DH wanting to book another holiday

could he go away with a friend?

My DH was the holiday planner and I have lots of great memories which I wouldn’t have had it been left to me. He once pointed out that I was the only person he knew who got more cheerful as the holiday went on and going home got closet so you are not alone. Now he is not here I don’t go anywhere, which is really sad.

Normally you are fine to drive and fly 24 hours after a cataract operation so perhaps it's more about your mobility and desire to go on holiday. Why not try to find a compromise that you will both enjoy? My OH has become a lot less adventurous whereas I want to do more travelling as I have time. tbh I do get rather irritated as his idea of a nice holiday is not really where I want to go. Would he go on a holiday for solo travellers? We don't always have to do things as a pair.

I think you are being sensible in not wanting to book anything until after he has heard about his cataract op, then maybe a shortish break somewhere in between the op and your big June holiday.

What would be the point in having a holiday arranged, then finding he needs to go into hospital then?

I’m with you all the way.

Could you persuade him to join some clubs eg Probus, U3A, where he could get involved as one of the organisers? They also have trips away with interest groups.

It sounds as if he has a lot of surplus energy which needs channelling into a positive direction.
DH was like a spare part when he first retired then I suggested he joined local groups, which he did with enthusiasm.

I'm not keen on going on holiday since Covid. Yet more friends have returned from a cruise with Covid. ☹

If your DH's cataract operation goes ahead in January he should be ok to drive by the end of February but if you don't want to go put your foot down.

Holidays are great but they're rather like taking vitamins when what we need is a good diet every day!

Does he have nothing but holidays to look forward to? That’s very sad.

How I wish I could swap with you . After getting covid on holiday almost 2 years ago DH is not keen to go near an airport again. We used to head for the sun twice a year and go to Italy and Austria as well some years. How I miss the break and the lovely weather. I have just nobody else I want to go away with so I am stuck . I cannot blame my DH as he has had long lasting effects from his illness but at my age time is running out . I would love to know what the expensive holiday is Stansgran that you are going to in the summer.
As a PS when my brother died his widow told me that she wished she had agreed to go on more holidays that he would have liked to go on.

Perhaps book a taxi, or a car service to the airport?

We've booked a car service, cheaper than parking long term.

I think he should wait until he can drive again after his op if you don’t enjoy driving.
Must say I’d love a holiday but I don’t have your mobility probs. Be honest and tell him how you feel, he can’t have holidays all the time if you don’t want that or worry about it.
Good luck.

If the cateract is done in January he ll be well over it to drive himself by June but that’s not the point you both have different wants and expectations so it ll have to be a compromise on both sides
Maybe a short uk holiday what’s wrong with that ?

What a good idea Septimia
Yes, you choose somewhere you will enjoy and which will be easy for you.

I'm sure you will find something that's worth the effort.

If your DH wants you to want the holiday, maybe you could sometimes find something you would like to do and ask him to book that. You could then perhaps pick something that's easier for you physically.

Is a taxi to/from the airport an option so you wouldn't have to worry about driving ?

Could he plan some short breaks away alone, it can be difficult when two people want to live in different ways.