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Losing my hair

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Kate1949 Mon 11-May-26 23:03:03

Is it pathetic with all the problems in life that I really can't get over it/get used to it/cope with it?

MissAdventure Thu 14-May-26 14:45:27

I take those.
Not for hairloss, though.

MissAdventure Thu 14-May-26 14:46:29

Oh, i forgot to say, i hope they work for you. smile

keepingquiet Thu 14-May-26 14:57:51

My DD lost all her hair when she was 14 years old. She didn't miss a day at school and wore a hat all through college and got herself a great wig when she went to Uni.
I always hoped her hair would grow back but she has a successful career, a lovely home and husband and two wonderful children.
I lost my hair when having cancer treatment and it has grown back but is still think and lank.
I find it hard to be over sympathetic to posts like this.

Kate1949 Thu 14-May-26 15:08:00

Yes I can understand that keeping quiet. It does seem trivial to some in the scheme of things. However, sometimes it can be a smaller thing that tips the scales.

As previously mentioned, I had all my teeth taken out aged 11, lived in a violent, abusive, neglectful household as a child. Was badly beaten by my father as were my mother and sister. My young brother took his own life. I was visiting my 16 year old nephew as he died of cancer. His mother collapsed in the hospital ward. My husband has cancer. Self pity? Well maybe. Or mental overload.

I'm glad you and your daughter have coped so well.

MissAdventure Thu 14-May-26 15:22:03

It doesn't really help, hearing how other people just get on with it.
While I've every respect for them, especially a teen going through it, i find it really upsetting every time i pass by a mirror (because i don't actively look at myself anymore)

Allira Thu 14-May-26 16:11:35

I find it hard to be over sympathetic to posts like this.

Unkind and uncalled for.
Just avoid the thread.

MayBee70 Thu 14-May-26 16:17:40

Allira

^I find it hard to be over sympathetic to posts like this.^

Unkind and uncalled for.
Just avoid the thread.

I second that.

crazyH Thu 14-May-26 16:39:32

keepingquiet - that’s not very nice.
A woman’s hair is her crowning glory . When I was going through my divorce, I developed alopaecia areata (bald patches). I bought all sorts of sprays which are supposed to cover the bald patches. It was a good camouflage and worked
Fortunately my hair grew back . Now that I am greying, I use a hair colour. Maybe, I am too vain.
I wish I could have been like your daughter. She is a strong person and I am genuinely pleased that she has done so well.

keepingquiet Thu 14-May-26 23:09:51

Yes, I think everyone should be like my daughter- I cannot claim any part in what she has made of her life.

She has never felt sorry for herself and didn't really have much choice in being a 'strong' person whatever that means.

She is frequently subject to people staring and making comments about how she looks.

As for crowning glory- you haven't seen my thin wispy hair!

For all those who find my comments rude etc well maybe they are but I don't judge people on their looks which is also very rude in my book.

Kate1949 Thu 14-May-26 23:21:28

With respect, we all deal with things differently. Like you, I would never judge people on their looks. Who can help what they look like? If I see women with hair loss seemingly getting on with their lives, I think 'good on you'. That's not me however. I couldn't give a monkeys about what people think about how I look. This is about the effect it's had on me and how it's made me feel. I admire your daughter but we're all different.

MayBee70 Thu 14-May-26 23:31:29

Just because some of us don’t deal with our hair loss well it doesn’t mean that we don’t deal with other things well or even better than some people.

fancyflowers Fri 15-May-26 09:04:13

My hair is very thin now. I have tried various shampoos and treatments but with no discernable improvement.

I have three wigs but I very rarely wear them. I do sometimes use hair fibres though, to cover the bald patches, and they work very well.

Sympathy to all who are losing their hair, it can be very upsetting.

keepingquiet Fri 15-May-26 09:46:31

Kate1949

With respect, we all deal with things differently. Like you, I would never judge people on their looks. Who can help what they look like? If I see women with hair loss seemingly getting on with their lives, I think 'good on you'. That's not me however. I couldn't give a monkeys about what people think about how I look. This is about the effect it's had on me and how it's made me feel. I admire your daughter but we're all different.

I'm sorry I invaded your post. Clearly this is a very sensitive issue for me too, but I always feel I should try to big up my DD when these opportunities arise.

I am sorry that you feel so affected by this and hope you can resolve it soon.

Kate1949 Fri 15-May-26 10:31:20

Your daughter has done wonderfully well. I admire her because it's tough. For someone so young, it's doubly hard.

Allira Fri 15-May-26 10:40:21

keepingquiet

Yes, I think everyone should be like my daughter- I cannot claim any part in what she has made of her life.

She has never felt sorry for herself and didn't really have much choice in being a 'strong' person whatever that means.

She is frequently subject to people staring and making comments about how she looks.

As for crowning glory- you haven't seen my thin wispy hair!

For all those who find my comments rude etc well maybe they are but I don't judge people on their looks which is also very rude in my book.

You have turned what posters are saying completely on its head.

No-one is judging except you who says that everyone should be like your daughter.
I am pleased for her, she must be a strong woman and that is good but not everyone is as strong as her so some compassion for those who are not would not come amiss.

eddiecat78 Fri 15-May-26 10:54:56

Kate1949 I think you don't realise how remarkable you are. You had a rubbish childhood and have faced difficulties since. Unsurprisingly you are distressed about your hair, and presumably your teeth - both of which you must be reminded of throughout the day. Despite this you are still battling on and you have managed to put your problems aside to become a loved and valued wife and mum.
I'm sure I'm not alone in admiring you

Kate1949 Fri 15-May-26 11:00:25

Gosh eddiecat what a thoughtful post. Thank you. Yes every day as you say but I know many are going through worse.

MayBee70 Fri 15-May-26 13:34:03

eddiecat78

Kate1949 I think you don't realise how remarkable you are. You had a rubbish childhood and have faced difficulties since. Unsurprisingly you are distressed about your hair, and presumably your teeth - both of which you must be reminded of throughout the day. Despite this you are still battling on and you have managed to put your problems aside to become a loved and valued wife and mum.
I'm sure I'm not alone in admiring you

Seconded!

Allira Fri 15-May-26 13:35:07

Thirded!

Kate1949 Fri 15-May-26 13:52:21

Goodness me 😢

icanhandthemback Fri 15-May-26 14:45:26

Fourthed! ♥️

MissAdventure Fri 15-May-26 15:01:47

Fifthed.

Kate1949 Fri 15-May-26 15:04:04

Thank you all so much. No more please. You've all gone through your own horrible times. Mine really aren't any worse. I must stop whining.

MissAdventure Fri 15-May-26 15:14:08

Ok, well...
I've been looking messy bun type scrunchies.
At least it might look as if ive got more than "2 strands and a nit" as my mum called it.
The sides and front are the most baldy bits, though.

If its any consolation, I've been looking at youtube t hairloss videos, and there are so, so many women who have hairloss.

Kate1949 Fri 15-May-26 15:34:23

Yes MissA. When I first went to my hair replacement clinic, 17 years ago there were hardly any women. They only had mens magazines in the rooms. Now there are quite a lot of women clients. Stress of life I assume.