Feeling frumpy and old

I must just add that if I'm staying in all day and letting it all hang out, as they say, I am unrecognizable from the above description and look every one and probably more of my years.
I like to think of my upkeep as painting the Forth bridge.
Never ending!

It takes a lot of effort to look half decent as you get older, so I look after my skin, moisture wise and buy good foundation and bronzers. I won't even leave the house without a bit of bronzer and lip gloss and when I go out socially, I always wear makeup, very subtle, more Is less as they say.
I'm booked in every six weeks at the hairdressers for cut and colour, with low lights and high lights and hair layered to shoulder length.
I call in when I'm passing the Brow Bar in a local shopping centre and have my brows threaded.
I keep up to date fashion wise without going over the top, so I wear slim leg jeans and trousers with tunic tops and ankle boots.
I sometimes check with my Daughter and Granddaughters, if I've bought something new, if it's ok for me age wise and they always say that it looks great. In fact they say, "Gran you look totally amazing!"
I trained them well....?

I tint my eyebrows to get rid of the grey stragglers and wear a decent quality legging with ankle boots and longish tops on casual days .For work days its a dress with opaque tights and decent shoes .I get my hair dyed every 6 weeks or so and use a root treatment in btween times and I'm religious about skincare .I do have friends who think I'm bonkers because I refuse to get/look old and I tell them that just because I'm a granny doesn't mean I have to look like a granny did when I was young .Everyone is different though so I wouldn't expect you to do what I do but you could try the eyebrow tint as nothing is more aging than white brows

It does sneak up on you doesn’t it?
Like you I thought I looked pretty good for my age until I caught sight of this dumpy old dear in a shop window.
Sucking the tummy in made no difference(tummy, where’s that?) and the silver hair was looking less Christine Lagarde and more Norah Batty.
Only Solution? Stop wearing my glasses out of doors I fear.

I'm embracing my inner pensioner.
Its lovely.
Big knickers.
Grey hair.
Flat shoes.
Hairy legs.
Its a totally effortless look.

Frumpy and old badge?

That's no way to look at it.

Thanks for this thread - feel much better now I know it's not just me wearing the frumpy and old badge.

That's the reason I keep my hair short!
As for the eyebrows - one side seems to grow more white hairs than the other, so when I pluck them out I look lop-sided!

I have just acquired a very cheap hair straightener and it is brilliant. I use it very sparingly and only after a hair wash. My hair is long with a bit of a kink and it tends to just fly out ad lib, but the straightener makes it look like normal hanging hair. Very pleased with it.

Ive tried somany oils, serums and conditioners Jalima and it's made no difference. I've got masses of hair anyway and the last thing I need is for it to be coarse and dry as well. It looks like stuffing sticking out of a sofa most days lately! And I could really do without that white, 2" long hair, that grows at a 90 degree angle out of my right eyebrow. Moustache will be next......

No matter how my hair is cut and styled, it always look bushy and dry and lacklustre
My hair has got drier and tends to stick out in the wrong direction but I found if I use a little Argan oil on it before I wash it rather than afterwards it does tame it down a bit. I don't do it every time I wash it though.

It's just the time of year! When spring comes you will feel much better.

I know exactly how you feel 1mm6. Like you, I always felt quite happy with my appearance; cut and coloured hair every 6 weeks; well manicured nails; always wore make up and updated it regularly so that I wasn't stuck in a rut. Never a slave to fashion but I was frequently complimented on what I was wearing. But this last 12 months have seen a real decline. No matter how my hair is cut and styled, it always look bushy and dry and lacklustre. Make up is getting harder and harder to get right and I frequently don't bother these days. And I seem to wear the same clothes day in, day out. Lost my mo jo and need a complete overhaul I think.

My mum looked good till she died at 92. Flat shoes but better than tottering?

Simply robell trousers fab and available online. Different lengths and widths.

Well, if it's any consolation I'm 71 and living in skinny jeans and boots. Haven't worn heels for a decade.

Get your hairdresser to blend in your grey roots with highlights then one day you'll realise you don't need them any more.

Hat's are cool.

Just be you. Glam is overrated.