It's reassuring that if we remember we've forgotten, our memories are probably ok. Phew, is all I can say. We have some friends of our daughters here. They set up as gardeners after their gap (several) years of travelling, working abroad and honestly, having a lot more fun than I did at their age.
Anyway, I digress again. They are raising the border at the bottom of our garden. I won't mention the neighbour's leylandi taking all the light there because that would be whinging. I asked them if they could removed "the remains of that tree/shrub, in that corner there. It's a thing that flowers in spring, not a fuchsia, it's a yellow thing…… " He looked as puzzled as I felt, ah yes, he said, I know what you mean, it's a …….. Later, when walking the dogs, it lept into what is left of my brain - it's a forsythia, of course it is.
I'm so relieved that this thread seems to have brightened up again. Phoenix, I can be very dim and have had some challenging health stuff recently so that may be the reason I missed out on what had upset you. Please don't leave us - I loved the title you gave this thread. We will need all the help we can give each other as the trial is now almost upon us. Henry needs our combined grannyness to help him through. His mother may be irritating some of her followers but come on - she isn't as bad as Rob!