Wedding outfits

When my son was married a year ago, everyone wore facinators or hats.
It wasn't an over the top wedding, but that tends to be the style at all the weddings we have attended.

My cousin's friend liked my hat so much, I gave it to her at the wedding, for a forthcoming wedding she was attending. I didn't want it back, I don't really suit them!

My dress cost £5 as a Manager's special in an M&S outlet. I had spotted it before Lockdown and couldn't resist it, putting it away for a special occasion, just in case. I got so many compliments. Guests thought I had spent a fortune on it.
I had hoped to wear it at my daughter's wedding, but it was cancelled due to Lockdown. She ended up getting married in our garden, a simple affair, so the dress would have been too much.

Well my DS is getting married in May. I have bought an expensive dress and fascinator. I will get myself all dolled up and feel super duper special on the day. The bride is wearing a beautiful dress. My DDs are bridesmaids and my DGDs are flower girls, all in gorgeous dresses. The MoB will look stunning. My DH and my son will be all dressed up as will my DGS as a pageboy. I have no intention of being left out. Yes, my dress cost me pounds and pounds more than I would normally pay, but I have only one son and I want to feel totally special on his day. And afterwards, I will sell the outfit to recoup some of the cost and help someone else feel really special and different. And NO I won't look like a dog's dinner or a pantomime dame. But I will look and feel the best I possibly can.

Hello girl, you should look at the pre loved Facebook group previously mentioned. Lots of larger, shorterladies asking for advice and giving suggestions.

Hellogirl1

This coming August, I`m going to be Grandmother of the Groom, and can`t find anything to wear! Ideally, I`d like something long to cover my swollen legs and feet, but as I`m only 4`11" and fat, I don`t think that would be a good look, so I`m still searching.

Did you look at Box 2 HelloGirl
The trousers could always be shortened

Hellogirl
Look at Palazzo pants. They will hide your legs and feet.
Wear a long floaty top to go with them.

Hellogirl11 I'd suggest a trousers and top outfit would work best for you and look smart 🙂

This coming August, I`m going to be Grandmother of the Groom, and can`t find anything to wear! Ideally, I`d like something long to cover my swollen legs and feet, but as I`m only 4`11" and fat, I don`t think that would be a good look, so I`m still searching.

NotSpaghetti

Oh dear Norah - I wish I was slim enough for one of my existing "smart" outfits!

Genetics. Lucky me.

I really prefer slim jeans with Chucks. Or with a jacket and loafers.

Otherwise it's pastel silk column dress or a navy, with jacket or not - 2 boring, predictable, classic forever dresses. High heels.

I have never fussed about dressing for weddings, just put on something smart. In my working days, probably something I wore to work, dolled up with jewellry etc.

For DS's wedding I wore an unstructured silk suit I had bought for my graduation a couple of years previously.

I will always dress up, and if I need a new outfit, will buy one.

Oh dear Norah - I wish I was slim enough for one of my existing "smart" outfits!

Horses for courses surely. Some people (me included) like the opportunity to dress up for a change, some people aren't fussed. Neither is bad, just different.

stewaris

My DH's nephew is getting married in 3 weeks. My DH has ben informed by my DMIH that both his sisters, one who is mother of the groom. are spending in the region of £600 for their outfits. Mine is a £30 job from Brand Alley, not sure if I should be saying that, marked down from £100.We're not really party people and the last dress I bought was foe marrying DH, second marriage for both or us, wore it once and consigned it to the charity shop afterwards. We both hope to escape pretty quickly afterwards. Does that mean we are bad people?

No, smart people. Well done you.

I always wear the same silk column dress, with elbow sleeves, have for all weddings. It's pretty, classic, tailored, dresses up for any occasion - happy to be wearing it soon, to our widowed daughter's 2nd wedding.

New pretty heels. Dog ate my favourites.

My DH's nephew is getting married in 3 weeks. My DH has ben informed by my DMIH that both his sisters, one who is mother of the groom. are spending in the region of £600 for their outfits. Mine is a £30 job from Brand Alley, not sure if I should be saying that, marked down from £100.We're not really party people and the last dress I bought was foe marrying DH, second marriage for both or us, wore it once and consigned it to the charity shop afterwards. We both hope to escape pretty quickly afterwards. Does that mean we are bad people?

luluaugust

The last wedding I attended the ladies were wearing the flowery dresses that have been so popular the last couple of summers. Nobody wore a hat of any kind.

Phew. I'm about to go to a wedding and this is what I am planning to wear. Although DH has said I can't wear my trainers with it, lol. This is entirely based on him saying if he has to wear proper shoes then so do I.

We are not "main party" so a fancy suit and hat is not needed, I'm planning to play the eccentric aunt instead!!

I am relieved that some of you agree with me. To my eyes some, not all, look more suited to a panto dame. Where does normal dress sense go ! Why do MOB seem to think it necessary to dress up in such an over the top way? Is it part if the current curse of wedding performances? A friend with a very demanding daughter is near to a breakdown with extraordinary demands for specialist cake, serviettes, flowers, outfits etc. She feels like running away!

I agree though. Some horrible outfits.

It's awkward though Polly - and easier, I think as bride's family as they are unlikely to be upset if you wear entirely what you want!

Some truly horrible outfits out there. I gave up and just wore the sort of clothes that suit me.

I went OTT for DD1’s first wedding, but got my money’s worth out of the outfit. I wore the complete outfit for Ladies Day at the Races and again for DH’s nephews wedding in Cheshire and my BF’s son’s wedding back in Durham. It came out again, without the hat for DD2’s graduation.
Although it’s quite old, I could still wear it tomorrow if needs be. Mind you, I’d need more comfortable shoes!

OK. Thanks.
I have done this and signed up.
I just thought it was going to be more "conversational"
Thanks again.

NotSpaghetti

^It is fabulous because the ladies on it are so understanding and supportive ( and absolutely no politics😂)^

I have looked for this friendly site but can't find it.
Do you have a link please?

I Googled Pre loved wedding and occasion outfits. The Facebook page was there. I just had to scroll up to find it.

It is fabulous because the ladies on it are so understanding and supportive ( and absolutely no politics😂)

I have looked for this friendly site but can't find it.
Do you have a link please?

I love swishy clothes. I think it takes me back to a dress I had when I was a little girl. 💕

At a summer family wedding last year I didn’t wear a hat, just a lovely decorated headband that matched my dress. I love hats but couldn’t justify the expense for the ones I liked! I wore a lovely ombré dress with a fitted waist and swishy skirt and a little fitted crop jacket which co ordinated but was not part of a ‘set’. I hope I looked ok as the outfit was ‘glam’ enough to be interesting but not OTT.

I am going to be an MOG in a few weeks and have also been following the same group as Notagran. It is fabulous because the ladies on it are so understanding and supportive ( and absolutely no politics😂). They also post photos of themselves in the outfits they are selling. Many of them are plus sized and not particularly tall and obviously not that young. It means that you can see what the outfits look on "real" women. I have bought a dressxwhich is ivory with blue dots all over it.
Admittedly some of the dresses and hats really are OTT and I am surprised at how many MOBs wear white or ivory. But as long as the bride doesn't mind I guess it's ok. Though I wouldn't dream of it personally.