Wedding guest dress etiquette

I'm very interested in hearing from seapebble and a couple of others that fascinators are " very dated". How do you know that? They are still very much available at all price points &, at DD's wedding a couple of weeks ago, they were very much in evidence - indeed, I wore one with a beautiful, bright flowery dress. The bride just stipulated she'd like the ladies to wear summer frocks and OP's red dress would fit the bill beautifully, it looks gorgeous!

It's gorgeous and you look lovely! If you think you might fret on the day, why not ask just to make sure there isn't a colour scheme? Otherwise go for it and be proud of yourself. I wouldn't wear the fascinator- they are very dated - not many women even wear hats these days to weddings. However, same applies- if you like it, wear it!

You look amazing- wear it !!

I don't own a dress. I don't own a skirt. My footwear goes from flip-flops to Doc Martens boots. My nephew is flying over from America at the end of October with a plane full of friends, relatives, photographer, celebrant, and wedding planner. He will already have got married in an office in the US, and is coming over to celebrate that. They've hired out a castle in the a**e end of nowhere and the dress code is US formal. Apparently those not dressed appropriately will be turned away. I don't do formal!!
But you look amazing in that dress - beautiful figure and legs to die for! Chin up, shoulders back, and be the Queen that you are! Xxxx

Stuff 'em! Why look and be something you're not? Unless the Happy Couple would like to pay for it........?

OP, there’s nothing wrong with that dress! It’s not too short, not too low in the neckline and certainly isn’t white……what’s not to like about it.
You’ve worn it before so obviously feel comfortable in it. Unless the bride has specified a colour scheme and there's risk of it clashing then go for it. You’ll look fabulous!

Looks perfect. I would check if the bridesmaids are not in cerise, gold or similar, and then stand away from them in photos.

You have plenty of time if it’s next year do maybe ask other guests what they will be wearing. The red dress is lovely. You are very organised. My son’s wedding is the weekend after next. I have bought a bright, cheerful dress but am now panicking after reading this. No time to get another one so fingers crossed I don’t spoil all the photos!

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Wear it. You look lovely and clearly have to figure for it !

You look lovely, the dress really suits you, perhaps if you want to be slightly more formal add a jacket, short sleeve as it will be summer, then you will have a lovely outfit for the reception and I presume evening function.
I did this at my nieces wedding, I wore an expensive dress I had bought for a formal occasion, patterned blue, wore a jacket I’d had years and treated myself to a fancy hat as my sister didn’t want to be the only person wearing one, it was alright she wasn’t.
I dont understand these rules about what to wear, colours etc apart from white. 60 years ago my dad wore the same suit and my mother simply wore her best dress and had a new hat for the weddings of myself and my three sisters. Isn’t the actual Marriage Ceremony the important part of the day, not a fashion parade, leave that to Ascot.

my niece got married last Autumn and asked all the ladies to wear long. I did not want to upset her so bought a hobbs dress costing a small fortune, will never wear it again. silly me most of the ladies ignored her and wore short so much more sensible wish I had had the courage to buy something that I could re-wear.

It’s lovely. Definitely wear it. Why ever not?

You could wear a pashmina type wrap with it in a blue that picks up the colour in your dress? Or a threequarter length lightweight coat/cardigan? I wore a gauzy long cardigan over a dress once because of undertain weather and several people admired it.
And I wouldn't bother with a hat, I always used to wear them at weddings but hardly anybody does now, other than the occasional bride's mother.

You look lovely in it. Go for it!

The dress is gorgeous, wear it . When my son got married , mother of bride sent a pic of her dress 👗, disappointed as it was the colour I would have chosen . I sweated buckets over trying to find something completely different and eventually settled for the best of a bad job . On the day she arrived wearing a completely different style and colour . Not a word to me , I was silently fuming . Hubbies said well you should have just worn what you wanted to in the first place
Wear the dress and never mind other people

Lovely dress so wear it. I wouldn't wear the fascinator though because that will make you stand out. Nothing wrong in standing out but I think it's overkill with dress having a lovely pattern and it detracts from your dress. I recently wore a fascinator and I was the only one wearing head gear. Enjoy your day and stand proud - you look lovely and have legs I'd kill for

If you feel it’s too bright the. Tone it down maybe with a pler blue hat, shoes and bag so it does make the red pop so much. However if me would just wear it as it is it looks beautiful nd I love bright outfits.

It’s lovely wear it.

Cannot believe what colour you wear to a wedding should be dictated. I have heard of Bridezillas who DEMAND the Mums dress in a particular colour, (for the photographs), but guests?!?! I wear bright coulours all the time, and would especially do so at a wedding.

It’s a lovely outfit, wear it and feel comfortable that it looks good

Interesting comments re fascinators being passe! Would you recommend something like this (I looked up navy hat but it looks like a fascinator to me?)

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Wear it, it looks lovely but don't bother with the fascinator.

I agree. The dress is lovely and you have an enviable figure but the hat is dated and doesn’t ‘go’.

I would choose a navy hat with a wide brim or a straw boater.

You look gorgeous in it! Unless there’s a dress code that comes with the invitations wear it and the fascinator. I’m
sure the bride and groom will just be thrilled you’ve made the effort to dress up for their special day.

You look amazing! Wear it!