Thank you GrannyGravy, I want them to know as I do the difference between Catherine and the illness , i seperated them , if one day her children can do this they will then know her not the illness which blighted her life and theirs. It is so important for children to know they were so loved by their mother , the mother child bond is so strong isn’t it. My maternal grandmother died giving birth to my Mother, I was told when my mother was in labour with me she called for her mother. Surely this shows just how strong the bond is ?