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Gin Sun 02-Apr-23 12:55:46

For some random reason my social media has decided to shower me with postings about pre-loved mothers of brides outfits. Not having attended a wedding for many years I am astounded by the fashions. It appears mothers are outdoing their daughters for being the focus of attention. Dresses in orange, magenta, and extremely bold patterns accompanied in every case by a hat as big as a cartwheel which I have never seen worn elsewhere, well maybe by a few at Ascot races. Most dresses seem to come from a few fashion houses with Italian sounding names and at eye watering costs! I do not disapprove but it looks like almost a prescribed uniform. Is this a general thing or not?

Sago Wed 05-Apr-23 15:24:00

Foxygloves

Sago

My daughter is marrying in Spain later this year.
It’s a very informal affair to take place in the grounds of a stunning Villa.
I was away his weekend and saw a shop window just full of bright clothes.
I have purchased this for the big day

Very striking Sago, I do envy those with the height to pull that look off.
(I hope none of the male guests will be channelling their hippy vibegrin )

Dear Lord!
Me neither!
We’re expecting a lot of linen!

Norah Wed 05-Apr-23 15:13:05

Coco51

DS is getting married for the second time, although you’d be forgiven for thinking it is the first by arrangements. Wondering if I could get away with outfit worn for DD’s wedding. I cannot muster enthusiasm for an all-out MOG this time.

Goodness yes.

I always wear the same dress, perhaps a different hat, have since our first daughter married so long ago.

kittylester Wed 05-Apr-23 10:31:02

DD1 had a summer wedding in a register office with the reception in a Riverside pub. I wore white wide leg trousers, white silky t-shirt, pink linen mix jacket and pink and white silk scarf. It felt smart and relaxed at the same time. Especially as most other family weddings have necessitated full on MOB/MOG.

Foxygloves Wed 05-Apr-23 10:09:25

Sago

My daughter is marrying in Spain later this year.
It’s a very informal affair to take place in the grounds of a stunning Villa.
I was away his weekend and saw a shop window just full of bright clothes.
I have purchased this for the big day

Very striking Sago, I do envy those with the height to pull that look off.
(I hope none of the male guests will be channelling their hippy vibegrin )

JackyB Wed 05-Apr-23 09:49:34

Here in Germany the wedding is a matter for the bride and bridegroom. Because there is no State Church, the couple have to be married at a registry office before they can get married in church. Sometimes there can be a couple of years between the two, and children may even have come along in the meantime, although it is also quite usual to have the registry office ceremony, say, on the Friday and the church ceremony on the Saturday.

The parents of bride and groom have no particular significance. You wear what you would normally wear to a church service on a high holiday. Definitely no hat!

On searching the internet I found a few ideas for the "Brautmutter" but they were just normal dresses or trouser suits. Obviously just put together from the normal ranges as they were modelled by young women more the age of the bride than her mother!

Coco51 Wed 05-Apr-23 04:05:39

DS is getting married for the second time, although you’d be forgiven for thinking it is the first by arrangements. Wondering if I could get away with outfit worn for DD’s wedding. I cannot muster enthusiasm for an all-out MOG this time.

Kathmaggie Tue 04-Apr-23 19:11:25

It’s the brides day ! MOB and MOG just dress in comfy smart outfits that you can preferably wear again.

4allweknow Tue 04-Apr-23 18:45:28

I live very close to the International Wedding Hotel winner, again. Some of the pictures from weddings held there show the wedding parties in outfits as you described Gin. For me a lot of the bride and bridesmaids (sometimes 5, 7 of them) are to me just all about showing cleavage. I cringe at the split right down to the waist fronts on brides' dresses or boobs struggling to be covered. All of the dresses will be expensive. As to the cost of weddings again all te lavish room, table decorations and flowers not to mention the cake and favours for the guests. If course tge weddibg party must have their hair and makeup done at the hotel. Honestly I can go on and on about the "must haves" for a wedding these days.

Longdistancegrnny Tue 04-Apr-23 15:05:20

When DD1 got married in Mauritius 10 years ago she asked us all to dress in blue. I got a pretty silky summer dress and silver shoes, no need for hat or bag as it was all in villa we were staying at! DD2 is getting married in a Barn in Cornwall in December so different approach needed! Have been told about a couple of MOB shops I should go to but that really is not my style, just can't imagine a 'dress and jacket' combo, but not sure what else to go for - small grandchildren involved so the plain silk I envisage may not be practical.....any suggestions welcomed!

cc Tue 04-Apr-23 14:32:52

I bought a wonderful cerise dress for my son's wedding, very fancy, more like a cocktail frock. It was expensive and was altered to fit perfectly and finish just on the knee. I felt wonderful in it but sadly the wedding was called off less than a month beforehand.
I'm so sad that I never got to wear it - perhaps I should be buried in it?!

