I do not use any styling equipment at all, not even a hairdryer. I too have dead straight hair with a will of its own, which could look like BJs if I let it.
I just look at hairstyles anywhere I see them until I find a style that depends on cutting only and has a fringe, essential because whatever I do my hair falls over my face, and is modelled by someone with a short neck and long face like mine. Take it to a good hairdresser and get it well cut.
When I wash it, I always massage some Argan oil through it, befotre combing it into style. This is quite effective in controlling the fly-away aspect of my hair and keeping it straight and tidy.