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Bra woes

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JessM Wed 08-Aug-12 17:13:02

Just dashed myself on the rocks of Debenhams and M and S bra depts.
Here's the issue:
A 36 A fitting needed (not that common)
A partial mastectomy a long time ago means one side about 2/3 of the other.
The only kind of bras that even out the lopsided look are the ones with little pockets inside so that I can whip out the insert on one side and put it in the other side. Wonderbra used to be a reliable source, but technology has moved on... I have a load of BHS bras that just fit but are not really comfortable, and are wearing out and getting less and less comfortable.
Debenhams have a reasonable bra dept. But only one line that suited my needs (Level 2 enhancement apparently !!). Once i had got over the "I don't actually want a mastectomy bra" hurdle. But they didn't fit. Forgot to say, they are wide apart as well.
M and S truly abysmal. Thousands of bras. Eventually located a member of staff (very young) who again suggested a mastectomy bra. Don't want a mastectomy bra thank you.
Seems bras with removable inserts are out of favour and M and S do not a one.
I'm wearing a comfortable 11 year old bra i bought in the States. Wish I had bought a carrier bag full at the time.
Does nobody cater for those with partial mastectomies?
Any ideas GNers?

Grannyknot Fri 10-Aug-12 07:24:22

Thanks ana! Am still getting used to the forums. yoga they have pockets and slimline removable padding which may help to even things out, not sure. I haven't had breast surgery, so I can't really say. flowers to those who have.

JessM Fri 10-Aug-12 07:51:38

Joan if new clothes gave us breast cancer there should be complete carnage in the world of footballers wives. BC is common - around 1 in 10 in western countries. So a statistician would expect natural clusters to form.
But the "bras give you cancer" was doing the rounds a few years back.
New clothes are a bit chemically smelling sometimes aren't they. My DIL washes new children's clothes before they are worn. And this may be a good idea.

Bags Fri 10-Aug-12 11:10:02

Thanks, grannyknot. I had a look at the site. No measurements given, only dress sizes, so I emailed them to ask what, for instance, a dress size 12 meant as regards bust measurement (it can vary a lot). Some TV company replied!!!!! Saying they didn't know.

Hmm.

Annobel Fri 10-Aug-12 11:24:05

I cannot imagine the hassle - not to mention pain - I would have pulling one of those bras over my head and shoulders!

Bags Fri 10-Aug-12 12:02:55

I step into my pull on ones, anno. Think swimsuit. Amuses DH no end wink.

Anagram Fri 10-Aug-12 12:07:08

Ha, ha! The thought of trying to wrestle a 34" bra over my 37" hips....gringrin

Ella46 Fri 10-Aug-12 12:12:18

YOUR HIPS ARE ONLY 37" ?!!!!!!! grin flowers

jeni Fri 10-Aug-12 12:50:12

envy

Bags Fri 10-Aug-12 13:38:54

Pull-ons are sufficiently stretchy.

Anagram Fri 10-Aug-12 13:43:53

Right.

Grannyknot Fri 10-Aug-12 14:26:24

bags try QVC or Amazon (where there are likely to be customer reviews too). Part of the point of the pull-on bras is that you don't need bra sizes, they mould to your shape and size. I'm a dress size 14 and I wear 'large' in those bras and they are perfect, having first tried 'medium' which was just a little too tight for my liking, I hate tight clothes.

Joan Sun 12-Aug-12 11:50:35

There's summat worse than bras anyway - thong knickers. My husband persuaded me to get a black pair. Well, putting them on was the biggest laugh; honestly though, it was like getting strangled in the nether regions! I kept the thing on for a few minutes, then into the wash it went, to be resurrected for tying up my tomato vines. Actually, it was quite good for that purpose - nice and strong.

Grannyknot Sun 12-Aug-12 12:54:30

Joan LOL!

JessM Sun 12-Aug-12 20:03:51

grin

goldengirl Sun 12-Aug-12 22:06:54

I'm in dire need of new bras and have taken the plunge smile and bought 2 Miss Mary of Sweden bras as I like full cup bras even though I'm not particularly big in the boob department. My only concern is that I've measured correctly although I can return them of course if they don't fit [I bought on line as there's no suitable shop around here]. Has anyone bought this brand at all?
I'd love to try Rigby and Peller but they're way out of my price range. My M & S ones are on their last legs and the new ones I bought a whilst back which I thought were the same have slight changes and aren't so good unfortunately. Men don't have this problem!

Ariadne Mon 13-Aug-12 14:34:19

I've bought a pull on bra to try, but I think I'll have to wear it when I need to take the firmer one off, as one does eventually. I do have a full bust (DD) even with a bit missing, and this bra, though very comfortable, is just not supportive, even with the inserts, and flattens me out, so I have no shape, just a low slung shelf!

Agree with you goldengirl about M&S bras - even the old favourites aren't the same any more. I'll be interested to hear how you get on with the Miss Mary ones.

Anagram Mon 13-Aug-12 15:05:45

I agree with goldengirl too - I'm still wearing the last one of three M&S bras I bought several years ago, and have bought new, similar ones but they just don't give the support the old ones do! I'll have a look at Miss Mary of Sweden.

Anagram Mon 13-Aug-12 18:20:36

I've looked at the site, and there is an amazing choice of substantial-looking bras of the type I like - trouble is a lot of them only start at 36 or 38 and I am 34D or DD. Still, there are quite a lot in my size and I'll probably order a couple soon. Thanks for the suggestion, goldengirl! smile

lucid Mon 13-Aug-12 21:12:59

I'm a 34F !!!!...I used to buy all my bra's from M&S until recently. Have just bought some online from Debenhams and I have to say they are the most comfortable I've worn in years. What I'd really like to find is a supportive and comfortable non underwired bra....they just don't seem to make them in my size. hmm

Anagram Mon 13-Aug-12 21:15:10

Yes, I go for non-underwired too. Have a look at the Miss Mary of Sweden website, lucid.

JessM Thu 23-Aug-12 17:10:42

I have a new bra and it is SO comfy.
In the end I resorted to archeology in the dead bra strata at the back of my underwear drawer. (cover your eyes and ears, ye people with tidy cupboards)
There I located one of the all time favourites and Wonderbra still do a version (see link)
Very comfy and very adjustable - perfect for my wide apart, lopsided 36A boobs.
Not as cheap as BHS but will probably last longer.
Debenhams online very easy - pick up at shop on 2 days.
Just off to plunder the internet before they decide they are all sold out and they arent doing more...

www.wonderbra.eu/uk/cleavage-bras/icat/cleavage/?sort=sequence_cleavage&sort=name&order=asc&order=asc&parentCategoryRef=cleavage&categoryPathRefs=shop&q=*&setpagenum=2&perpage=12

gracesmum Thu 23-Aug-12 20:42:51

I have never had boobs to set the world on fire and have progressed from 34A through 36A and 38B to 40B as the weight has gone on - or so I thought,until I was recently measured in John Lewis and was told I was a 36DD !! Could have knocked me over with a chicken fillet! I want it in writing!! I wish there was some infallible method where you could do this yourself - I can't go through that experience againsmile

jeni Thu 23-Aug-12 20:49:44

shock

Maniac Fri 24-Aug-12 09:46:42

gracesmum I had similar experience when measured at House of Fraser.
I'd been wearing 38B .Now find 36DD much more supportive and,comfortable but harder to find in some ranges.

Anne58 Fri 24-Aug-12 13:10:45

Joan I usually wear thongs without any problems, but I did have 2 unfortunate incidents with them which have both been documented on here! blush