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Eastenders and sad Lola

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Fleurpepper Thu 18-May-23 17:42:58

Very moving, and well acted, and hard to watch. But it is good to look at terminal illness in the eye, so to speak. But so hard in this case as a young mother with a young daughter.

Edith 54- do you have a good hospice near you you could visit and discuss your future?

There is of course another option, which is the one I am fighting for people to have in the UK- but it is certainly not for everyone.

Wish you will find the right support. hugs

Aveline Thu 18-May-23 14:22:52

A friend whose husband is terminally ill once confided how lonely she was. She has to be bright and cheerful and generally keep everything going and all the attention and support is going into her DH. My friend said that people phoned or called to ask after him all the time but if he was in hospital nobody called at home. She's absolutely not an attention seeker and has done a wonderful job. I just wanted to put a word in to remind people how the families might be feeling.

paddyann54 Thu 18-May-23 09:35:51

We have 2 friends with terminal cancer and the way they are coping amazes me .My OH walks wth one of them 3 times a week for sometimes 4 hours ,he still volunteers in a soup kitchen goes to music gigs had a week in France last month and is currently in Portugal with his kids .He was told he had @ a year ....18 months ago .What a guy ,he will be sadly missed .
The other cant do those things his treatment means he has to be close to his hospital but he's upbeat ,wont talk about it ,says it comes to us all .Thats hard on his wife though who depends on friends for a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on .
It does make me think how lucky my husband and I are with our health his heart problem was treated quicly and his life went on as before although he takes 6 pills a day .

Aveline Thu 18-May-23 08:14:46

It's a very sad storyline but worth including. Sadly, death is part of life. Death in one so young is really tragic.

fancythat Thu 18-May-23 07:24:30

I have not watched much of that.

I had a friend's mum die of a terminal illness in middle age.
She was given two years to live, she lived for three.

She died with dignity.
She died keeping everyone informed[though we knew how her illness would progress anyway to a certain degree].
She had her bed put downstairs so she could still be part of everyones' lives. She wasnt hidden from view.

But that was her anyway. She was quite a public person. Socialable.
Everyone is different.

Are you ok op?

Edith54 Thu 18-May-23 04:55:43

I am following the Lola story and find it upsetting. I can see where it is going.

My question is, how do you have a good death and not upset your nearest and dearest, particularly grandchildren, with the way a terminal illness is progressing?

Sorry if this offends anyone. I don't want my family to have to watch me in that state.