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Gransnetters share the legacy they'd like to leave when they're gone with Cancer Research UK

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LucyBGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 20-Jan-20 10:31:36

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As we get older, we often think about what our legacy will be; what memories, relationships or objects we leave behind to reflect how we’d like to be remembered. Making a Will is a way to communicate those wishes and the things that are important to someone are often reflected by the things they include. Cancer Research UK would love to hear what matters to you when you think about your legacy.

Here’s what Cancer Research UK has to say: “We know that when writing a Will, your friends and family should always come first. Once they’re taken care of, if you have even just a small gift leftover to leave for Cancer Research UK, this will still make a huge difference. We know from meeting our wonderful supporters that people have left us a gift in their Will because they are passionate about helping to beat cancer and want to continue when they are gone.”

What have you thought about leaving behind? Have you detailed this in a Will? Would you consider leaving a gift to charity in your Will? Would Cancer Research UK be a consideration? How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone?

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elfies Fri 24-Jan-20 12:24:38

Our daughter will recieve whatever we leave , and if she chooses to donate to a charity she has our full blessing . Whilst we remain alive we support charities which affect our family Cancer (mum and sister ), The Deaf Blind(grandad ) , M/E & Diabetes (myself ), and Prostate Cancer (hubs ). Not with regular subscriptions as we don't want to be inundated with literature , but largish anonymous donations as and when we can afford.

Barmeyoldbat Thu 23-Jan-20 21:22:06

Forgot to say that I would hope I would be remembered as being kind, helpful and fair as well as beautiful grin

Barmeyoldbat Thu 23-Jan-20 21:19:37

We have both made wills leaving everything to my son. We have also included some charities that we have support over the years, League Against Cruel Sport and a very small grass root charity that lend money to women to set up a business to help support their family.

I am spending my retirement helping charities with my time and money so thats it.

GeminiJen Thu 23-Jan-20 20:12:33

What have you thought about leaving behind? Have you detailed this in a Will? I recently brought my Will up to date and organised Power of Attorney, with my two children as executors. Draft versions were agreed with them and both know what is involved. I'm also gradually getting rid of 'stuff'. I don't want to leave a guddle for them to deal with and, at 75, it seemed timely to get all my ducks in a row!

Would you consider leaving a gift to charity in your Will? Would Cancer Research UK be a consideration? Yes, and yes. That said, I've contributed to several charities over my lifetime, both financially and as a volunteer, and have opted to leave most of what I have to support my family.

How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone? As strong, supportive, flawed but fun grin

Geordienanaannie Thu 23-Jan-20 14:42:30

Having watched the life savings of my elderly mum-in-law quickly disappear each month due to the high cost of care home fees it has made us realise that her cherished hope of leaving money to close family and some of her favourite charities is very unlikely to happen - something which distresses her and upsets her greatly.
I now believe that should you wish to ensure that you give to those you love and charities you support, do so in life, don't wait until circumstances stop this from happening. Give what you can - when you can!

Linzilooloo Thu 23-Jan-20 13:19:23

I was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma in December 2017 and endured 6 months of chemotherapy, I am happy to say I'm currently cancer free. It has been a struggle and at times I wanted to give up. I stuck in there and I'm happy to announce I am currently cancer free. Surviving cancer has given me a new outlook on life.
I would like the money I leave behind split between the Cancer Research UK and the Macmillan Cancer Charity . Both of those charities have kept me alive which I know means more to my children than any money I leave behind.

evianers Thu 23-Jan-20 12:13:02

Ironically enough, we have had to write English wills, as our previous French/Begian/Australian/South African ones are of course no longer valid. These were signed last Monday.
10% of the residue of our estate will go to charity of which we decided 90% of this [whatever] sum will go to Cancer Research and the remaining 10% to the RNLI. However, we do realise that donations to charities are a very personal decision

suedoidge Thu 23-Jan-20 11:08:47

I would like to leave some money to Cancer as 3 members of my family have died from Cancer, I will definitely think about it when I make my Will

valseal Thu 23-Jan-20 10:31:42

I have given to charity all my life. My children need my legacy and it is up to them to give to charity when they are able.

montydoo Thu 23-Jan-20 08:18:16

What have you thought about leaving behind?

