Is “sexy” what you want to be in your mid-80’s?

As someone in their 80s, we can definitely be sexy.
Or atleast my husband seems to think so…

Personally, I think the outfit is ugly, but in a way, Prue comes over as sexy in it, because she is clearly happy and enjoying herself, which is very attractive in itself…..

The thread title said "sexy" not sexy.
There is a difference

Quote marks can also be a pair of quotation marks put around a word or phrase to indicate that a writer believes a term is inappropriate, wants to use a term ironically, or wants to call attention to a word/phrase for a certain reason
It should be clear what my opinion of "sexy" was, used in this context

I thought "sexed up" meant attempting to make someone more sexually attractive to others. Prue is attractive, the dress? chosen for her is ugly and decidedly not sexy, in my opinion. Horrid headline.

Sex is enjoyable, I doubt love making has an end date.

Noting Prue's age in the news bit was meant to pull one into the article, I'd think. Same to "sexy" in the thread title. People love sex.

At the risk of repetition, what I said was
Laying my cards on the table
1) I don’t think black latex is “sexy” - I think it looks tarty and that is NOT the same thing
2) black and scarlet are such an unimaginative and hackneyed combination if looking glamorous is the intention
3) with trainers?
4) I think Prue Leith has her own, colourful style. I love the big glasses, the bold necklaces and adventurous colours - she generally looks fantastic.
“Sexed up” is not her style and it depresses me that yet another man seems to equate looking sexy with looking attractive.

I absolutely agree, but I found myself thinking about the title of the thread and its implicit assumption that women in their 80s were no longer interested in sex
No @ M0nica - you say my words contained the implicit assumption etc.
1) I did /do not assume anything of the sort- so there was no “assumption
2) I say what I mean, so if I had meant that I would have said it explicitly - so there was nothing implicit

It helps to read the words of a post without making 2+2 make 7, leaping to conclusions, or getting the wrong end of the stick.

Yes, but what is sexy, some people can look sexy dressed in a plastic bag. For some women it is something built into them. I went to school with a girl who really was a Plain Jane, but even in school uniform, worn as the nuns approves,, she was aa boy magnet - and none of us could work out why. She hated it.

I am not putting any words in your mouth. I am reading the words you wrote - and the words your wrote were Is “sexy” what you want to be in your mid-80’s To which my response is why would anyone suppose thaat someone wouldn't want to look sexy in their 80s, and why is this question even being asked. There must be a reason and the one that is most frequent is that older women are meant to be sexless nurturers of the younger generation and younger people are really uncomfortable with the idea that we might also have sexual desires and, horrors of horrors, be sexually active.

Enjoying sex is not necessarily the same thing as “looking sexy” particularly in that clichéd tarty way (black latex, red lacing or scarlet corset and black lace etc)
Actually IMO the effect would be the opposite of attractive, in fact grotesque .
But don’t put words in my mouth M0nica I tend to say what I mean and mean what I say.

Some women will still be interested in sex at that age and some won’t, just like most other ages probably.Am guessing it’s not high on the list for 90 somethings tho.🤔

but I found myself thinking about the title of the thread and its implicit assumption that women in their 80s were no longer interested in sex

Please don't assume- you know what it makes don't you?.

M0nica

I absolutely agree, but I found myself thinking about the title of the thread and its implicit assumption that women in their 80s were no longer interested in sex.

As I said appearing sexually attractive, has nothing to do with dressing and acting in an overtly cliched way, but just having that certain something that attracts someone.

Yes.
Also, the implication that you need black latex with red trimmings to be sexy is very reminiscent of the joke that men buy black or red lacy underwear for their wives on Valentine’s Day.

Galaxy

I think that's a mans idea of sexy. And sorry but a man who holds a particularly sexist view of women.

Perhaps some men would find that dress sexy.
Mine doesn't (he saw the photo and title to thread).
Sexy is in the eye of the person looking.

I think that's a mans idea of sexy. And sorry but a man who holds a particularly sexist view of women.

I absolutely agree, but I found myself thinking about the title of the thread and its implicit assumption that women in their 80s were no longer interested in sex.

As I said appearing sexually attractive, has nothing to do with dressing and acting in an overtly cliched way, but just having that certain something that attracts someone.

So yes why not look sexy in your 80s

Absolutely, but that outfit is not sexy!

Actually, why shouldn't one want to look sexy in ones 80s? I mean there is more to looking sexy than minimal and/or tight revealing clothes and pouting.

Look at Maureen Lipman announcing that she is to marry again at the age of 78. My DS's MiL, now in her late 80s, and long widowed, has had a boyfriend as long as I have known her,. As one relationship ends she usually starts another within a year. In the 20 years I have known her she has had 4 boyfriends and I have no reason to think the relationships were platonic.

So yes why not look sexy in your 80s, not everyone's libido dies with the menopause. Some women find it revives when the fear of pregnancy disappears.

I think she looks edgey and the outfit is flattering. She’s not trying to look sexy! I live in DMs and jeans and got my first tattoos recently and am always well turned-out. I’m 67 and will always be a rock-chick. However I would never try to look sexy and know instinctively if I look like mutton done up lamb.
Leave her be.

M0nica

MissAdventure

I didn't know about Marianne, M0nica.

She has certainly got some memories, I'll bet!

I will go and have a look online.

Did you think she would always be "someone"?

No, we didn't, she was really a very pretty little girl, but manipulative, as I said, she used her prettiness for good effect, which caused resentment. She was also academically bright and artistically gifted. It appeared as if the fairy godmother's had all attended her christening and smiled and scattered all the gifts on her. A true golden girl.

However, she was on 'Who do you think you are?' and that revealed a lot about her mother's past in particular. Her mother was an Austrian Countess, and half Jewish. It was only the high rank of her father that protected her and her, fully Jewish, mother from the inevitable fate of other Jewish and part Jewish people in Austria. When the Russians invaded and occupied Austria, Russian soldiers raped both Marianne's mother and grandmother.

It made me realise, how ungolden the life of little girl behind the 'golden' girl was and explains a lot of her later behaviour, but my goodness, isn't she a survivor?

This happened to a German friend of mine in Berlin. The Russians raped both her aunt and her mother in front of her in the cellar they were hiding in.. It had such an impact on her that she wrote a poem about it which was read at her funeral...

Norah

Galaxy

Oh my God being ignored is utter bliss. Its funny how different we all are.

Agreed.

I blend well into the background - with the potted plants.

One can relax into people watching from the security of anonymity.

Galaxy

Oh my God being ignored is utter bliss. Its funny how different we all are.

Agreed.

I blend well into the background - with the potted plants.

Redhead, I don’t look my age 68 and my outlook is young but having ever present health issues wears me down. resonates with me.

I am 69 and battling chronic ill health, but determined to make the most of things, within my limitations.
I felt great at the beginning of the week, but can do little today. I used to keep working through it, but realised that was stupid.

I am resilient and strong willed, that is half the battle.

I don’t happen to be depressed I have a wonderful family and friends. I have achieved a lot in many ways but since my early 50s my health has progressively declined. I don’t look my age 68 and my outlook is young but having ever present health issues wears me down.

If someone is not hindered by disability in their 80s I admire them and wish them good luck. If I am still able to enjoy the simple pleasures in life when I am in my 80s that will be a bonus. I will be grateful I know plenty of people not so fortunate and life for them is a struggle

Galaxy 😂😂😂

Oh my God being ignored is utter bliss. Its funny how different we all are.