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EmmaGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 28-Sept-17 11:41:23

Thinking ahead to a time when you will no longer be here is undoubtedly not a pleasant thought. The majority of us plan other big life events such as birthdays, weddings, baby showers and/or anniversaries down to a tee, however when it comes to funerals very few of us have detailed plans in place. If there's something in particular you have in mind, whether it’s something beautiful, something personal, or even something humorous, Co-op Funeralcare would like to know.

Here’s what David Collingwood, Head of Operations for Co-op Funeralcare has to say: “Funerals are very much about personal choice and reflecting the personality and interests of an individual. This is becoming increasingly evident through the growth we’ve seen in people choosing to pre-plan their own ceremonies using a funeral plan.”

Do you have a specific piece of poetry that you want read out by a certain someone? Maybe you’d request that all of your friends and family turn up in fancy dress? Or perhaps you already have in mind a certain song that will put a smile on everyone’s face...Monty Python’s ‘Always Look on the Bright Side of Life’ and Frank Sinatra’s ‘My Way’ are popular songs requested for funerals!

Co-op Funeralcare would like to know what your funeral wishes are, so please share them below and all who comment will be entered into a prize draw, where one lucky GNer will win a £300 voucher or their choice (from a list).

Thanks and good luck!
GNHQ

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sweir1 Thu 05-Oct-17 20:31:38

I would like something low key and light hearted

JosieS Thu 05-Oct-17 13:44:39

Completely private cremation with no one but the undertakers in attendance. No flowers, donations to Cancer Research UK if people wish. A party afterwards, if that is what my family want, but if not then they can choose what they feel is best. Ashes to be passed to my family to scatter as they see fit.

Dannydog1 Thu 05-Oct-17 13:38:28

Very simple, then cremation. I would like ashes to be scattered on the walk I have enjoyed for years with all the dogs I’ve loved. Their ashes are all scattered along that walk.

burwellmum Thu 05-Oct-17 12:16:21

I definitely don't want to be cremated - I have been to the most soulless funerals at the local crematorium. Although I am not a regular churchgoer I would like it at the local parish church where I got married and all my children were christened. Something simple though, just with family and close friends, I don't like crowds!

marpau Thu 05-Oct-17 11:10:46

I would like a simple service with cardboard coffin. Entering to flower of Scotland and leaving to we'll meet again. I would like my ashes scattered on my dad's grave so I can be with him one more time.

Grannymoz Thu 05-Oct-17 07:41:25

Something simple attended by my family, no religion and then a cremation. Haven't decided where I would like my ashes scattered yet.
My husband and I have funeral plans already as we were concerned about leaving the cost to my daughter.

robtherake Wed 04-Oct-17 23:19:15

Music by Ozric Tentacles and tie-dye shirts for all. No snivelling, please, I've already gone to life's next level!

niki34 Wed 04-Oct-17 20:59:40

A direct burial with no fuss would suit me i would then like a piece of jewellery created for each of my children & a tree planted in my memory

oneoffive Wed 04-Oct-17 17:35:05

I'll be dead so it won't bother me - so no plans.

Gagagran Wed 04-Oct-17 17:12:49

A woodland burial for me in a wicker coffin. No headstone, no religious service and definitely no big fuss. Just close family seeing me to my rest. I'd like to have tree planted over me so I can nourish it.

DH has left his body to the local University medical school. I have warned him that they don't always accept donations in which case he wants the same as I do.

emmmaaa26 Wed 04-Oct-17 17:08:54

Id like to be cremated and to be cheap so not to burden my family.

