Talking tactfully with my hairdresser

ExD Google is your friend here - google something like modern haircuts for 60 year olds or whatever you like and you can wade through loads of images with descriptions of what they are.

Also loads of articles from magazines - although some have so many adverts attached you might wish you hadn't bothered ?

As others say, find a hairdresser in a salon, and try and explain what you want.They cut hair day in and day out and go on training sessions and keep up with with what styles are fashionable.Just because she is your cousin doesn’t entitle her to sole management of your hair.
Hope all will go well, a good style makes such a difference,Report back to us?

'layered bob' !!! thats what I'm after - words/expressions like that. I'm not sure, but I think I also want it 'feathered' round the front - I think that's the word for the result I'm after but I want to be sure (maybe I want it layered? who knows)?
More importantly - how do I find out?

The voucher idea is a good one, I don't think I'd start a family war if I did that.

Go to another hairdresser and tell your cousin it was by way of a gift voucher. Then you can give them the chance of repeating the cut/style next ime.

I think wanting to be pampered ‘now we’re allowed out’ is a kind response DiscoDancer. Good suggestion!

If you are paying your cousin to cut your hair then you should not worry about telling her what you want. No point paying good money for a bad haircut. Otherwise cut your losses and go elsewhere.

Why don’t you say after the awful year plus, we’ve just had, you fancy going to a salon to be really pampered. It may cost you more...but at least then, you’d hopefully have the style you want, and your cousin will be able to see it.

It’s worth remembering that hair cutting, like any skill, needs regular practice. Many hairdressers haven’t had any work to do during lockdown, and their skills may be a bit rusty. I don’t think we can expect them to be able to do top-class cuts immediately, so perhaps wait for another visit before you decide to do anything that might upset your cousin?

Sorry forgetful I meant to say I always have my hair the same style. If you do or not take a photo of your hair when it was styled your favourite way. Show your cousin it and say it was the best cut you had. A picture of you is better than a picture in a hairdressers styling book it might give her inspiration.

Do you know anyone who has a good cut if so ask them where they get done. And also ask the name of the stylist the hen book an appointment

I know you don't want to hurt your cousin so could you say someone bought you a voucher as a thank you for a kindness you did for them

My hair is usually a layered bob just below the ears I usually go to a salon not far from me. The staff know me there I have naturally wavy hair I usually get a wet cut and go and scrunch it dry at home. I went for a wet cut when first lock down eased I returned home to scrunch dry my hair I was so disappointed. It was a mess as if it had been hacked off. I have come to the conclusion being furloughed from work for so long the stylist has gone past caring. Needless to say I have cut my own hair this time. It’s not great but I am not paying someone good money to do a bad job again.

Is there a salon you fancy that you feel could come up with the result you want? If so, make the visit and surprise your cousin with the result and ask her if she would do it exactly like this in the future. A reasonable conversation should ensue and you could both end up happier.