I need to do one, but me and my partner are not married and I am not sure how it would work as I would want to make sure my children are included and do not loose out, who is my NOK, if he survives me, does it mean his children get my estate too - all very complicated

Have you detailed this in a Will?

I have written this in rough, just need to get it made legal - but how ?

Would you consider leaving a gift to charity in your Will?

Yes definitely, there are several charities close to my heart

Would Cancer Research UK be a consideration?

Yes, sure.

How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone?

As someone that could be relied on, had time for everyone, was a good friend, and was a good person.

Lisapaige24 Wed 22-Jan-20 22:22:58

We have decided to leave everything to charity as our daughter and grandchildren have already been giving as much as we are willing to give to them and we are pleased that we are leaving it to a charity close to our hearts

icequeenie76 Wed 22-Jan-20 21:14:43

I have never thought of it before, but now the seed has been planted, I am thinking of changing my will and leaving a small amount to a charity, then the rest split between my 4 children.

kevincharley Wed 22-Jan-20 21:12:27

I intend to have nothing left to leave to anyone.

cillastubbs Wed 22-Jan-20 19:24:54

I have left everything to my daughters. I give regularly to charities but they are not included in my will

pappillion Wed 22-Jan-20 19:01:19

I currently donate to several charities including Marie Curie, and intend to give larger sums at intervals that suit me.
I believe you give when you live, and I really don't want to force my son after my death to have to donate from my Estate, having recently dealt myself with my Mothers Estate, who survived 2 different types of Cancer then finally passed with a 3rd Cancer, donating would not have made anyone happier as we literally had 10 days from diagnosis to death.....
The loss was extremely hard on everyone my father still has difficulty dealing with her loss, & we did have several charities including cancer charities phoning within a month of her loss asking for money.
So charities can have my cash whilst I'm alive my son gets it when I'm dead, upto him then to decide I would never force him via my Will, which was done many years ago in his favour.

devito Wed 22-Jan-20 18:32:21

I'm not worried about leaving a legacy. My son will inherit all I have and good luck to him

jessiecat Wed 22-Jan-20 18:07:12

I have made a will and everything will go to my two children as well as having a life insurance policy. I have not made any provision in my will for a charity donation but I regularly raise funds for the homeless and a heart charity.

Moocow Wed 22-Jan-20 18:04:59

What have you thought about leaving behind?
Whatever I have left in the hope it will help family in whatever way it can.
Have you detailed this in a Will?
Yes
Would you consider leaving a gift to charity in your Will?
Not at present
Would Cancer Research UK be a consideration?
Might, might not but I think there are so many valuable charities and sometimes I think that if I had a money tree it would be local charities at the top of the list
How would you like people to remember you when you’re gone?
With love and happiness

Andrea1 Wed 22-Jan-20 17:28:23

We donate to charity as & when we can. We will be leaving everything to our children.

volcanopete Wed 22-Jan-20 17:04:29

I'm happy to leave this world in the knowledge that I have served the public to the best of my ability.

nettymay Wed 22-Jan-20 16:53:20

Our money is all going on care for husband with Parkinsons wish I had saved more during our lives

Holidayenthusiast Wed 22-Jan-20 16:51:58

I suffer with a respiratory disorder and am thinking of leaving something to the British Lung Foundation. Money received by this charity is used to support people suffering with respiratory conditions and for research to find better treatments.

karenweedon Wed 22-Jan-20 16:46:36

I donate to charities now but have not made a provision in my will for this. I hope my legacy is to have taught my children to be kind people and look after others

AngelaMCGF Wed 22-Jan-20 16:38:12

No, I do not think I would leave anything in my will. I try very hard to support as many charities as I can while we are still earning. I feel we would not be leaving much money only property and I think to leave money to charity could cause a problem for my children.

sammylea80 Wed 22-Jan-20 16:03:19

I don't think that I will ave much to leave, but I will leave what I do have to my nieces.