Grey hair

Can anyone suggest a good (but not hideously expensive) shampoo for white/yellow hair please? I don't want to end up with a " blue rinse" effect!

Last time I had my hair highlighted about 10 years ago it cot me £95 including the cut and blow dry. Even my hairdresser agreed the highlights only really showed at the back as the front was white/blond. I did a cost v benefit case - cost £95 benefit to me £0! The only people to benefit were people behind me! So I decided to stop. I use the Aussie shampoo and conditioner plus the 3 minute miracle one most weeks. I buy it when it's on offer! I still hanker after having my hair all one colour as the back's still much darker than the front but not £95 worth of hanker!

I, too, don't colour my lovely silver hair! Any colouring product irritates my scalp and neck. I don't think I could be described as a glamorous granny, but I am happy in my skin. Just wish I had more hair - it is very thin on top. I will have to resort to wearing hats in the cold weather it gets so cold!

I've stopped dying my hair but am not one of the lucky ones who have glorious thick, silver hair which can take a short, sharp style.. Instead I have to have my hair in a bob as it is fine and awkward. Practically no grey at almost 70 but I do have silver streaks at the temples which look quite stylish. Out here most people dye and so often face and hair don't match which is even more ageing than grey.

I'm 58 and have a very few silver hairs, but I really wish I had a lot more!
My maternal Grandad was evacuated from the beaches at Normandy, when he left home he had blonde hair, when he returned it was pure white and stayed that way for the rest of his life!
My mum had silver hair, it was gorgeous, not yellowish grey at all, just pure silver and I'd love mine to be the same.
I'm fed up of strangers asking me what colourant I use on my hair, they seem to think that anyone over fifty with light brown/auburn hair must colour it!
I've never coloured my hair in my life (apart from a purple faze in my late teens!), and never intend to, but I wish the grey would just hurry up and get here......provided it's silver, not dull grey!

I got tired of grey roots showing through my colour so 7 years ago decided to go grey gracefully. Have never regretted it and have numerous compliments about the colour. I use shampoo and conditioner especially for grey hair, silver styling mousse and a final shine spray. I am pretty happy with that - just wish I had a hint of a curl. The hairdresser reckons I was last in the queue when curls were handed out!

I started going grey in my teens by earl thirties fully grey tried home colour once went khaki colour not done it since its blondish grey .

I have the same dilemma. I always said I'd go grey (or silver in my case)when Dd2 graduated (I was an older mum) But DH hated the idea (though he has gorgeous silver hair)and is happy for me to pay hairdressing bills from the joint account. I go to someone who works from home so go quite often as it isnt that expensiveI but still about £10 a week.I hate the 'tramline' you get ,though have discovered a good spray on root cover .And although a bob suits me I stick to an overall choppy style to conceal the regrowth.
I am very fair skinned though and just worry that I will become colourless . I used to be very dark with red highlights. Am now mid brown .It's quite natural looking and I know I do look quite a lot younger than I am .Will going silver age me? A friend who is 7 years younger did so about 5 years ago and I thought it aged her, though she looks fine now .
I already wear fairly bright colours so won't need new wardrobe

Hairdresser suggests the way to do it is to have my already fairly short hair cut very short and he can strip out the rest of the colour So I could do it overnight as it were The alternative is to go gradually 'fairer'but I have never seen myself as a blonde .I have friends whose white/silver/grey hair looks fabulous so am tempted .Trouble is I feel a pixie cut would look better on a more pixie- like body and face Maybe if I lose that stone ....
Someone upthread made an ingressing point about our generation being conditioned not to go grey ..

This thread is very interesting and it is all down to personal choice.
I have met Victoria08 and black hair suits her and she looks far younger than her real age. She would need professional advice or maybe to tone down bit by bit.
I was lucky that the fashion for blonde hair with dark messy roots means that I looked as if my growing out colour was professionally done. It is looking a bit odd now, grey streaks on front and top but still brown at the back, but I have had a couple of inches chopped off and am going to persevere.

i have fairly long hair which i keep coloured as there's no way i want to go grey!! for a while [when i was working] i went to the hairdresser to have it coloured but now i'm retired i do it myself.
i use garnier nutrisse crimson promise [or crimson promotion if you go to tesco] and feel so much better without any grey at all.
i had a white streak from ear to ear when i was in my twenties and that's when i started colouring - i'm now nearing my seventies and will continue to colour for as long as i can.
when i announced i was pregnant [all those years ago] my mum stopped colouring her hair immediately - she didn't think it was right for a grandmother to have coloured hair!!! needless to say i don't share her opinion!

