Let's talk dating apps with Lumen

I think they are terrible and have never used them

I would feel uneasy meeting someone this way.. Dating apps give people to much time and space to write fiction or hyped up reality about themselves... Time to sit back and fabricate responses based on what they think the other wants to hear other than speak truthfully as they would in a face to face setting when an immediate response and facial expressions can be seen. Reality never plays out like the text you read in the good books! Social anxiety is on the rise and I believe that is partly due to the like of online dating and online shopping etc.

I've never used a dating app and I would be horribly worried about rejection on looks only before someone got to know me.

Never used a dating app but don’t see the harm as long as your careful - I met my husband on a blind date 20 years ago so not the conventional way to meet someone but worked for me

I've never used a dating app or site and never would, read too many horror stories regarding them!

I don't have any need for a dating app, as I'm married, but I think I'd be nervous about using one. I don't think I'd be brave enough to meet a complete stranger, just after talking on an app.

I've never used them, but they seem a bit awkward.

I have tried one , but found it really disappointing . I think you reach a certain age and the broad range of life experience can't be recognised however clever the algorithms. I also found that for the couple of months I was using it I lost contact with the real world as I was so focused on replies . Perhaps it was me that I was just a bit desperate at the time.

I'm happily married so no need for a dating app, however I have a close friend who had a very bad experience with a man she met on a dating app. Saying that however, she could well have met the same man without the need of the app and suffered the same horrid expreience, it's not the app's fault, it's the man.

Luckily she is now out of the relationship, though it did take her some months and her experience really affected her, her confidence is starting to come back and I'm seeing my real friend again after all these months.

Would never use them, don't trust them

I tried last year and to be honest I found it hideous. I'm not going to go into too much detail but my experience has been predominantly negative, I've never even got round to meeting anyone. I spoke to many, many people & in the end I just gave up. If I ever meet anyone it'll have to be in real life, for now I'm OK though

I think they do work for certain people

I'm sure they have their place, but I'm a bit old fashioned and don't really trust them.

Theyre not too bad as long as your careful and don't take it too seriously. I met my partner on dating site so its worked for me

I’m all for it. A good friend of mine in her 60s met a lovely man online some time ago and they seen very happy.

As long as people use common sense and stay safe, I think it’s great.

The world has changed enormously since I was dating, but back then it tended to be meeting friends of friends, setting each other up on blind dates etc,
I've seen friends have good and bad experiences using dating apps. The biggest issue seems to be people telling lies or at least stretching the truth. Do they really think their date won't notice they're older, fatter or balder than they claim?

have never used one and would feel a bit wary

most dating apps are either aimed at younger people (tinder) or if they are for 'older/mature' people they look like they are advertising for someone to move into a retirement property - no life or soul left in them! So very limited in choice.

Also the fact that people seem to think you want to see various parts of their body sent via pics or video before they have even bought you a drink? urgh!

I haven't used dating apps, but I had a lot of fun meeting chaps I met on various dating websites after I emerged from the long dark tunnel of bereavement. There were twits and liars, but they're easy to weed out if you 'chat' online , via text or messenger. I always googled anyone I was actually going to meet, almost everyone has some kind of online presence, and it just added verisimilitude to their claim to be a school governor for example. Eventually I met a chap who was also widowed - with 6 children! Reader, I married him, and I've never been happier.

I think they are great. Two of my good friends have met their partners from dating apps and gone on to have children and get married. Obviously you have to be very careful initially though as you hear so many horror stories

i dont really think its much different from blind dates or meeting someone randomly! just use common sense dont send money etc and if you decide to meet up to tell someone you know where you are going

A good friend used a lot of dating apps. The men she met were either married, had "strange requests" or just after a one night stand
There may be plenty of fish out there but a lot of them stink!

I think they are useful but should be used with caution.

Yes I met my partner on a dating app and we've been together seven years. It's just a way of meeting people, the people themselves are no different wherever you meet! Just meet up after a few messages, don't get drawn into endlessly messaging back and forth and never meeting as this can lead to disappointment.

I have used a dating app in the past and had no problems.
As long as you are sensible and take precautions I think dating apps can be a fun and easy way to meet new people and possibly ''the one''.