SusanCh Wed 04-Oct-17 14:40:53

I was brought up to believe in God and I do. I'd like a cremation with a few words said over me by my friend who is a licensed reader at our local church. Other than that I don't really care - nothing expensive, there are better things to do with the money than buying expensive coffins etc.

granto3 Wed 04-Oct-17 13:33:09

I would like to have a Humanist ceremony. They are lovely and ideal for non-Christians who do not wish a church/religious service. A wicker coffin would be my choice as it is organic and not wasteful moneywise. The choice of music would be Country and Western (they have some amazing songs) and for after, a wake where everyone can reflect on the celebration of my life, instead of being sad. No dark clothing to be worn, but I will allow ties for those gentlemen of "an age". I would love to have my ashes scattered with my husbands ...... somewhere beside the sea in my home town.

lilihu Wed 04-Oct-17 12:01:22

I’m a low-key person. Hate fuss, waste, needless expense. I’d prefer the simplest, quickest way. Haven’t really decided what that may be yet. I really really don’t want money spent on goodbyes, would much rather family and friends benefited from whatever I leave that’s of value. I find attending funerals stressful, so I’m leaning towards quick, small and very low key.

margrete Wed 04-Oct-17 11:44:52

DH and I have planned for a 'green burial' in a local wildflower cemetery. His background is Jewish, and he absolutely hates Jewish cemeteries where not a blade of grass is allowed to grow. He can't imagine anything better than lying under green grass among trees - the absolute opposite of where his parents and other relatives are buried.

For me, I have a CofE background. I decided that my great-grandmother should not lie in an unmarked grave so I bought a gravestone for her and the local vicar held a dedication service for her. I read from Revelation (the last book in the Bible) - beautiful moving words about the 'new heaven and new earth' and 'he shall wipe away all tears from their eyes'.

What I don't like about modern funerals is the delay, the length of time between death and funeral. I don't want to be kept in cold storage. The Jews and Muslims have this bit right at least - burial very quickly.

For music, The Byrds recording of 'Turn Turn Turn' (to everything there is a season...)

I want DH and I to lie close together with, as he says, green grass above us and trees nearby. And birdsong and growing flowers, not the florists' arrangements.

karenusher Wed 04-Oct-17 11:17:20

Like many that I have read, I would like it to be simple, a simple gathering of my friends, a cremation, I would like my family to keep my ashes and to make it into jewellery and give it to my children. Enjoy the wake afterwards!

Kathderoet Tue 03-Oct-17 22:04:16

I would like to be dumped in a wood and privately buried cheaply! I would like a catholic service first and Born to be Alive to be played ?

Isis1981uk Tue 03-Oct-17 21:02:17

Completely non-religious, lots of cheerful bright colours, a celebration of life and lots of funny stories told! My favourite music played, and everyone eating my favourite foods of Heinz Tomato Soup, white baguette, and Cadbury Dessert Pots!!

hellcat Tue 03-Oct-17 20:58:33

I want to be cremated and have my ashes mixed with my husbands. I then don't care or mind - I would prefer to be scattered, but it's ok if not.

mosnef Tue 03-Oct-17 19:01:19

Small discreet service with close family/friends, lots of flowers, 'what a wonderful world' playing at some point, everybody wearing bright colourful clothes and a party afterwards if they wanted - I really would like them to celebrate my life rather than mourn my death.

Andrea1 Tue 03-Oct-17 18:51:40

I would not want an expensive coffin or hymns. I would want a ceremony at the crematorium with my favourite music and I would want my ashes scattered under the apple tree in my garden.

moonray Tue 03-Oct-17 17:37:43

I do not want a funeral, I wish to be cremated and my ashes to be scattered in our garden along with our cats' ashes

moonray Tue 03-Oct-17 17:37:17

I do not want a funeral, I wish to be cremated and my ashes to be scattered in our garden along with our cats' ashes

SheenaBatey Tue 03-Oct-17 16:54:01

A simple funeral with "Put on your Sunday clothes" to leave with and my ashes kept to be sprinkled with my husbands in various places I designate.

Vivienl Tue 03-Oct-17 12:12:57

The nicest funeral I attended had the coffin arriving in a vintage campervan, everyone wore colourful bobble hats. It was a fun and warm celebration. Something like this would suit me well.