I would be happy to go grey if I had grey hair. I have salt and pepper hair and I hate it.

I have grey hair and proud of it. I don't want to be a glamorous granny. I want to be like my own grannies both of whom were white haired but still full of life.

I went grey in my 30s and have never died it. It is now silver and much admired. I suggest having blonde streaks while growing out the dye.
If I knew how to attach a photo, I would post a picture of my hair!

I think you need a very sharp, modern cut to stop looking too aged but I do agree that people glance at you, see the White hair and immediately think 'old person'. But hey, that's what we are!

Managed to find how to post a photo, so now you know who I am!

I have been growing out my dyed hair since last July. I joined a closed Facebook group called Going Grey Gracefully. As its a closed group only members will see your photos. Lots of great advice from members there. I have had 2 very short stylish haircuts and some silver highlights to break up the dye line. Things I have discovered, I need a bright lipstick now, also bright colours in clothes, although both black and white also look better. Generally need to ensure I am more on trend so I don't look frumpy. Indeed I tried to grow out my grey in my fifties and was told by a hairdresser that only those who wore trendy clothes or makeup everyday could carry it off, I obviously couldn't in her eyes. Beware hairdressers with pound signs in their eyes.

I have no desire to be grey. I started going grey at 17 and I expect I was completely grey by the time I was 45... I dye it myself no problems. I have had made moments when I have had a hairdresser put red and blond into my light ash brown. Still love experiment at nearly 65. If my natural colour was a beautiful silver I might be tempted. It is not though so I will keep on colouring

I started this journey in November. I had a whole body & scalp ezcema flare last year & when having my usual colour applied it had to be removed ASAP as it was burning my scalp. So I bit the grey bullet - not before time as I am 69 today! I decided to grow it out gracefully but with 2 inches of skunk I felt very unkempt & was getting a bit depressed. 3 days ago my lovely hairdresser blended in vanilla, silver & a few light red highlights / lowlights (believe me it does look good) & the skunk has gone & I am now a blended happy badger.
I wanted to go cold turkey (lots of different animals in this post) but couldn't hack it, so the highlights are making the process bearable. I think how you go grey is a personal choice & to some extent may also depend on your original colour.
PS am already weeding out the sludgy colours I used to love wearing with my reddish hair. An opportunity to buy & make some new new clothes.

The trouble with grey hair is, it shows up badly if you have black hair.
My natural colour was black, so when I started going grey I dyed it black.

Now am 70 years old, it doesn't look natural anymore.
So, I am seriously considering growing it out. I wear it in a bob style, not short. Trouble is, when it gets to a certain stage, I am tempted to do a root touch up.
I think if you are blonde it is probably easier to disguise greys.

Take the seat!!!!

I, like many others, have managed to grow my hair back to its natural colour of white but last month while out with my friend if the same age who has dyed brown hair I was offered a seat on the train while we both stood! I've now got two packs of colour in the cupboard waiting for me to decide what to do. My partner hates it white and has even offered to pay for it colouring

Have you seen the picture of Theresa May in today's papers? Her hair colour is clearly growing out with about 3 " of grey roots etc showing , but I would recommend the opposite strategy to hers.
She would look so much better with an all over ash with silver highlights would add interest and texture or, if it is blonde, bleach out "old" colour and add a silver toner. Look at Christine Lagarde for silver chic, or compare and contrast May's frankly frumpy fuzzy look with Julie Walters (also today's Sunday Telegraph) with her sharp cut, shiny silver and grey.

I let my hair go grey about 2 years ago best thing I've ever done I had reactions to hair dye and thought enough love my hair now and I'm only 55

I too am fed up of coloring my own hair. I used nice and easy for years, but find it fades quickly after only a couple of weeks. So I have stopped and I will watch with interest to see what colour I end up with. I did try once before several years ago but the grey was uneven and patchy - do they call it the salt and pepper look? Anyway it wasn't flattering so I went back on the bottle. Now I am giving it another go. Wish me luck.

Lovely photo Alea. Interesting bookshelves! We obviously share the same taste in reading matter. ( If they are yours, of course!)

I colour my hair gradually getting lighter to accommodate the grey. I now notice the roots no longer appear differently at the front. I expect it will all have to grow out soon.

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I would love to grow my colour out, I'm now about 70% grey, I think, although not completely sure.

I had my first grey hairs around 24, my birth father was completely silver by 30.

Mr P, although a tolerant man in so many ways, has started saying "you need to get your roots done".

I suppose he has to look at it more than I do!

Gorgeous photo alea, I love those colours too!