Faded beauty

As someone said: not pretty or beautiful but striking. I was told that I looked like Simone Signoret.

I can't say I have ever turned heads well except for when I dyed my hair pillar box red by mistake and then it was for all the wrong reasons

Even when I was young I had very little self confidence in how I looked.

If you want to be happy with your looks, stop looking back at how you were and concentrate on how you are now. Don't focus on the wrinkles but the good bits. Let's make it so that older beauty is as valued as the beauty of youth.

The lines don't bother me. The one good thing my mum handed down was good skin. I might have preferred my dad's good hair though!

I now have a 'rule' for anyone taking my photo. The must be at least 10ft away ...... The lines then disappear!

We have aged some better than others but who cares when we can still laugh, eat things we shouldnt and drink things we really shouldnt At least we all look similar to our younger selves and our family and friends dont scream or ROFL when the meet us unlike some of todays "stars" Madonnas photo in the press yesterday was hilarious, line free face cheekbones like a gerbil and hands of her real age, as one of my friends commented on another friend who had just had massive breast implants at the age of 52 " perky boobs and a wrinkly face makes you look like a spitting image puppet" and i hate to say but that is exactly what she and madonna look like. Their beauty doesnt shine through as they are obviously not happy people which is such a shame.

Sheilasue you have put things into perspective I am sorry you lost your son . I am just glad to be here I know I need to lose some weight now my health is stable .we all have things we don't like about ourselves but remember beauty comes from within a smile and cheerful personality is something we can all try to do every day ?

Your not vain luckylegs 9 we all have our moments. Yes I saw that on the television and cried for those young men only 19 can you believe it it's hear breaking. I looked at our lovely queen and saw the sorrow in her face.

She was a beauty as a young queen, and she still is now.

My son was 35 so I did get to have him for a bit longer.

Thank you nana 58 x

I didn't turn many heads but I turned one and he was handsome and still is and with him we make a handsome couple for our age but alone nobody would look twice - or even once.

Shellasue, how vain I sound, I'm not really, lucky to have got older. I feel for losing your son much too soon, not right to lose a child and it certainly puts my vanity into perspective. Looking at the Rememberence Service last night on television and seein the young that gave their lives for the likes of me, how they would have liked to have got old. ?

Having just about bounced back from a significant attack of Bell's Palsy - it's taken the best part of 7 months - I can only say that I now look in the mirror and smile at the image that looks back - but now it's with both sides of my face!

Believe me when I say there are much worse things than wrinkles and lines e.g. NOT having wrinkles and lines. I never thought that being told my face looked 'nearly normal' would be something I would take as a compliment, but hey ho and smile on!

Like Legs55 I was the perfect shape for '60s clothes = tall slim, long legs - well I'm still tall My DH says he still sees the girl he met in 1967 when he looks at me. Perhaps a trip the the opticians is in order.

I was never a "beauty" but I was a "head turner" as I was slim, 5'7", good legs (mini skirts & hot pants were perfect for me) & long hair. I was fairly confident with my appearance but still a bit on the shy side (plenty of boyfriends though!!)

Sadly these days I can no longer wear heels & weigh far too much, I am starting to feel better about myself again as I've just had 6 months with no teeth at the top (crumbling gnashers & broken denture), since having stumps removed & new denture I can smile again - new found confidence, just need a hair cut now

I wear little make up, mascara & lipstick as I'm allergic to many cosmetics but my nails are always varnished (& long), they have always been my pride & joy & I'm often complimented on them

Confidence is a must, love to look smart when I go out, wear what I like, fashion means nothing to me

Me too whitewave
Although I don't look too bad until I put my spectacles on.


I think Worlass has it right.

Oh Sheilasue you have so put things into perspective, who cares what we look like as long as we have our families safe and well. That's not to say let yourself go, just realise exactly where looks go on the grand scale of things. I'm sorry for your loss X

I too am happy with faded beauty. I see myself, courtesy of Charles Dickens, as the remains of a fine woman. Others may not agree but I care not a jot. ?

It is what it is - this wrinkly face and crepey neck simply prove I'm nearly 75! I can't turn the clock back, I can only celebrate the fact that I am lucky to feel so healthy and be so active. Every year is a gift and I've already lived 10 years longer than my mother who often stares back at me in the reflection of a window or a mirror!

In my early 60's, whilst still earning because I was working full time, I went through a rather long phase of trying every cream and experimenting with lots of different cosmetic procedures in an attempt to hold back time - but that finished up being a ridiculous amount of work and really much too time consuming......but I don't regret the experience! Now I am at peace with the face who stares back at me when I catch an unexpected glance of myself .....wrinkles and all.

I second what Mumsy says. I suppose I was 'average' looking, but tbh never really thought too much about it. Now, in my seventies, I look back on a long and happy marriage, a family who are doing well enough, and, fingers crossed, few health concerns. The loss of my DH continues to hurt, but I am quite contented otherwise. I don't know whether this lack of concern about fading looks on my part is because never really felt that they were too important anyway. I am still 'average' looking for my age, I think, albeit several stones heavier!

I'd be happy with faded beauty!!

I did feel like the OP when I first started to age but now that I am 70 I am content with myself. I will never turn heads again but I did once and now it is someone else's turn. I was a bit of an ugly duckling in my teens and looked my best in my 20's & 30's.
When I was 17 I was envious of a friend who looked like Cathy McGowan but she hasn't aged well and is now more wrinkly and heavier than I am!

Your not a faded beauty your an aged beauty I see many beautiful and very smart dressed woman who are aged. Every line has a history it could be sadness or great happiness. In my case when I look in the mirror I think of my son that died in 2007 he will never see me old and he will never be old.

I too was never pretty or slim - "plain" would have been complimentary and at 5'8" and 11 stone , wearing glasses in my last year of Junior school I always felt a freak. Gradually over the years I accepted and realised that good grooming, elegant , striking clothes plus a good haircut was the way to go.
Losing a couple of stones and , for a while, wearing contact lenses, restored some confidence. Sadly eye problems preclude contacts but smart specs, slim-long dresses, skirts and trousers , bright scarves and bold jewellery compensate for my 73 years. But yes, wish I could lessen the wrinkles and make-up seems to "enhance" them - tinted moisturiser, eye pencil and lipstick work the best.
Very sad that we are continually bombarded by the media into worshipping youthful styles and the young and beautiful with very little positive mention of the 70+ age group - no wonder we are ignored when out and about. I console myself by imagining what these egotistical young things will look like in later years.

If I'd only had the confidence of today with the figure and face of my twenties I'd have been very happy indeed!
I was painfully shy as a young woman, and hated being very tall as it made me stand out in a crowd, I thought I was plain and all my friends seemed beautiful. It was only when I hit my late thirties that I suddenly realised that I wasn't ugly, being tall is a wonderful thing and women all over bleach their hair to make it look like mine!
I'm still tall, still have naturally blonde hair, but have gained a lot of weight. However, the plus side of the weight is that I look far younger than my 59 years, the fat on my face smoothes the wrinkles away
And.......I've learned the art of flirting!

Beauty comes from within! Ive never understood why some are so obsessed with their looks that they feel the need for surgery, botox etc. I dont give a toss if I get a second look or not, if you dont like what you see 'jog on' !