Elizabeth is Missing

Too close to home for me at the moment, but think this kind of drama can be very useful in raising awareness.

It’s very comforting to have that choice Jura, but I’m not sure at what point you’d decide life was no longer worth living.

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It was very very good. It makes me feel better than dementia is being aired and treated so sympathetically and wisely.

I live in Switzerland- so it would me my choice- with experienced help and support. A choice to me made far too quickly, when still sufficiently compos mentis. Made clear to GP, family and made advanced will to that effect. Same for OH- all agreed.

I think the absolute most upsetting thing with my mother in law, was when she was aware of what was happening, but powerless to stop it. Same with Maud, very frightening.

I wondered that too jura

Someone dear to me has just been diagnosed.
She doesn't remember what is wrong with her and is very happy. We know this could change but when?

Another friend was diagnosed several years ago and has spent many happy years with family who are so pleased to have this precious time with him.

May I ask how you intend not being around for dementia to set in Jura? Are you expecting your husband to murder you what if he goes first are you expecting to commit suicide we don’t always know we are being awkward or out of control to be able to do that There just isn’t a way we can guarantee an exit
I nursed my Nan for three years and once (it’s etched in my mind) just once in the three years she seemed to have a few minutes of her old self and said ‘I don’t mean to be like this’ we had a hug and a kiss and I said it’s ok but that was it back to screaming at me when I tried to wash her or take her to the toilet

Yes, agreed. But she was desperately aware that she was not 'right' - and she put her daughter and grandaughter through so much torment and pain. Something I never want to do.

We have discussed it as a family, with OH and daughters. I'll make sure I don't. OH agrees and same with him.

It was moving, and sad, but to me it told another story as well, one that suggests that everything may not be lost with dementia.

Maud was still a person despite the dementia, an individual, and not stupid. In her periods of lucidity, she actually achieved something useful.

My older brother went through 3 years of trying to care for hiws wife with Alzheimers- finally going into Care home, begging to return, then another crisis and another care home, then begged to return on a good day. She turned very violent and he was told she must stay in care home. Died quickly a few months later. So so hard- for him, and her daughter and grandchildren. Got another niece going through same thing with her mum- and several friends and neighbours too...

Honestly- I never ever want my OH or children to have to go through this, never. I'll make sure they don't.

Saw the program last night. What an excellent actress Glenda is, and also the others in the film. My husband had Alzheimers. He could be difficult to manage at times, poor man. RIP.

Apparently she is 83.

There aren’t many powerful roles for folk that age which is a shame as they have so much to give.

How old is Glenda now?

On the back burner until I feel up to watching it.

But agree it is a must see.

We didn’t feel quite up to watching this programme but will do so, when the time is right. I agree what a great actor.

A few year ago, I was in Westminster Undergound Station, on my way to Parliament for a work thing. I stopped at the newsagent to buy a paper. A woman in a beautiful red coat, held the shop door open for me and said a smiling ‘Good Morning’. I smiled, wished her ‘Good Morning’ and ‘thank you’. As she walked away, I realised is was Glenda Jackson (then MP).

Reading all the comments, I might give it a try. Glenda Jackson was/is a great actor

We watched this and Glenda Jackson was mesmerising as Maud. It was very close to home for DH and I at the moment though. I thought the production was faithful to Emma Healey’s book, which is all the more remarkable for being her debut novel.

I wasn't going to warch this , I am not in a good place for sadness , but I am glad did .

I agree with everyone else, a brilliant and moving performance by Glenda Jackson. I thought the impact of Dementia on the rest of the family was well portrayed too Sara65

Wow! So glad I watched that. Excellent all round and what an actress Glenda Jackson still is.

Heartbreaking, I was crying by the end, felt so sorry for the daughter and granddaughter as well.

I told my husband it wasn’t his sort of thing, because it was so much like his poor mum ended up, I thought he’d find it too depressing.

Glenda Jackson was magnificent, and the adaptation was done extremely well.

It was awful how poor Maud was stuck between the present and the past. When she realised her friend was missing and no one told her where she was was so sad.] If that happened to me or my best friend of nearly 40 years i would be devestated and so would she. I thought the acting was brilliant on all parts but of course GJ topped them all, such a powerful role for her to play. Another success for the BBC and an brilliant example of how you don't need special effects and lots of red herrings. Think recent War of the Worlds.......just a good story line and fantastically skilled actors or actresses.

Fantastic I thought it was going to be a series so was surprised it was a one off but I think that was right Glenda outdid herself fantastic to be able to be so powerful at 83
Parts took me back to my mum. When she was so angry feeling out of control and I spent so long trying to be patient and understanding but every now and then it would overtake me and I d snap at her then hate myself for weeks afterwards
Very very good, enjoy isn’t the right word, but I was in there with her and an actress can’t ask more than that

Glenda Jackson, class act, excellent film, hope it wins some awards.