What would make me look younger?

Stuff that makes people look like old ladies when they’re not:

- that compressed-lips wrinked-nose expression, especially in public
- too short/unflattering a haircut especially if too functional looking
- too dark/bright a lipstick
- outdated style of eye makeup
- too heavy/dark a foundation or base product
- a comfort/t shirt/non uplifting bra especially if it doesnt fit properly
- beige anything but especially trousers, they just scream “I no longer menstruate”
- velour (not velvet but velour) anything
- round/scoop necks
- that scuttling too-fast walk that says I AM VERY BUSY especially combined with the expression previously discussed
- casual clothing always being a jeans and t shirt combo
- wearing a massive ‘practical’ jacket everywhere
- leopard print
- shiny spandex
- excessive cleavage
- skirts above the knee
- trousers cut through the ankle
- obvious paper hankie in the sleeve

I suppose most people look their age? If somebody else guessed they would be right give or take a couple of years.
The odd person looks much younger or older that the truth.

The rest of us are in the middle.

I find dresses very ageing.

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Scarves are so ageing - right?
Wrong!
It’s down to how you wear them.

Yeah gods, I do little of the above apart from mix with open minded people of all ages! I’m overweight, wear whatever I want to, don’t use expensive skincare (I’m a student), I’m disabled, often lean on the trolley when dancing round the supermarket with the grandkids doing the shopping, volunteer at festivals and performed with a choir at a festival for the first time this year. Having been a misfit all my life I’m now described, along with two of my older friends, as “cool”. Embrace your wisdom, be yourself and get all you can from life and don’t worry about clinging to youth.

Beg to differ Lilyflower.

What is wrong with scarves? They, as well as high necks and collars, throw focus on the increasingly wrinkly face. They are definitely ageing. Slightly lower, plain necklines are safer.

older men usually have much better conversation
looyloo; and "much" older men have even better conversation because all they can manage is to talk about it.
I'd thought about saying you would risk being mistaken for the young man's Granny, but being an Englishman and a gentleman and also very diplomatic, I thought I'd best err on the side of caution. A nice smile never does any harm though.

The only thing that makes you look older is your own or other peoples perception.

Smile
Great haircut
Natural makeup and accentuate your best features.
Find a unique clothes style that suits you.
Dance.
Hang out with who you enjoy regardless of age. I go clubbing every weekend with a young group and trust me it has done wonders for my confidence.
Nothing wrong with a younger man.

Do all the things you want too. We live once. I think vibrancy comes from within and being happy in your own skin xx

I wear a dresses. Tights are OK if you get very fine ones, the M&S ones with the toes out are good. I prefer bare legs with a little fake tan before I can get a real one. Nude fishnets, micro net, are very good too.

I would love to wear dresses but my legs and ankles are so swollen through medication that I have to take and sensible wide fitting shoes have replaced the high heeled shoes from my youth ful days

It helps to take a critical look at your clothes - colours that suited us when we were young may no longer suit our present skin tone or hair colour. On the other hand there may well be colours we couldn't wear then that we can wear now.

The main difficulty is finding clothes that are neither too young (suitable for a 20 year old) or too old and dowdy looking.

The fastest way to look old is to try to look young I was informed, so I could not agree more with most of the comments here. When I was a young mum living in London, I walked behind a girl with a slim and dainty figure, long curls flowing , and a rather 'sweet' little dress tied at the back with a bow. I thought she must be about twenty at most, but when I saw her face I almost fell back with a scream. She was haggard and wrinkled, and she must have caused a similar shock to a lot of people. Given that she was slim and had good hair, had she dressed appropriately she could have looked really good instead of alarming.
A smile is so important, being scrupulously clean and fresh in person and clothing, a good haircut, and by now hopefully we know what suits us in terms of colouring and style. The single biggest asset that I believe keeps anyone looking and feeling young is a happy heart.

I went out with DD yesterday and felt young and [for me] quite lively - and then she took a photo of us both!!!!! I just live in hope that what I wear, the way I speak and what I say outweighs what I actually look like!!!

Colouring the hair, and if you don't want a block colour, some artful streaks, plus good eye makeup works for me.

Greys and beige are ageing, and pastels can be too.

Morethantwo - you are so right! A smile makes anyone look better and brighter. (Lovely colours too - I steer clear of greys and beiges.)

Rufus, chance would be a fine thing. And being taken for mother wouldn't put me off. Having said that, older men usually have much better conversation.

Sorry sorry, dropped the tablet. I could do with a diet fitness image course.

Perhaps I should start a

We went to a memorial service yesterday and there were some very smart ladies there. Quite inspiring. Definitely losing the extra pounds might help. And I might try contact lenses again.
Seeing what other people are wearing is always so interesting.

I love dresses but hate tights - legs a no no to go bare. What do you wear with a dress?

Makeup almost always makes you look older.

Why should you want to look younger? Sheep as lamb is just sad.

Enjoy the advantage of old age - pensions, choice to work, ability cross the road and be avoided by traffic, cheap access to many things, time to walk the dog with a clear conscience and best of all, relief from the burden of responsibility for your children. They have their own lives and you can't live their lives for them.

Look your age and be proud of the experience you have gained. Help wherever you can to smooth the path for you family, friends and community and benefit from the interactions & friendships this provides.

Don't bear grudges; they are destructive and a waste of energy; avoid judging unless asked and then only suggest and respect the decision made. Remember that other don't see the world as you do and their experiences and skills will colour their attitudes. We need all sorts of people to keep our civilised communities functioning efficiently.

And enjoy, enjoy, enjoy! A smile goes so much further that criticism and condemnation.

And what makes us look older?

Loopyloo; Being escorted by a younger gentleman!
You'd always be mistaken for his mother.