Losing my hair

Not at all crazyH

MayBee70

I’ve just done some googling and realised that since I bought my wigs many years ago many hairdressers now sell them, give advice and customise them. My own hairdresser customised one of my wigs and ruined it. Looking at something on instagram it pointed out how many celebrities wear wigs eg Nicole Kidman always wears them. I went to a fancy dress party my daughter gave and felt great because everyone knew it was a wig but it didn’t matter! It was a short dark bob ( I was a suffragette): just the sort of hair I’ve always wanted!

Yes - and honestly if you think about it when you are out and about people really will not realise and you have the huge bonus of feeling so much more confident. I think it is definitely a win all around.

I’ll try to post a picture of my wig. I went for something that imitated my hair style when I had hair. I am also still having what hair I have coloured, and so the wig matches that, but I am thinking of allowing it to grow out and eventually to get a wig of my real colour.

I think that if you have no hair at all, the way to go is to look at your skin colour. So if you are like me very fair, black hair will never work. Think Claudia Winkleman she is naturally fair but after dying her hair black she now has a permanent dark tan to match her hair colour.

I will try and persevere with my wig.I have to say when she put it on it brought tears to my eyes as I looked just like me again. I think wearing it in the house and building up the time is the way to go.
My son in law didn’t even notice when I arrived home with it and as my daughter said if anyone would notice it would be him!
Thank you all so much for your kind comments.
Kate💐

No, of course it isn’t pathetic! Our hair is a part of our character. When I had cancer 10 years ago, I was terrified of losing my hair/eyebrows/eyelashes, more so than I was of the cancer. It didn’t come to that, thank providence, but completely understand how you must be feeling 💐

susan56 that is what I did, and over the months I went from completely rejecting it after I got it home to maybe to Hmm to give it a go to yes!!

There were some female presenters on the TV now sho have lost their hair for some reason or another and have spoken about this.
One that came to mind was Andi Oliver but I have just found out that she shaves her head. (why?)

Why is it seemingly acceptable for men but not so for women?

I remember you talking about your hair system, kate1949 and thought that it sounded excellent, more natural-looking than a wig although they have improved tremendously over the years.
My hair got so thin on a treatment I was on years ago I thought it would all go but the treatment was changed and it did grow back. I feel for anyone who has the same problem.

It's easy to say don't feel down, not easy if it's yourself so all we can do is offer support if you are reliving trauma you endured all over again now.
I hope you have kind and supportive people around who can help you.

Thank you Allira.

Sending a 🤗

I have my first appointment tomorrow with an NHS Dermatologist. It took a lot of persistence to get this appointment and it was only through googling possible causes and remedies that I was able to persuade my GP to refer me. There are medical treatments for hair loss, you should try to access them.

I was still at school when I overheard someone say I was going bald. I was so upset although it was no more than a wide parting. All mums side of the family have thin wispy hair. At 70 mine is embarrassingly thin and to add to my misery I have dark brown moles on my scalp.

I take biotin gummies from Known Nutrition. Not the hair, skin and nails one - just the biotin. You need to give them a good chance to start noticing a difference ie 3 months. But my hair is now longer than it’s ever been in my life and I no longer have a handful of hair in the shower plug hole. I’ve been taking them for about 3 years now and don’t think I’ll ever stop.

Vitamin: Biotin ( hair & nails ) by Solgar - sold at all health food specialty shops.

My hairdresser just recommended Biotin DAILY as I am reading my messages while getting a quick wash and blow dry.

MickyD

I take biotin gummies from Known Nutrition. Not the hair, skin and nails one - just the biotin. You need to give them a good chance to start noticing a difference ie 3 months. But my hair is now longer than it’s ever been in my life and I no longer have a handful of hair in the shower plug hole. I’ve been taking them for about 3 years now and don’t think I’ll ever stop.

I meant to say, not the Biotin for hair and nails .. However, the Biotin 100% Pure Gummies.

Apologies there. I am at the hairdresser and not home.

Both are a positive step to assist in re-hair growth however, the gummies mentioned by you are much better.

One thing I’ve noticed about being old is that no one looks at you as you look at yourself, and although you may feel self conscious perhaps no one would even notice that you may be wearing a wig. I’m notoriously unobservant and certainly wouldn’t notice a wig wearer unless it was a really bad one, or a bit lopsided. I do understand how depressing it must be to lose your hair, it happened to a friend of mine recently and she has had what’s left cut really short which she wears in a spikey style and it looks fabulous. She was initially devastated but now likes it and said it’s so much easier.

The last time I wore a hair topper, i coyly mentioned it to someone.
She said "well i did notice, but i wouldn't embarrass you by saying"

Knocked the wind right out of my sales!

bazza that’s right. Once you pass a certain age you definitely get more transparent - Mrs Cellophane. 😄😄😄

Knittypamela

I was still at school when I overheard someone say I was going bald. I was so upset although it was no more than a wide parting. All mums side of the family have thin wispy hair. At 70 mine is embarrassingly thin and to add to my misery I have dark brown moles on my scalp.

I have an old family photo and someone once pointed out a family member ( great grandmother or something) and said she’s the one that we all inherited our thin hair from. Unfortunately there’s thin hair on both sides of my family. Mine is made worse by the fact I have a high forehead and sticky out ears! I do think, as a lifelong observer of people’s hair, that people with fine hair often have good bone structure though.

Well I’m the exception that proves that rule wrong😄

Me too.
If i have good bone structure, its well hidden under the fat

My hair started to fall out when I had an over-active thyroid. I was in a panic, and minded far more about that than I did about feeling ill. I was lucky that with treatment for the thyroid, my hair eventually returned to normal.

I have been seeing an NHS dermatologist for more than two years.Believe me they and I have tried everything but the situation is that the hair I have lost will not grow back due to scarring.

Prior to seeing the dermatologist I tried so many shampoos and supplements.

I started losing my hair when I was in France, it might have been stress related. The solution there was to send a nurse to my house to give me injections of B6. I was in my twenties. I don’t know whether there are injections here. Worth asking the doctor perhaps. My hair grew back and since then, in England, I always take tablets of B6. I agree that many celebrities wear wigs as a fashion accessory, or wear them to make their hair look thicker. I hope you find a clever hairdresser and a lovely wig. Don’t worry people are amazingly unobservant or couldn’t care less what you have on your head if they like you as a person. 🙂

Maybe just a clever hairdresser. All the best.

I agree that people couldn't care less but this isn't about people it's about my mental health. Shallow it may be but it has floored me. Most of the remedies mentioned I have tried. They include -

Blood tests
Trichologist
Shampoos of various type
Regaine
Some recommendations including -
Drinking cherry juice
Beetroot juice
Cider vinegar
Supplements of varying kinds
Sticking my head in ice cold water
Rubbing an onion on my scalp (yes really)
You name it, I tried it.

Hair is something that is fundamental to a lot of women's self image so I don't think it is pathetic if it discombobulates you. It is something that is instantly obvious to people if you don't have any which doesn't help matters. However, whilst most strangers might look twice, the people who matter will love you regardless of that missing hair. I do hope you find a system that makes you feel better.