberating.

I've also learned to get a lot less cross about minor domestic accidents, such a family member breaking something.

Anya Mon 26-Jan-15 23:12:32

I have no sense of direction and spend a disproportionate amount of time getting lost - on foot, by car, finding the right platform at stations and even once the wrong airline terminal. I used to work myself up into a right state.

But now I don't get all hot and bothered anymore. There's always another train (I've found out the hard way), if you keep driving around and around eventually you'll find a sign, and if you get lost on foot there's always a kindly person who'll take pity and steer you in the right direction if you simply ask.

Over the decades I've found I always get where I'm going eventually and I've had adventures and met all sorts of interesting people along the way.

Marelli Mon 26-Jan-15 23:02:37

I don't worry about what anyone thinks about how I look, either! My hair is white, my stomach is anything but flat (though my bum does seem to be rather flat these days - in fact it's so flat it seems to be heading towards the back of my knees shock)!
I feel confident and can walk into a room full of people and always find someone to talk to without feeling shy, which is something I could never have done 20 years ago.

Grannyknot Mon 26-Jan-15 20:33:56

I am no longer bothered by having saggy boobs, "salami skin" on my legs, "very close" veins (as my daughter used to say).

I also am not bothered by anyone who gives me hard time - because I avoid and/or ignore them grin

perkypeach Mon 26-Jan-15 20:25:53

I feel more confident now than I did in my twenties where appearance and how I appeared to others was priority but I lacked inner confidence and directness and able to communicate what I really wanted back then

Nowadays although I am more wrinkly with lots of lumps and bumps I really dont worry about how I look anymore as I possess that inner confidence which radiates through I concentrate more on my personal happiness and trying to enrich the lives of others and living in the present .

Its feeling comfortable with who you are and in your own skin thats important

constance Mon 26-Jan-15 20:20:15

I no longer worry about slimming into a bikini every summer. Rashvests and wetsuits are the way forward!

goldengirl Mon 26-Jan-15 19:07:05

I think overall I tend to bother more! My appearance is important to me but if I pass a shop window and see my reflection I don't hibernate but just think hey ho perhaps I'll look better next time. I also have more confidence to deal with issues and have found that by asking for something politely I generally get what I want. If I don't then I look elsewhere - and take my revenge via Facebook or Trip Advisor!

grannycakes Mon 26-Jan-15 19:05:03

Like others I no longer dye my hair but the liberating thing is that I no longer worry whether other people like my choices of make up or clothes

Ariadne Mon 26-Jan-15 18:58:23

Saying no to things I don't want to do.
Entertaining my way and not bothering what anyone thinks.
Money (but I am lucky)

loopylou Mon 26-Jan-15 18:42:48

You weren't the only one to do a double take Ana!
I thought it grin Liz46!

joannapiano Mon 26-Jan-15 18:29:07

I don't worry about dying young any more!

Coolgran65 Mon 26-Jan-15 17:58:19

I have accepted me and I'm me - I don't worry the same, I say what I need to say, but hopefully kindly. If someone doesn't like me it no longer upsets me.

I also, like a pp... question the 'experts' and those in authority.

I've accepted I've a fat middle, middle being between my shoulders and my bum.

I now have manicures and go to the beauty salon, all without guilt.

Retirement is wonderful...

Liz46 Mon 26-Jan-15 16:47:07

Probably not as concerned as the other ladies in the changing room! Thanks for clarifying my post Ana.

Ana Mon 26-Jan-15 16:24:28

Oh! You mean you put the wet pants on first...! I was a bit concerned there grin

Liz46 Mon 26-Jan-15 16:12:23

Like Marmight I no longer worry what people think. For instance I was in the shower at the gym the other day and dropped my pants on the floor. I happily went into the changing room and aimed the hair dryer to my rear. I got a few funny looks and I suspect one or two thought I have Alzheimers but never mind!

jinglbellsfrocks Mon 26-Jan-15 15:35:05

There is nothing. Why would there be? Why would anyone stop caring about anything simply because they have reached a certain age?

janerowena Mon 26-Jan-15 15:12:51

Tackling those in authority, whether it be police, doctors or teachers, I ask for explanations and question people closely and make them explain properly. For years I assumed that 'experts' knew more than I did, or could reason out for myself. I'm not afraid of confrontation. I don't care if people don't like me, there are plenty left who do.

However - is this meant to be more beauty-related? If so, my eyebrows. They seem to do very well by themselves nowadays. It's lovely to no longer have to pluck them into a fine and elegant line. Only a couple of hairs seem to grow out of place anyway, and they are pale and fine ones so I rarely bother to touch them. I've seen some pretty shocking examples of eyebrow stencilling and thought, I am SO pleased not to feel I have to do that.

grannyactivist Mon 26-Jan-15 14:02:30

When I was younger I was a rule following conformist, afraid of being judged and found wanting. Now that I'm not bothered about social norms in the same way I've become a risk taking activist and I'm not afraid to be different if I think it's the right thing to do.

nonnasusie Mon 26-Jan-15 13:27:37

I no longer worry about my curly hair and in the summer let it dry naturally!!

loopylou Mon 26-Jan-15 13:26:53

Bliss not having to conform to 'corporate image'! I can wear exactly what I feel like wearing (make up or not!) totally depending on how I feel at the time. I'm a silver fox, so flaunt it!
Have simplified my face and body care too - more time to be me smile

Retiredguy Mon 26-Jan-15 13:21:27

Since retiring last September I no longer stress about which tie to wear for work each day.
Ironing is another none issue nowadays too, it was a big job every week with work shirts and related kit.
Nowadays it's 'easy care' togs all the way and minimal ironing required.

Galen Mon 26-Jan-15 13:12:58

I love my white hair and as I always wear it up, I don't have to fuss about how it's looking all the time!

Marmight Mon 26-Jan-15 12:55:00

I no longer care what anyone else thinks of me or how I look. Having spent a lifetime worrying I have suddenly realised that really, in the big scheme of things, it really doesn't matter so long as no one is hurt or upset. smile