Norah Tue 04-Apr-23 13:34:07

I've a pretty, classic, silk, tailored, below the knee, elbow length sleeve, aqua column dress that I wear to all weddings. Have for as long as I can remember.

All daughters' and granddaughters' weddings.

Classic style never changes. Perhaps similar would suit?

Tusue Tue 04-Apr-23 12:30:02

Changing the subject slightly but 2 weddings I attended recently the mothers of the brides both wore WHITE!!! I was always told the only person (as a matter of good taste) to wear white was the bride .Am I being too old fashioned?

Snorkel Tue 04-Apr-23 12:29:45

I bought a cerise silk mini dress with feathery looking strands, pink and black pony skin heels and a light pink silk blazer all from eBay. Total cost about £45. My daughter loved it. Her MIL wore something she said 'looked alright for a casual lunch'. Glad I made the effort. No hat but cool shades.

Grammaretto Tue 04-Apr-23 11:59:26

The men wore kilts. So much easier for them.

Grammaretto Tue 04-Apr-23 11:58:09

3 of ours were married within a few years but I felt i needed a different outfit each time due to the photos! . A shame because I looked ok in the first 2 but awful in the most recent. I gave my MOB dress to charity shortly after
It was hot and uncomfortable.
Always go for comfort. If you feel nice you will look good.

JRTW2 Tue 04-Apr-23 11:40:42

I agree. My (late) mother wore a (too) long purple lace dress which she loved. She also had a huge lilac hat which ended up having its own Facebook page because everyone posed in it. She had a lovely day and I smile every time I see her in my wedding photos.

Jaxie Tue 04-Apr-23 11:31:29

When my son got married to a Canadian (in Canada) I found a stylish dress in Liberty cotton from Bombshell which was expertly cut, in cotton as I knew the weather would be hot. I wore a subdued fascinator. As we left the hotel the staff gathered round; they told me that they loved seeing the outfits English wedding guests wore. When We arrived at church the only women wearing hats besides me were my English friend and the mother of the bride. I felt rather over dressed I must say as at the reception ( outside) some men wore shorts and the women were in simple shift type dresses. I took off my headgear and changed my high heels for sandals.

luluaugust Tue 04-Apr-23 10:50:05

Calendargirl I had what I thought was the most simple shift and jacket for my DS's wedding France as I knew they didn't dress up as much and apart from still feeling overdressed they insisted I came with a hat, which soon came off1

Whitewavemark2 Tue 04-Apr-23 10:04:41

NotSpaghetti

^For DS’s I wore a flowered silk dress with bolero jacket, which I took off as it was so hot.^

WWM - I read this twice as I'd envisaged you were just in underwear 😱

😄

sago I do like that. Retro flower power🙂 . I have a photo of me in similar colours very very mini dress in 60s.

glammanana Tue 04-Apr-23 09:33:07

Sago

My daughter is marrying in Spain later this year.
It’s a very informal affair to take place in the grounds of a stunning Villa.
I was away his weekend and saw a shop window just full of bright clothes.
I have purchased this for the big day

How lovely Sago

NotSpaghetti Tue 04-Apr-23 09:17:53

For DS’s I wore a flowered silk dress with bolero jacket, which I took off as it was so hot.

WWM - I read this twice as I'd envisaged you were just in underwear 😱

Sago Tue 04-Apr-23 08:50:30

My daughter is marrying in Spain later this year.
It’s a very informal affair to take place in the grounds of a stunning Villa.
I was away his weekend and saw a shop window just full of bright clothes.
I have purchased this for the big day

Whitewavemark2 Mon 03-Apr-23 22:18:45

Best of luck 🙂. I’m not a beanpole by any stretch of the imagination and found it a flattering style.

growstuff Mon 03-Apr-23 22:08:10

I agree with you WW. I love dresses cut on the bias. They don't have fixed waistlines, which suits me. They don't make me look like a beanpole either. I've spotted a couple in John Lewis, but I need to try them on.

Whitewavemark2 Mon 03-Apr-23 22:02:19

growstuff

Dresses cut on the bias would be good. Flat shoes with midi dresses seem very fashionable at the moment.

The dress I wore to my sons wedding was cut on the bias, and incredibly easy to wear, not fitted and so comfortable.