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Find out how Gransnetters helped their DC get on the property ladder

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LucyBGransnet (GNHQ) Tue 17-Dec-19 09:52:30

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From helping raise the deposit for their first home to helping them find the perfect curtains for their living room, parents support their children in creating their dream home in various ways. We want to find out if you’ve considered or have already helped your DC get on the property ladder and how you went about it.

So we are asking you how did support your children buying a home, if at all, and roughly when this was? Who started the conversation about helping them? What did you use to help them - your savings, using your existing assets and property, getting a loan, inheritance, tapping into your pension or another way? Was it in the form of gift, loan or early inheritance and what did the agreement terms looked like, if any?

Did you seek legal advice and formalise the process? If so, how easy was it to sort out the legal side of helping them out? What emotional or rational considerations did you take into account and if you could, how would you change the process of helping them buy their first home?

Whether you have considered, are currently helping or have already helped your DC, post your thoughts on the topic on the thread below. All GN users who leave their opinion will be entered into a prize draw where 1 lucky winner will get a £150 voucher for a store of their choice (from a list).

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Ikea1234 Wed 08-Jan-20 18:11:39

We saved, saved, saved. Any birthday money, Christmas money, inheritances, gifts etc, all stashed away. Came to the tidy sum of £25,000 when needed. Hard work, but worth the fact our son had a house deposit at the end of it.

kinseygirl Wed 08-Jan-20 17:14:35

Advised and then helped my son open a Help to Buy ISA last year. Only a small thing but every bit of financial help is good.

pennwood Wed 08-Jan-20 16:50:03

We were able to assist DD on to the property ladder as we bought a house to renovate and then sold it to her at the price of pre-renovation although we had done all the work on it so it was worth a lot more. Since then we have purchased other properties to rent out, & some to renovate & sell on which has enabled us to set up a Bare Trust for each Grandchild with a rental property providing them with rental income to invest, & when they are 18 will have a mortgage free house to either sell, or live in.

glennamy Wed 08-Jan-20 16:42:06

Will help with deposit when required...

liz1970 Wed 08-Jan-20 15:57:31

We gave our two of our sons a large amount of money, so this helped them with their deposit

carol2712 Wed 08-Jan-20 15:39:01

As DD had to give up her rented house as the owner wanted it for his son she went to live with her grandparents, this was never perfect so when she had the chance to buy with a shared ownership 75/25 it was too good to miss, she did have some savings but on her low income getting a mortgage was always going to be difficult. As I owned a half share of a rented house I sold my half which then gave her the funds to buy her share, and we made a none legal agreement that she would repay the money at £200 pm, which she has been doing without fail for the last three years. She has now purchased the other 25% of her house as she was made redundant and got a new job with in days so didn't need to have a reserve fund. I do over help like the new sofa in the sales as the old one was well past its best, and tell her to get something for the house in the sales, but this is more a case of her living a good two hours away and if she were close I would have spent money on her if only for coffee and cake each week. I know I have been lucky enough to help her but I was left money from an aunt when I most needed it so now feel good that I have been able to help her when she most needs it.

gd Wed 08-Jan-20 15:31:55

Unfortunately, I'm not in a financial position to help.

cathyj Wed 08-Jan-20 15:28:48

we put away a small amount a month from child benefit and until they started school and sat on it for years

Humph Wed 08-Jan-20 15:21:33

Encourage regular saving but recognise that if necessary you will need to step in with a substantial amount

JoJoY Wed 08-Jan-20 15:11:32

Mine still live at home but I save half of their rent (they don't know I do) to give them when they move out. They also have taken out LISA's and save well.

rocketriffs Wed 08-Jan-20 15:02:19

I have put savings into ISAs and other cash building accounts in trust for my children for when thy are older. It is up to them what they do with the money, but It would please me if they were to put it towards a deposit for a first buy home.

katieskatie82 Wed 08-Jan-20 14:39:21

encouraged them to save up as much as possible whilst still living at home

emmmaaa26 Wed 08-Jan-20 14:07:03

Never been able to help.

elizab Wed 08-Jan-20 13:45:16

my daughter nisnt looking to uy righ tnow ut when she does we have property abroad left to us by the in laws when they died so id sell those and give her the money from the sales

Sappysar Wed 08-Jan-20 13:27:08

My parents gave me the deposit for my first home and I will be forever grateful.

maryandbuzz1 Wed 08-Jan-20 13:25:38

My son currently rents a tiny studio flat and is quite good at managing his own money. However he is not able to save any so when the time comes we will help him with a deposit......my view being that he has it now when it can do some real good or when we die.

mandy6270 Wed 08-Jan-20 13:12:04

DS and Girlfriend stayed with us on a very low rent, this gave both our DS and girlfriend time and money to save for a deposit, would recommend this to others .

cinders59 Wed 08-Jan-20 12:55:47

We are actually giving our daughter some money towards her deposit, she is a single parent and is trying hard

browna Wed 08-Jan-20 12:44:12

i am saving up to help with a house deposit.

sheilads105 Wed 08-Jan-20 12:40:43

Encourage them to save and help with deposit cash if you can. There's no easy option, buying today is very tough on young people.

happysouls Wed 08-Jan-20 12:40:23

I've never been in a position to help my son out financially. However luckily he has a housing association place that is brand new and far nicer than anywhere I've lived! My house is falling down around me. If I die in within the mortgage term there will be something to pass on because of the life insurance...if not I'll be kicked out and have to go and live in his shed!

ohnoo Wed 08-Jan-20 12:25:23

we paid for our daughters wedding, so they could use the money they had saved towards their deposit for their house

Pumpkin2 Wed 08-Jan-20 12:21:51

I'm not able to give them money towards a deposit, but I can give them suggestions for example I encouraged them to start a right to buy ISA.

Sheils999 Wed 08-Jan-20 11:44:06

They lived at home for a few years at various times to save money. I didn't have a lump sum to give them so had to help in other ways. I helped to furnish their houses too. Very difficult for them to get going nowadays.

twinklenicci Wed 08-Jan-20 11:26:15

Unfortunately at 42 , im still not on the property ladder myself. I had my elder children quite young then became disabled so had to give up work. My husband works full time with a decent wage , but not enough to save for a deposit