Mother of Groom

I was MOB last August and I wore a pretty but comfortable dress, very inexpensive. I just kept reminding myself that no one would be looking at me.

In September my son is getting married. There will be a registry office legal bit on the Thursday with just me and the brides mum as witnesses, and they are having a celebration and tying of hands on the Saturday after. The Saturday celebration is being held in woodlands with handmade pizzas, ice cream van and fun fair style games to play. The wedding party colours are black and forest green. Their wedding, their choices. I know what colour the bride is wearing because I am making her veil.

Seems you know what matters about the the wedding. Your trousers and nice top will suit well. Nice walking sandals. Done.

Definite trousers….maybe with one top for the first day and a different one for the next, both with a pair of comfy backless shoes. I think you’ll be surprised at how informal younger people are at weddings these days. No hat unless you feel you must …..or the wedding couple are strongly suggesting it.
So, go shopping, enjoy, and choose some clothes you love! (Don’t forget as the day goes on, if it’s outside, you may be chilly in the evening, so maybe a shawl, jacket or similar, to add…

Make sure you do go 'as yourself' - I was in a similar quandry and eventually wore smart wide trousers (in a loose on me size) and a fancyish tee shirt based top - fascinator I wore just for the really formal bit. Have shoes you feel human in, and you'll enjoy it so much more. Be happy and have a lovely day. Maybe something in Joe Browns as a top/tunic? www.joebrowns.co.uk/

Think of all the weddings you've been to. Without looking at photographs, can you recall what anybody else was wearing? I certainly can't.
Your son and his wife want your company and support on their happy day, not your wardrobe. Don't be scruffy but be stylishly comfortable, however you achieve that and enjoy the event.

Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. Your job is to feel proud and say the right things. What you are wearing doesn't come into it - as long as it's not jeans and a bomber jacket!!

Can you ask for helpful advice from your future daughter in law ? You are making her veil after all. The colours are good - nothing too frilly about black and forest green ! Also it sounds quite informal so no need to worry with a hat just make sure your hair is done and if it’s short wear earrings . You will be limited tho to what is available clothes wise . Black footwear should be no problem. September will be cool enough to wear a smart jacket -maybe short sleeved if you can find it ? I’d be tempted to go for a fitted forest green jacket ( there must be many shades of forest green !) and either skirt or trousers and a simple top underneath it all. Would a shirt waister type dress suits you at all ? Or a wrap dress that doesn’t have a defined waist ? As long as everything goes together colour wise and fits well -don’t be tempted by a cardigan tho much loved and ok in the right place they always look too casual in my opinion . Find some simple well fitting classic pieces and comfy footwear . All eyes on the bride and groom after all!

A knitted dress is always the answer for me! The are pull on & comfy and skim over rather than pull. Crew has one which would look great with a nice jacket.
www.crewclothing.co.uk/womens/clothing-and-accessories/womens-dresses-and-skirts/knitted-shift-dress-bluewhite-wwj061/

What about a maxi dress (sleeveless) The model in the picture is wearing flat shoes. You could choose a jacket colour to match your accessories...

Sahara have beautiful dresses.

Wear something flattering and comfortable.
I made a big mistake with my outfit at DDs wedding. I thought I should look fabulous and ended up wearing a very uncomfortable, tight dress and jacket. It wasn't white but a sort of shiny beige. DD thought I was trying to outdo her! I couldn't wait to give it away.
I had gone to a dept store and had a personal shopper. Don't do it!

My sons' weddings I was far more comfortable. A linen skirt and pretty jacket. Phase 8 perhaps. I can't remember.

A nice top and trouser with sandals even Birkenstocks would be fine. My middle AS is getting married next April it’s a destination wedding over in Spain and I’m considering a top and trousers as the ceremony and reception are beside the swimming pool

Vibrant autumn colours, tailored stretchy trousers, severe but loose top and an important necklace? That gives you a good excuse for comfortable shoes? Perhaps go wild with hair to match the colours!

i would look at the trousers and top and you might look at Seasalt, for quite a variety of tops and trousers, with some good colours and definitely some greens in there. Perhaps you have trousers and jacket or top and possibly a little fascinator in green for the formal bit, which is easy to take off. Or another idea I have used for various friends in this sort of circumstance is to buy a new straw hat from someone like cancer research or british heart foundation, and then I did one of two things. If they were going to be worn with a dress and it had a belt, I would plait the belt with a white ribbon and another of an appropriate colour. Then this was put round the hat above the brim and sometimes fresh flowers added at the side. This then matched the outfit and they then had the flowers to press if they wanted as a reminder and also had a sun hat for future use. Or with no belt to use, take the dress with you to match up and again just find 2 or 3 fine ribbons that you can plait together to make something to join the hat to the outfit. Then with trousers I think your simple footwear will be fine and you wont be worrying about what you are wearing, just enjoying the occasion. Hope you have a lovely time

It sounds as though you need two outfits: a slightly more formal one for the registry office on the Thursday and a more comfortable one - perhaps something looser or with more stretchy materials - for the following Saturday.
I usually start planning an outfit by thinking about the jacket. If it's September the weather could be a little chilly. Be prepared for rain too. I'd invest in a smart umbrella if you don't have one.
I like short capes with a slim-fitting, stretchy dress or trousers underneath, but I know they're not for everyone. A plain green, wool dress is a good idea too, perhaps with a statement necklace. Phase 8 do some smart/casual jackets to go on top. You could look at their sale items.

Wear this (very generous) kimono over black top & black trousers. You'll look amazing and feel comfy all day.
The event sounds absolutely wonderful - enjoy !!

I love that kimono, Vykk! I think it'd capture the joyful spirit of the occasion well.

Monsoon super top/ bottom trouser and jumpsuits.
Zara sandals.

As Mother of The Groom, would not wear trousers. Either a dress and jacket, or skirt and top with right accessories and comfortable non frumpy shoes, its a special day.

Allsorts, I wore trousers as MOB 12 years ago. My daughter still says my outfit was fantastic

The celebration in the woods sounds wonderful, my only reservation is that it’s very nature is that it’s likely to get cooler towards the evening so I’d go the trouser suit route as you can layer up or down depending on the weather with flatish shoes as the wood floor won’t be flat

LadyMatt hasn’t had the manners to respond, I wouldn’t bother!

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LadyMatt hasn’t had the manners to respond, I wouldn’t bother!

Perhaps she has a life?

Iam, sure as mother of the bride you looked good. I was just giving my opinion. It is each to their own.

Why not book an appointment with a personal shopper. John Lewis do them and you don’t have to buy what they suggest but they may surprise you with something you had not considered. Take the bride along and make it a fun day out.